Mom of 6 boys at her gender reveal party

[XXforhubby]

Well I thought her reaction was priceless! I do agree though about people verbally expressing boys are handfuls or asking if we are trying for a girl next. The one that gets me is you're husband must be happy! I usually say, actually I am! I always wanted boys! I love their energy and trust me, in a few years I'll have plenty of girls in my life! That shuts them up. It's completely true. I have always wanted boys. I just feel badly for my DH who has always wanted a DD. He loves our boys to pieces, but I think sometimes how it would be if the shoe was on the other foot- it stings. So I swayed my damned hardest for DH- so hard I ended up changing my personality from being on a version of the LE diet for 12 months and the cardio. My God the cardio. I'm a weight girl and view cardio as a means to an end. But I did it. I did everything that mattered- for him. The thought of me never having a DS, well you get it- I gave it my all for DH.


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[sc1411]

I also cried seeing her reaction. Her dream came true, I'm so happy for her! I really don't think she "offended" boys with her reaction. Everyone who has a kid knows that you love them more than anything regardless of the gender.

XX, totally understand you about people commenting Why the lady at the restaurant whom I see for the first time has to emphasize, "Oh, I bet you will try for a boy next time." Even if I will it is not her business. Or even if I will ever get my boy it is still not her business!

[Rosie85]

I dont think there is anything to read into. Her reaction is normal because it is a change after 6 boys. She likely assumed it was another boy...she wouldn't get pregnant not being okay with that. She had a normal human reaction and i don't see anything wrong with it. Would it be better if she were stoic about it??

[motherofboys]

People with kids know you love your kids no matter what, but I remember being a kid a feeling like one of my brothers was the favourite, and I was bottom of the pile because I was just a girl, who would never be as good as a boy. So I know that to show a child any kind of preference over gender can make them feel like they wasn't wanted because they were the wrong gender. I don't think a reveal in front of everyone is a good idea because then you don't have to worry about your reaction at all. I don't think it would be better to be unresponsive but it all looked over dramatised. Staggering backwards and falling over and everything.
Like I say that's just the place I'm in at the moment, I'm struggling with it all, and I'm bitter about the fact that child abusers get daughters but I don't. I would never ever let on to anyone outside of the forums that I wanted a girl, especially not enough to sway, because I've had my boys devalued enough by other people and people already assume that any more than 2 boys you've just kept going to get a girl, and that your boys are disappointments and second prize. So why would I tell someone that I did want a girl and (in their mind) confirm that for them?
Everyone's entitled to their own opinion on it, and I can't control how I feel on the matter. I didn't chose to feel this way, and I'd love to see it as black and white as yay she got her girl. But I know people who have had girls after a few boys and all they do is sl*g their boys off and rant on Facebook about how they are "such little sh*ts" and how their daughter is their "perfect princess" who they "could never ever tell off even when she's naughty because she's my little girl".


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[fiveboys]

I think I would have fainted lol... and then cried with joy...all my kids know theyr priceless and they would be just as happy with having a sister. ..fx for all of us xxx

[Rosie85]

Im def not revealing in front of anyone but my doc and husband when it pops out. I will cry no matter what but they will look like tears of joy if its another boy. I quite dislike all of this gender reveal hulabaloo myself but i just thought her reaction was normal. If she is smart she will have another kid to show everyone she wasnt just going til she got a girl.

[True Blue]

Having a girl last was my plan 4 babies ago had I managed to have a boy

I can't bear that people will say that we kept trying for a boy, and they will.

[motherofboys]

Maybe it's just because I'm not that type of person. I didn't cry when I got married, I was actually embarrassed that dh did. I didn't cry when any of my boys were born. I don't do big reactions, and I always think people who do are playing on it. I'm far too sceptical, I mean I think 1st, 2nd and even 3rd babies I can understand a gender reveal, but 7th baby, after 6 of the same. If you truly thought it would be another boy there wouldn't be a huge gender reveal to be done, you'd just find out at the scan or birth. So you must have a suspicion it's a girl to even do a gender reveal. I wasn't even going to bother finding out with number 4 because I knew he'd be a boy but found out just to prove dh wrong (again)



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[motherofboys]

I didn't see your comment true blue. I always liked the idea of starting and finishing with a boy anyway, and a girl or two in the middle. But after I had 3 boys and dh cut our limit from 6 babies to 5 I really wanted number 4 to be a girl so I could then have a boy last. Didn't work out obviously. But I reckon now that even if I'd had a girl followed by a boy people would say I was trying to get her a sister so guess you can't win anyway


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[True Blue]

That's very true!