Is my sway rubbish?

[WISHING4AGIRL]

Can anyone help on my last Q's? Thanks

[atomic sagebrush]

It takes me more than 1 day to get back to people normally *except custom swayers* so please don't expect a quick response from me. I do my best to stay up to date on all q's but please give it 3-4 days. Honestly I am not really seeing any questions. I have already told you I can't tell you what to give your husband because I don't know anything about his medical history, etc. You have to decide these things, I can't do it for you.

Just because it has historically taken 4-5 months doesn't mean it will this time. You only have 2 kids, that is not a trend. there are no trends when it comes to TTC because your cycle can and does change dramatically. It is like saying because WW 1 and WW 2 both lasted 4-5 years that all wars in the future will also last 4-5 years (sorry I know that is a terrible analogy and not even historically accurate but my point stands) Tons of factors affect how long wars last and also how your cycle goes and they are different every time.

I promise that anyone can get pg with one attempt. It is absolutely a huge step in the wrong direction to add attempts based on an incorrect belief that you can't get pregnant with one attempt.

[WISHING4AGIRL]

Okay, sorry. Thank you for your time.

[maidentomother]

If you don't lose a lot of weight, I wouldn't worry about losing O. And as I said, you can certainly do the diet without losing weight - many do, and still get girls. The worst outcome I can see from doing the diet is O being delayed by a few days to a week. That happens a fair bit with pink swayers, though not all.

It's also possible to lose a lot of weight and still keep O. My BMI has fluctuated between 14-19 BMI and I've never lost O, bc I have a healthy percentage of body fat that's high for my build. Even with extreme caloric restriction and/or 2-3 hours of exercise daily including lomg distance running, I kept O. My body fat never drops below 16%. So really, how sensitive you are to losing O depends more on your body's makeup than simple weight loss.

5 of the 6 times I've conceived I was trying to avoid pregnancy and just one attempt in my fertile period (if not days before) was how I conceived. As long as the attempt is at least a day in advance of O, you can easily conceive from just one attempt.

[WISHING4AGIRL]

Thank you both for your time. It's all just stressing me out a bit & I'm not very good at making decisions. I'm struggling at the moment, at the concept of never having a daughter, and I'm trying to get my sway together for New Year. Thank you for your advice.

[atomic sagebrush]

OK when you have a hard time making decisions, then flip a coin or put options in a bag and pull them out. I'm not kidding about this, I really mean it. None of these things are in any way magic bullets, most of them we don't even know what is best anyway (keep the one attempt though!)

Sittting around stressing, obsessing, debating, pros and cons of things that probably don't even matter much anyway, does way more to sway blue than these minute differences ever could.

[WISHING4AGIRL]

You're right, all this stress isn't going to do any good. I need to stop researching now, and stick to what I have decided on.

Thank you