Preparing myself for the verdict

[Dana-Alicia]

There are quite a few women on this site who come from all girl families and that is often what gives them such strong GD - because they really enjoyed it so much and wanted to have that type of family too!!

True! I have 3 sisters and we had the best childhood! My sisters are my best friends. My mom never experienced gd though, my dad did somewhat I guess and he now has 3 grandsons that he is sooo happy and proud of. I hope you hear boy and if not, I wish you loads of (grand)sons in the future!

[nuthinbutpink]

First, I know I have no right to say what I am about to say but I will say it anyway.

4 girls does not make you a living joke. If it did, what does that make your daughters? Are their lives jokes too? Because of their gender? Certainly not!

I'm sure in certain parts of the world, boys are still the desired gender but look around- girls can be ANYTHING and do ANYTHING! This is 2014. There is no shame in an all girl family and even if you do get a boy this time, the comments will not stop. I am the 3 girls, 1 boy family. The comments are still there BUT, the older my kids get and the more of a life they establish for themselves, I am so, so proud of my family. I think it's hard for all of us when our children are so little. Little kids don't do much....they haven't become anything yet. We focus so much on the right now, we fail to see what lies ahead. Your girls can be strong, able women- where is the shame in that?? My girls are finding their way right now and they are awesome to watch them go. I, too, used to worry about what other people think and the comments they made but now I see that they can kick ass and take names and I am so proud of them, regardless of my son. I'm grateful he is here but it doesn't make the comments stop. It does help me care less about what anyone else thinks and I so wish I could have done that before and not missed out on some of the early years when I was mentally absent.

You and your husband are not a joke. You could be raising the next great scientist, painter, dancer, engineer, footballer, pianist, CEO, doctor...fill in the blank. Your family is your family and boy, girl, once you see what they can become, you may be simply amazed one day.

[jmomof3girls]

First, I know I have no right to say what I am about to say but I will say it anyway.

4 girls does not make you a living joke. If it did, what does that make your daughters? Are their lives jokes too? Because of their gender? Certainly not!

I'm sure in certain parts of the world, boys are still the desired gender but look around- girls can be ANYTHING and do ANYTHING! This is 2014. There is no shame in an all girl family and even if you do get a boy this time, the comments will not stop. I am the 3 girls, 1 boy family. The comments are still there BUT, the older my kids get and the more of a life they establish for themselves, I am so, so proud of my family. I think it's hard for all of us when our children are so little. Little kids don't do much....they haven't become anything yet. We focus so much on the right now, we fail to see what lies ahead. Your girls can be strong, able women- where is the shame in that?? My girls are finding their way right now and they are awesome to watch them go. I, too, used to worry about what other people think and the comments they made but now I see that they can kick ass and take names and I am so proud of them, regardless of my son. I'm grateful he is here but it doesn't make the comments stop. It does help me care less about what anyone else thinks and I so wish I could have done that before and not missed out on some of the early years when I was mentally absent.

You and your husband are not a joke. You could be raising the next great scientist, painter, dancer, engineer, footballer, pianist, CEO, doctor...fill in the blank. Your family is your family and boy, girl, once you see what they can become, you may be simply amazed one day.

Well said!! I love this!!

[The Anchor]

Oh Zivic, I so hope you hear boy. I do know where you are coming from, and that's why we all end up on this forum, seeking out like-minded moms and looking for a shoulder to lean on every once in a while. Just wanted to send HUGE HUGS your way. I am jealous of you! I'll take #3 please, any gender!

[deaks66]

It was very well said NBP but I guess we also have to remember there are parts of the world where having multiple girls is not just amusing/rediculous/a lack of family planning (these are comments I often receive about my boys), it's really seen as inadequate. I'm not saying this because I agree with it, it's just that some people have to deal with gd on a whole other level and it might be hard to imagine a females future being bright and rosy when in some parts of the world women aren't allowed any of the opportunities that most of us ladies take for granted. I sincerely hope that this isn't the case of where you live zivic, it's just something I think of sometimes when I'm dwelling on gd xx

[deaks66]

Gosh I hope that wasn't a contentious post, certainly wasn't meant to be!

[Hopingforaprincess]

have to agree with everyone else....I'm sooooo hoping my next and last baby is a girl...I would give anything for one!

[nuthinbutpink]

Well, deaks, I still do not believe or view her family as a joke so I stand by what I wrote. And, yes, I do understand that in certain parts of the world women are not valued the same as men but I have seen great things come from women even in those parts of the world. Where there is a will, there is a way.

[atomic sagebrush]

JMO and not intending to hijack this thread, but I would also take the whole "people in certain countries only want boys" with a HUGE grain of salt because I get a surprising amount of TTC a GIRL plan requests from women in Asia and the Middle East, and also people of certain ethnic heritages living abroad. I've gotten more TTC a girl sway plan requests than I have TTC boy ones from the Asian and MIddle Eastern Nations.

Sometimes things may be slightly true and then the media and "common knowledge" stretches it all out of proportion.

[deaks66]

All fair points, I was just saying I wander if it's harder for some more than others due to cultural reasons. I stand corrected x