Typical...

[covered in blue]

Oh I feel the same at the moment. I have a lunch date with a friend who has one baby girl just a little younger than my DS3 tomorrow and she has said some really hurtful things in the past about boys. She of course ordered herself a girl and got one 9 months later. It just makes me so angry sometimes and I am dreading going but she's asked about 4 times now. As much as I love my boys they are really full on and I can't imagine adding another baby into the mix any time soon but my GD is so bad and I just don't know what to do So many friends are pregnant or have newborn girls and I just want to lock myself in a cupboard

[hotdogz&boyz]

The only ones I have a problem with are those who act as though you really can "order up" what you want.

Actually, just today, I went to my sons preschool orientation. My boys are attending together and were just adorable, holding hands, walking around together. Big brother "showing" little brother what things he could do and the different stations. I was marveling in their neat relationship and talking to another mom whose family has their two boys (same age as mine) in the class together too.

And then...we are in the meeting room and I am sitting with a friend (who has two boys) and her mother. The mother turns to the couple behind her and is commenting on their little boy (too young to attend, maybe a year). She asks "And is his big brother or big sister going to this school?" The mom says "His big sister." And the grandmother says "oh! You got the million dollar family! I had a two million dollar one, two of each. You just have to ask for what you want, right?" And I was standing there thinking 'Iz this $&@:! for real?!" Lol.

I admit, I am lucky, I am surrounded by mostly single gender families, many of whom are single-gender to the boy side. I am one of the few who has a daughter. The one who has a pigeon pair actually preferred two girls instead. So, it's nice to have lots of folks who understand the utter ridiculousness of gender comments and how hurtful it can be to assume its okay to say rude stuff. But, I'm not even immune. I might have my girl, and yes, I adore her. And I'd like another. But am probably expecting boy #3. I'm good with it, but I'll admit, the stupid comments about being a boy maker or how "busy" I'll be if I have another boy are just darn annoying.

[Bee]

I'm sorry . I had something similar happen with DS3 and it really hurt. He was a surprise addition and we thought maybe this was God's way of giving us a daughter. DH had not been okay with trying for a third because he really wanted a girl, and of course no guarantees. After we announced, there were 7 other women at our church expecting within a few months of me. All girls. Every single one (one even had her third girl and she was like a pig in mud, and I was so upset I couldn't feel the same way). And I had DS3. Love him to bits, but it didn't take away the sting. I even stopped going to church because I couldn't handle seeing all these girls and I'd started to wonder why I didn't deserve a daughter.

[1+2+3boys]

Sorry to hear this, it is hard and even more so when life is harder than usual.
I have a very small Facebook group of 7 ladies. A spin off from a due date group of my favourites and we share the most hilariously innapropriate and intimate things and it is wonderful. I have met two ladies IRL and one lives close. 4 were pregnant with their second due withn months of each other and three went on to get their PP and two of them actually wanted another of the same! The last born was a surprise so a shock too and the one who got her second boy confessed her sadness over no daughter to me privately and at the birth tore her uterus so she might not be able to have any more and she did want 3 even before finding out about DS2. I'm happy for them all but the fact that half the group got that second gender so easily and in my place of online sanctuary and seeing all these toddler and baby PP photos is making me feel very inadaqute and I have almost stopped logging on. I had to have 5 weeks off FB just because of it. One lady in the main group just had team green girl number three and I was very pissed to see someone comment saying "oh no, looks like you have to try again" under this photo of her new gorgeous baby girl.

I wouldn't change things now but if I knew I'd be having twins then I would have swayed instead of waiting until number three to try it. The rest can have another and not care or stop and not have to worry about one of the parents compromising getting their same sex child and I have to go to bloody Europe and spend $1000s to try for my girl and it might not even work. It seems so unfair.

Also there is the lady who I am closest to and she has 4 boys and very much hoped that she would only have boys and she was lucky 4 times around! She said if she could have more and she would love to if she could then she would hope for another boy.

[Linzshine32]

Out of all of my friends that have kids, I'm the only one with a boy only. (only one has a PP) - the rest are all girls and they all make comments about dresses and princesses and girl shows etc and I just sit there, annoyed. I know what it's like. I hope ALL of our future sways work out so we don't experience GD!

[odd]

Linzshine... Ditto here. We moved not too long but where we lived, Every single friend had a daughter and conmbted on the fact that how much im missing out .. And if they went on to have 2nd, they'd wish for another girl..It used to piss me off to no end..

When I shared my news of pregnancy, they all told me I would no doubt have a boy coz boys run in our family ..and when I broke the news of having a girl ..they all changed their tunes

[3girlsnwaiting]

I have girls but I so want to be blessed with a boy. I think little boys are marvelous. Ironically most of my friends have all boys and no girls. Two of them had boys within the last several months and had gender disappointment. I really felt for them. The one woman felt God was punishing her because she knew other people who were pregnant at the same time and got girls. It was hard for me because here they were blessed with boys and I was struggling to get pregnant. I love my children being blessed to grow up around Christian boys who I love the parents. They will have their choice for husbands and have already claimed 2 boys. I tease my friends saying that I stole all their blue dust I just try to hold onto that whatever gender is growing inside of me God has big plans for

[Mrs.tinkerbell]

I just wanted to add I am one of the ones that did get a pp and I actually get quite upset when my friends who have all boys always feel they have to say how pleased and over the moon they are to have 'there boys' how girls are madams hard work and it's better having the same sex as they play together I feel really left out and as if there all talking about me! ! I never act this way and certainly don't pitty people with boys. I did really want a boy and girl and we could only have two so feel very blessed but I don't think it's just mums of girls or pp that's say hurtful things. i can understand how you feel as before I knew what I was having I dreaded all the comments I may get. just wanted to point out I think everyone can be guilty of this. X

[Nahri]

I totally called what a friend was going to be having based on her diet. They of course wanted the PP and did not end up getting it. I was told they would most likely get what they wanted because thats what happens to GOOD people? REALLY? DID YOU JUST SAY THAT?! Comes with the territory and wanting a certain gender. We get jealous we get easily hurt and its no ones business!

[ejk741]

I have always wanted a son... So I was always blind to all of the boy bashing before I had my twins. I have had someone tell me they were so sorry for me. Anther person told me how crazy my life is going to be with twin boys. On the same note when I had my daughter people kept telling me how hard it will be when she is 13. People just always have something to say. It is as if they need to put down your family make-up to make themselves feel better.