The unfortunate thing about swaying pink is the stuff we do, does tend to reduce chances of conception. BUT, even with swaying we have 3 months average to conception which is right in the wheelhouse of normal.
I urge you not to overthink the "I won't get pregnant" idea. I have seen this fear undermine so many sways! For all you know, you could have gotten pregnant with your son without doing SMEP! People panic and basically start swaying blue and then do end up with another boy. My thinking is that it's better to start off with doing the things that really work (like one attempt) skip the things that have been relatively disappointing (like abstain OR FR) and then you'll be in with at least a CHANCE of conception while doing the things that are getting the best results. What I DON'T want to see you guys doing, is doing all the little and ineffective things (like abstain/FR) and then adding attempts to that out of a fear you won't conceive. If you want to get pregnant fast, cool, no worries, but do what works and ditch what doesn't, in that case.![]()
You always have a chance of a girl no matter what. You toss in one attempt to that and it will only help.
Also - don't overthink your age. This, again, can undermine a potential sway by encouraging you to cry defeat before you even begin. I did this myself, not once but twice, with a pregnancy at 36/37 and then one at 39 - "I'm so old, I'm obviously going to have a huge amount of trouble getting pregnant, therefore I must do EVERYTHING in my power to get super healthy and boost my fertility" - yeah, I got 2 more boys doing that, the first one took me 2 months to conceive, the second I got the first postpartum egg while breastfeeding haha. Don't assume you're going to have any trouble conceiving. The fertility dropoff "they" love to terrify us with is based on data from (drum roll please) THE 1600'S and is NOT even true. http://genderdreaming.com/forum/late...s+read+article Yes, fertility does drop off with age but most of us are not infertile just because we're over 35 or even beyond that.![]()
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May 18th, 2016, 02:04 PM #11
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May 22nd, 2016, 04:34 AM #12
So, you are suggesting I do one attempt and NOT frequent release or abstain? I'm just trying to understand this...
I actually want to do a really relaxed sway, even though it doesn't seem like it the way I'm over thinking and obsessing. I just don't think I could follow the LE diet to the max, and I haven't been doing it long enough for it to even have much of an effect, I think. I'm a vegetarian and I'm trying to eat less calories. I already eat quite a lot of empty carbs because I'm not a super healthy vegetarian. Haha! So, I think that's enough as far as diet goes...
I want to get the other part right - one attempt no frequent release or anything, just one shot? And should it be in the days leading up to OV or when the OPK turns positive?
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May 23rd, 2016, 01:57 PM #13
I'm not suggesting that necessarily, I'm just laying out the options. Above all else YOU have to do what you can walk away feeling good about. I see a lot of wisdom in doing just the things that really work and skipping the things that basically only cut odds of conception without adding much to the sway, so my belief is that it's a wise approach to do one attempt without frequency (having him "do what he does" or regular release instead). Our results show that the frequent release/abstain are not adding anything, whereas the one attempt does seem to be a significant and consistent sway tactic. So why cut odds of conception pursuing things that aren't working (FR/A) instead of just hitting it with the thing that does (one attempt). But again, I understand that it isn't that easy and you may not feel good about doing that at least without trying it with the FR/A as well.
You don't have to do LE to the max. I had to lay out all the stuff for people's reference but you don't need to do all that. It's a goal, not a destination, and any steps you make to a more 'pink' direction will only help.Just be sure you don't cut back TOO far.
Now, the timing element. Again, this is largely what you want to do. I have 4 timing opposites and done tons of research and it's very easy for me not to believe in timing. But I know that for others, it may not be that easy to give it up and thus I do allow you guys to have that one attempt on O-3, O-2, or day of pos OPK (O-1) at your choice. O-3 is not great odds of conception. O-2 is a compromise, still believed to sway pink by timing advocates but decent odds of conception as well. I do think that DTD the day of pos OPK is easiest and best chance of conception with pink sways but some believe it's Shettles boy timing. You have to decide what you are wanting overall from your sway - are you cool with a laid back attempt as some of us are, or do you need to feel like you've tried everything to feel at peace with the outcome?
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May 24th, 2016, 01:29 AM #14
Thank you so so so much atomic! I am going with what you suggest. I am not worried about DTD on pos. OPK making a boy...as I did what shettles thought would bring me a girl, with my boy! Haha! I am in the camp that shettles is all wrong wrong wrong and it does seem that timing has nothing to do with it. It's easier for my life to just try once at positive OPK. So, that's what we're going to do! I'm lucky that my husband is up for whatever! At least for now... LOL!
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