Offloading ...

[zanacal]

Maybe she was going out of her way not to ask if you wanted a girl - because that's the assumption most people make and she didn't want to offend you or your boys! {hugs} to you too.

[Mochagirl]

I'm sort of in the same place as you right now, Z. I'm feel like I had a crappy sway this month (and this really ticks me off because I worked SO hard to follow the diet then messed it up after 4 months right when it counted most) and think there's no way I conceived a girl. I remember being so easy breezy with ds3 because I always knew in the back of my head that I could have one more try to get a girl, but this is IT for me and now I'm already trying to visualise life with 4 boys to prepare myself. I love all my boys to bits and will love another just as much...but I'm not looking forward to that initial hurt if/when I hear boy in the ultrasound.

[zanacal]

{hugs} mocha. I think so long as I keep that vision of 4 boys firmly in mind I'll be ok - it would be so much fun (especially for them!) and I do get excited thinking about a teeny weeny baby boy

If I felt sure that swaying 'worked' and that I must be having a girl because I had a 'good' sway then I would be setting myself up for a fall, but I know that's not how it works and this way my expectations are realistic and if it's a girl (I guess there is a chance!) then that will be a happy surprise I'll deal with when it happens.

I know I can have no regrets of not trying and I'll never regret this child - be it a boy or a girl!

[Mochagirl]

Oh, I know - swaying isn't definite anyway and we should all have a 50% of a girl no matter what...I just wish I could feel like I did my best sway and have no regrets, regardless of whether I get a boy or girl - that's what I kept saying I wanted to do this time around. As it stands, I'm worried I'll always wonder 'what if' since my sway was so crappy.

Oh, and of course I will welcome and love another little boy if that's what fate has in store for me - that's one of the reasons I want to find out the gender - so I can get over any GD before the little guy arrives so I can enjoy him fully.

[zanacal]

I know, it's hard xx

[Emmy2012]

Z I know exactly how you feel! I feel even more crazy casue I swayed girl with my last DS and swore he was a girl (I paid for 4, yes 4 elective ultrasounds cause I thought they must be wrong)! So with being a past swayer that failed....I think I am so crazy for even hoping it can happen for me! I have been reading other boards and the pst fews days just cry when someone finds out it is a girl. It is so hard to want something so bad and hate yourself for wanting something so bad. At least we have each other to vent, offload and talk to. It is a strange comfort to know you are not alone in your craziness.

[zanacal]

It sure is. That must have been so hard for you to have felt so convinced you were having a girl x

[Emmy2012]

It was very hard for me, I wnet through a bad time after I found out Noah was a boy. And then once he was born I had a hard time with the guilt. I felt so guilty for being so unhappy for months that he was a boy. Emothional rollar coaster to say the least. I think if/when I get pregnant again, I am going to go back to the elective place at 12 weeks and get a nub shot (they do this) and get a guess. If it looks girl I am going to find out, if it looks boy I am not going to. That way I at least have a small hope of it being a girl. I honestly don't know which was worse....the devastation of finding out Noah was a boy or the guilt I had once I had this perfect lil baby in my arms that had been so unhappy about. If I am a destined to have another boy I want to find out at birth because then I have him to love not feel bad about.

[zanacal]

That sounds like a great way to decide whether to find out the gender or not. I'm not going to decide until we've had our 12 week scan depending on whether we see a nub or not! I think your feelings were all understandable but I'm sorry you had to go through it.

[mommato5boys]

I completely understand! Sometimes I think I'm being crazy for doing any swaying. I just feel like I'm not meant to have a girl. And then like you, I feel guilty for swaying because it makes it seem like I wouldn't want or love another boys which couldn't be further from the truth! Hand in there! Everything I read says we have just as good a shot at a girl as anyone else! And your extra swaying can only help that. Hugs to you!