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    I feel the same way. I had planned on ttc next year and hadn't started my sway yet. At least you got a sway started. There are some things this time around that were done differently than with my last two boys so I keep telling myself that I might be lucky enough to have gotten my girl out of pure luck. But I don't want to get my hopes up either. I keep obsessing about the small things that might sway boy and convincing myself that I'm just meant to have boys. I know I should be happy either way but I really wanted a third to be the little girl. Last night I had an awful thought that if this wasn't a girl then all this extra work would be for nothing. I feel so terrible for thinking that and now I'm trying to convince myself it's a boy just to not be sad if it really is.
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  2. #12
    Mandy congrats on your up and coming wedding. How did you scan go?? Any sign of a nub?

    Blue I would be the same I'm sure if I didn't find out. I feel like I need time to get used to another boy before he arrives so I'm not disappointed at the birth. I think it would affect my bonding too. With the first he was a surprise but I was secretly hoping for a girl. I took a few weeks to bond with him but I think it was more because I struggled with bf and all those normal first baby worries stopped me from relaxing and enjoying it. I'm hoping its easier with this next one whether it's a boy or girl.

    I'm starting to get really nervous about finding out at the 20 week scan. I'm only 5 weeks but already panicking about it. I feel a bit annoyed with myself for having so many attempts

  3. #13
    Baby pink I feel the same! I keep thinking about all the things that must have swayed blue. I think getting used to the idea of having another boy is a good idea and then if you get a girl that's a bonus.

    If you had another boy would you do a sway for another?

    I'm sure that's it for me and we're done at 2. Financially can't afford another Nx emotionally it's too much to go through again. I will be sad but I guess when they are here it will be easier to grieve for girl we'll not have as we can focus on this new tiny boy.

    Ita hard in early pregnancy as you are constantly second guessing what you are having and don't want to get hopes up in case they are dashed.

    But at the end of the day even if you put 100% into your sway you can get an opposite. you always have a chance at having a girl. I just keep thinking of the stats and I think the odds of girl drop to 40% with 3+ attempts so the odds are against me

  4. #14
    Thank you :-) well baby was not cooperating at all so she could not get the crl measurement so sadly no nub shot either :-( I did get a look down at the rump end of baby tho and I couldn't see anything that was angled up but couldn't see anything that I thought was a nub either, so I'm still very much team green lol.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bobster View Post
    Will you guys find out the gender? I'm hoping to see a nub on my 12 week ultrasound. We will ask the gender at the anatomy scan as we were team yellow the first time around and I want to get prepared (mentally) this time around.
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  6. #16
    Bobster, this is definitely our last although DH still mentions the possibility of having a 4th, regardless of the gender of this baby. I don't think I could though. This baby was already a surprise for us. I just feel like there's a good chance it could be a girl but don't want to get my hopes up. I really prayed for a boy with my first. Like, to the point that I didn't even consider it being a girl. I just don't think I could get that lucky again. I'm so happy I have my boys. I'm just worried about adding a third to an already perfect boy pair. But then again I guess that's just the new baby worries.
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  7. #17
    I will have to postpone my scan until 13 weeks anyway as going on holiday during my 12th week so that's good to know! I was worried it may be too late for nub by then. I am really nervous about having a scan. Firstly that there's something there and everything's measuring ok and appears healthy, but secondly that I see a clear boy nub straight away and I get down about it. I will be ok with another boy and I still strongly feel this is another boy but I think not knowing is nice as there's always a chance then that it could go the other way.

    I had a dream last night that I had my second boy and OH was really disappointed and wanted to try again for a 3rd but I really didn't want to. I felt like I'd let him down which was an awful feeling. He says the right thing when I ask him if he'll be disappointed with a boy but I don't believe him that he doesn't mind. Argh the pressure! When I look at my ds I just think of course I'll be over the moon with another little man but at the moment I can't see it because he's not here yet and I don't know him.

    Whatever this baby is, I'm done at 2!

  8. #18
    I'm exactly on your shoe! I'm 5 weeks pregnant and TTC girl, also I'll be done with 2 so this is my last chance! I'm so freaking nervous on the 12th weeks scan, I don't know if I can handle it well if I find out that I'm having another boy!


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