How did you know it was time to give up & let go

[momamia4]

dreams529, I could have written this myself! I'm having the same dilemma except my biggest issue is the huge age gap that would be between my current youngest and the next (10 years). DH and I both go back and forth with whether or not to try for another one. After my recent miscarriage, we're even more on the fence. DH can't imagine me going through another miscarriage or something going wrong with the pregnancy. He's much more nervous now about something bad happening, which is making him lean more toward not having another/trying for our DD. I'm really struggling right now with all of the PP's around me. They are everywhere! Two family friends just both announced that they're having the opposite gender child than they currently have and it's really upsetting me. I thought after all of the emotional pain with this past miscarriage, my head and heart were finally able to let go of the desire for a DD, but it appears that I was wrong. I've been trying to focus on my health (I'm really overweight) and trying to exercise more, but it isn't helping to distract me. I've been thinking a lot about it recently, as I know that 2 of my sisters are ttc and if they were to get pregnant with their desired genders, I don't know how I'd cope. I feel like that's directing me toward my answer and making me lean toward having another one/trying for our DD. I think I'm going to go HT though. DH was on board with it before the miscarriage (it was our fallback plan if our sway failed), but I'm not sure if he'd still go for it. The last time we talked, we said that we'd wait 2 years before even thinking about trying again, but I don't know if I can wait that long. If I were you, I'd get the thyroid situation figured out before trying. AFM, I'm going to keep trucking along and trying to lose as much weight as I can. Good luck!

[atomic sagebrush]

Really thank you all! This board has the BEST people! I feel better mentally. I am going to take a breath & a step back. Try to get this thyroid issue sorted out & enjoy my family this summer. Than if I still feel like another is what I really want I will go for it. I do not know why I let others get into my head so as long as my DH kids & I are happy what does the outsiders opinions matter(well unless they want to start college funds for my kids, LOL)

I hope all of you find your answers get exactly what you want also! Thank you!!!

How are you doing now?? I can't believe I never saw this the first time. ((((Hugs))))

[Hitmebabyonemoretime]

I never saw this thread either - I hope you're ok - I hope you did some soul searching and are happy.


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