What the heck is DH thinking??

[MrsGoodies]

Thanks Atomic,

That is my thinking too. I actually dread heading back to hi tech. It hasnt worked, the drugs were awful, & so much money down the drain i am embarrased to say how much. But at the time i didnt care about the money. As soon as one cycle failed I was planing the next one....for four years!

I think if this last miscarriage had been another boy i would lean more to the hi tech. But it was a girl. So i guess i've gotten some confidence that DH can make them without help afterall.

BD at home is more enjoyable too!

Perhaps a year of no hi tech has given me some perspective on the matter. You are right about putting all the eggs in one basket! I hate that! What if next week is the gold egg?

PS....is 70 days on the girl diet long enough? I was on it 120 days last time...

[atomic sagebrush]

It does activate that gambling part of the brain, too. It's sooo tempting after you've come so far to start "throwing good money after bad" as the saying goes. But, the plus side is of course, if you get pregnant, you do get the guarantee, whereas with swaying of course you can conceive an opposite and then have to spend all that time being pregnant and caring for a small baby and then sometimes end up doing HT anyway. But it goes the other way too as you know with doing HT and then ending up swaying in the end.

What I think is most helpful sometimes is comparing worst case scenarios. What feels worse, walking away with no money and no baby, or an opposite. That answer will be different for everyone. For me, I was ok with another boy. But not everyone is, and that has to factor into it too.

RE time on diet, you don't even know you'll get pregnant the first month so I generally prefer you guys start at any point after 6 weeks. Most people end up not pg that first month and it is almost like a practice month.