Should I find out gender at the ultrasound?

[boys,boys.boys!!!]

i wouldnt find out, although it killed me not knowing, especailly not knowing for sure as i thought i saw "boy bits" on my scan! my family kept telling me to find out as they thought it would be better to know and come round to the idea that it was boy number 3, they even got me doubting how i would react if it was another boy, but i held out and the minute the midwife held him up and said "can u see what it is?" i can honestly say i didnt think "oh no another boy" or any thoughts like that (i was suprised at myself) just how cute he was!! i think if i had known for sure i wuold have spent the rest of my pregnancy feeling negative towards him, and now i have him i wouldnt swop him for the world!! x

[I♥DKB?]

I like the idea of asking the technician to write it down on paper and seal it in an envelope. That way you don't have to decide immediately. If in a few weeks you want to know you'll have the opportunity.

[I Love Ladybugs]

I wish with a part of me, that I would have lied to Dh about finding out gender with DS#2 and not gone through with finding out for him. I enjoyed the mystery with DS#1!

[Txmom]

I will find out when we for for our next one but that is because I am impatient.

[Lassie1982]

I personally would find out, and WILL be finding out asap - in fact i think i will invest in a blood test.
For me, its because I dont want to carry hope, Im pretty confidant that i will be fine if its not a girl, disappointed yes, but not excessively. That said, since i am trying really hard, and hoping for a girl, I would rather know as soon as I can wether or not it is a girl or boy. That way, if it is a boy, i can deal with it, get over it, and look forward to the new addition.
But everyone deals with situations differently - so what suits one person, wont suit another.
I think this is one of those situations where no amount of advice will help - it really comes down to what you in your heart of hearts think will be best for you.

[ejk741]

i would find out. i was very disappointed when i found out i was having a girl at the ultrasound. buuuutt. i had time to get use to the idea. when she was placed in my arms any disappointment i had went away. i am scared that if i hadn't found out, i would have "felt" that she was my boy until they said "it's a girl" . i don't know how well i would have dealt with the shock. i liked that i got to get over my sadness in private.

[Princess of Pink]

I would find out for 100% sure! I didn't find out with DD#4 and while I was fine at the birth and was happy and adored her...that night when I was alone the depression and obsession about trying again started. I wondered what I had done wrong as we had done a strong boy sway, blah, blah, blah. I was depressed for months. With DD#5 I found out and was in hell for a few months but by the time she was born I was bonded to her and happy and I had no false hope at all, or disappointment!!

[Myloves]

I wonder how Lilac is doing? Hopefully she's happy and well.

[fun family]

I'm sorry you are having a hard time. I hope you are handling things ok.

[Possible pink?]

I would find out. I didn't with my second. I think partially because I was scared to. When it was a boy again, I had tremendous disappointment and depression and then horribly guilty feelings about this. I think
If I would have found out at 20 wks, yes I would have been disappointed but would have then gotten used to the idea and had 5 months to fall in love. It's too hard with the hormones, lack of sleep and guilt upon feeling it at what should be the best day of your life.