My niece

[Kittybear]

The more I see/ hear of the word, the more I think that people are, in general, insensitive and ignorant. I try to tell myself that is a benefit of GD as I (hope) I would never hurt another mum/ parents by saying something stupid about their child/ kids that could trigger GD in them. :/ I'll just say other stupid things instead xxx

[momamia4]

Lol! That's true kittybear. I am definitely more sensitive toward people and the genders of their children.

I also realized that another reason I think my niece triggers my gd is because her parents really wanted a boy and they got a girl instead. They were actually in denial, and still are to a certain extent, that she is a girl. They decorated the nursery with a boy theme (the movie Monsters Inc) despite the fact that they knew she was a girl from early in the pregnancy. They also buy her "boy" toys, like trucks and baseball themed things rather than more girly toys like dolls. It just doesn't seem fair that they got the girl I so desperately want when they actually wanted a boy. I'm sure they are struggling with the fact that she will probably be their only child and they won't ever have the boy that they want. I try really hard to be sympathetic to them.

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[Claire33]

I understand, I also have a niece that looks like me and my DH. But somehow I just manage to "shut it out", even though she is a reminder of what I could have. Luckily I didn't have to deal with it for very long, since I found out girl not long after she was born. But still, my SIL's pregnancy was difficult because she was so smug about getting a daughter. Everyone was going on about girl, girl, girl, dresses, frills, since she is the first girl in the family. I would prefer that they would do like you describe, buy trucks and cars for their daughter instead of dresses

But it does seem unfair that they didn't get their DG and neither did you. Sometimes I wish we could just swap with someone who wants what we have and the other way around. But that just isn't the way it works unfortunately... Hence the GD beast.

Good luck with your sway! 32 is still young enough to sway and then do HT with next child, if you get pregnant relatively quickly that is, and don't get your DG through swaying of course

[momamia4]

Thanks Claire! That really helps!! I really appreciate all of the support you lovely ladies so readily supply. It's amazing!! <3

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[Dana-Alicia]

Oh hun, that was a nasty comment grandma made!! Ugh! I agree with the other ladies, some people really don't think before they open their mouths and others are just plain mean. I really hope you get your girl soon, you so deserve it.

[momamia4]

Thank you so much Dana-Alicia!!

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[Ashforblue]

How rude!! Some older people like to think they can say whatever they want!!! I think it's awesome that you have such a supportive husband!!

[momamia4]

Thanks Ash! He is pretty great, lol!

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