Using OPK after loss

[sugarNspice]

5 is so nice and low! What a good sign--that all is going as it should, and that your body will be ready to try again very soon.

[SamS_TTCPink]

Hopefully sugarNspice! 😊

I know it sounds crazy but I am so sure I'm ovulating or about to! I only just stopped bleeding but I've got pains today like o pain and had EWCM this arvo. Still haven't had a chance to get a HPT but opk is negative??!?

It would probably be stupid to TTC anyway but both DH and I are just so impatient now. I'm also having a "down day" and threw a tanty about how this is so stupid that it's so hard!!

Getting just one girl out of all our kids just seems like it should be so easy, even with a 50-50 chance you'd seriously think one girl out of 6+ kids would just go without saying, especially when 'everyone else' can have 2-3 kids and get both genders without even trying! But no, I have to try to sway and then even if I get PG I'm still not "guaranteed" a daughter and now I've had to go through this loss and it's effects too! It just doesn't seem fair that this has to be so hard for all of us on here!! 😠

Oh, and the dr today asked how many kids I have again, I said six and he looked at me like I was mad! He then said, have you got a new husband and is that why you want another baby and I said no, I've been with my DH since we were kids so he goes "well why do you want another kid?" So I had to justify myself to this dr who then said "well it's not advisable!" All solely based on the fact that I've got six kids and now had a loss and that I'm "old" (I'm 34!!).

I felt like asking if he had any kids and what genders and then lecture him about gender desire!!!

Ugh!!!

(Ok, sorry. Tantrum over!) 😜

[maidentomother]

It's not his place to judge your family! Just do your job (be nice & help your patients achieve THEIR goals not yours), man!

[sugarNspice]

If you *really* want to TTC, and think it will genuinely help you to feel better (and your DH is on board) then perhaps you should DTD.

But: the ONLY time I TTC'd with my first ovulation after a m/c, I did get pregnant, and I had a chemical. After another m/c my RE did hysteroscopy (this is where they insert a tiny camera up through the cervix and look at the lining of your uterus--if you've ever wanted to know what the place where your babies grow looks like from the inside, it's the coolest thing ever) during the LP after my first ovulation, and my lining was very thin, almost certainly not healthy enough to sustain a pregnancy. And as Atomic said, if your cervix is still open, and if you are still bleeding, there is possibly some risk of infection. So I personally don't TTC right after a loss anymore--it feels to me like there are more cons than pros.

But: many women--on here and elsewhere--can get pregnant with their very first ovulation, and do go on to have healthy rainbows nine months later. Most likely if your body is not ready, you will not get pregnant, or in the worst case scenario, have a chemical. You've got to do what feels best for you--motionally and physically.

I think it's completely unprofessional of that dr to say what he said--it's his job to help you conceive and carry your babies, not to tell you how many to have, or when to have them. Anything else is none of his business. And 34 is *not* old! It's not even officially "Advanced Maternal Age" yet!

Losses suck. They're horrible emotionally, and they're not pleasant to go through physically, either. But having one *does not* mean that you will be unable to have a healthy baby next time, nor does it mean that you are too old to have another. Sadly, they're common and normal.

So sorry that you weren't seen by a medical professional who was able to act professionally.

[Longing.for.a.daughter]

We had a month off after my m/c in feb, and when we did try again I used the maybebaby ovulation predictor. I find it much easier than OPk wee strips. Crossing fingers for you this month x