How do you approach things when it's obvious family think you have enough kids?

[motherofboys]

Hotdogsz&boyz, excellent point. I don't know how many other people will agree but my MIL is the least maternal woman I know. She much prefers, to have no one around her really. But if she must have company then adults are better.


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[Adia]

Hotdogsz&boyz, excellent point. I don't know how many other people will agree but my MIL is the least maternal woman I know. She much prefers, to have no one around her really. But if she must have company then adults are better.

That is an excellent point. The side of my family, my Dad's side, are the most critical of anyone having more than 2 kids are not "kid people" at all. They want the kids so they will grow up and become adults, but really can't stand kids...which boggles my mind because we were all kids once!

DH and I are kid people so we'll have as many kids as we please. When I someday have a 4th baby I will probably wait until the very latest moment to tell them. Like Atomic says, they do many things I don't like so if they don't like me having a 4th kids, they can just get over it!

[SamS_TTCPink]

It is a good point, neither my family or DHs are "maternal" types at all, especially my DH parents!

My parents who only like our eldest (who they didn't want us to have and I was called a slut for having as we were only 18) & tried numerous times to take him off us, including lying to children's services and his school etc!! Yeah, it's been fun!!... don't like the others and couldn't care about the impact their actions have on them at all. And they just have no patience or time for any of them.

And then my MIL doesn't like any of the kids at all and my FIL can only stand the little ones and only for a short time. We see them once a year for a 1-2 week period and that drives them crazy. They hate me too though as I "trapped" their son with our kids. They would probably like other kids if he left me and had some with someone else. 😕

I've always been a "kid person", probably more than DH who would have been happy with 2-3 kids, but I have no idea where I get it from, defiantly not my parents!!

They never even really liked me! They always complain to everyone what a horrible child I was and person I am. It must have been so hard for them raising a straight A student who wasn't even allowed out to the shops or movies with friends who occasionally answered back and who tried to skip school once in year 10! 😜

[motherofboys]

MumofSix you sound as bad as I was, imagine what we must have put our poor parents through. I think I should have had some fun while I was young and acted like a proper teenager. I was also pregnant at 18 but by that point my mum had disowned me because I'd told the truth about what a fantastic guy her bloke was (let the sarcasm in that last part be laid on so thick that it's dripping) it took 5 years (by which point I had 2 babies) before we even made contact again.


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[SamS_TTCPink]

I know...I wish I had been more of a "teenager" too and given them something to complain about cause they do anyway!!! And as Canberra is so small they tell EVERYONE including my hairdresser, my boss, dr!! 😠 I want to move away soooo badly but we're under a bloody "contract" with them and our eldest to stay until our eldest finishes school or they'll take him and take me to court saying in a bad mother (just so they get legal custody of our eldest!). The only leg they have to stand on is their and my sons false complaints and children's services, but I just don't need the crap or our kids to be dragged through all that! At the end of 2016 we are outta here! Nathan will be 18 then too so he can make his own decisions on what he does. Don't you just love families!!! 😁


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[motherofboys]

Can't believe they'd do that to you, especially having been so against you having him!


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