Feel like giving up. What's the point?

[begonia]

Thanks gals. Well, I didnt go out an eat a pizza. I burst into tears when I got home from work but somehow pulled it together and stayed with it. I really dont know how I am going to take it if I do get boy #3. Of course I will love him but DS#2 is almost 5. I dont think I can take this GD any longer!

Oh hun, big ol' hugs. It's a tough place. I went for #3 and didn't end up with my desired gender (I have 2 DD and am expecting my 3rd ... I always wanted boys) and I won't lie, it's been extremely hard. Like you say, of course you'd love another boy ... I will adore this next daughter ... but I'll still have GD. It has gotten progressively worse with each DD because it just feels magnified by each additional child that isn't my desired gender. I know I don't have to explain that I absolutely adore my girls, I wouldn't trade them for all the boys in the world just as I'm sure you'd never change your sons. But my heart has always wanted a son and out of 3 children, I didn't get one. It's a longing that will always be there

So it is a roll of the dice, but unless you try you can't get what you want .... at least by trying you have one more shot. You could have your girl you know! But if it doesn't turn out how you hope, with a DD, it still yields another brother for your boys to love, another child for you to adore ... it's still a win, really, but the cloud of GD can make that very hard to see at times.

Re: the age gap and your DS2 being almost 5, I did mention it on another thread but it can be so sweet to have another baby around after a gap. Your boys will have such a neat experience, getting to really teach her (FX!) things. All the firsts like smiles, giggles, etc will feel so fresh to you again. Yes, it is a bit of a pain to go back to diapers, etc, but really... time flies. Your #3 will be in school in no time and you'll wonder where it all went, KWIM And in the grand scheme of sibling relationships (since they'll be adults MUCH longer than children!) 5 years is nothing!

[auroara78]

My friend, who is really blunt, told me "Hunny, your hubby only shoots boys, why bother?"

I was so mad. I told her that i still thought it was worth a try, and I do believe that...and that's so ignorant for people to say!

[Cinss]

My DP's 'friend' tells him "you dont have a boy in you" I was outraged when i heard these words come out of his mouth.

[CapricornAquarius]

The old saying holds true - "Better to have tried and failed, than to have never tried at all".

Exactly!!

[zanacal]

A woman at my work told me that 'some men only make sperm of one type' - I can't wait to tell her our news after Christmas!!

[auroara78]

Yay Zan!!!

that's so not true....it has been proven time and time again...men make almost equal numbers of x or y sperm...grrr

[Iris_star]

sending huge hugs hun what an insensitive moo!!! keep positive hunni xxxxxxxx

[grasshopper]

People say the strangest things don't they. I think when people make dumb comments like that we should tell them how ridiculous they sound.
Seriously...what on earth would make her think she is qualified to make such an odd prediction when she obviously only knows one other person who has been in a similar situation. Based on that everyone is an expert.
I would try not to take too much notice of narrow-minded Know-It-Alls. There is at least one in every workplace/community.

[ynwa]

i to have been told this by a co worker,(who has 1 dd and doesnt want anymore)it really upset me but hey if we dont try we will 100% not get a dd!if we try look at our odds;,)

[atomic sagebrush]

All you ever have to do in that sitch to shut people up is to use the Duggars as an example. They have a long chain of PP, a long chain of boys, then a long chain of girls and ALL those long chains are more kids than ANY of us have!

People act like you're doomed after 2 kids of the same gender but it just isn't true!