Do You Believe In Karma? Good People Get What They Deserve?!?

[mummyof3boys]

i so understand what u r saying!!! My sister was in a bad controlling abusive relationship got preg twice i ectopic 1 m/c then fell again even after finding out what he is like had a daughter yep i was alot jealous!!! left him then went back preg again with a boy!!! AGGGHHHH AND he has 2 prior chn 1 BOY and 1 GIRL!!!! WHY!!!!! HE IS AN ASSHOLE!!!! my hub works 6 days i work 3 we take the kids out all the time as a fam they haves sooo much love and would be sooo good with a little sister!!!! BUT i no i wouldnt give up any of my boys i dnt care if i have triplets as long as 1 is a girl and would love all 5 boys just as much i just want a daughter like i would have wanted a son if it was the other way around!!!!

[LolaInLove]

This is an interesting question- I think it is human nature to want to find a reason for things happening the way they do. I mean, heck, we all want to know if God is real....even though zillions of people claim yes and believe in God....no one truly knows he exists. Same with karma and really, every philosophical question there is. If I do this, will I get that? There is no guarantee. Like many said, I think it depends on how you look at it. I do think that good comes about from my doing good in the cause and effect manner that NBP said. So, I don't really believe in straight karma, because many terrible people have had good things happen and vice versa. But it is hopeful to believe that there is something bigger than us, something we need to strive towards and work for that is good (well, most of us). Otherwise, there would be pure anarchy and man, what a terrible place this world would be, right?

[Tooblue]

Yes, I do believe in karma. I've seen it in action! So when I had boys, I wondered what I did to deserve it. I had only envisioned myself with girls. I felt like I was being punished for something. My relationship with DH at the time was not a good one (thankfully, we've grown up and were able to work things out). I felt like if karma was going to kick anyone in the ass it should have been HIM. HE was the one who needed to learn respect for women! HE was the one with more growing up to do! But you know what? Those boys were just what he needed to turn things around. He saw himself in them and saw that he was their #1 role model and he became a better person because of them. Who knows what things would have been like had they been girls. So yes, I think ultimitely, my good karma came back in the form of a loving husband and kids and a family that was able to come out on top despite going through some very difficult times.

[envisioned]

I struggle with concept of karma b/c I've seen absolutely horrifying rotten things happen to very good people. But I've also seen it come back around full circle to evil people. So I don't know. I do feel liek it affects me differently. You know how some people can do careless lazy stupid stuff that they know they should do but go "Oh it's ok no one will ever know" and they'll get away with it and coast through life? I'm the person that if I EVER tried that, I would get my ass handed to me. Like God forbid I didn't put away a shopping cart in a parking lot after I put away stuff in the car, I'd probably get hit by a bus. Whereas other people can leave the cart, steal an item and they'd find a lottery ticket on their way home.

[atomic sagebrush]

Interesting thread!

I believe in karma not in a mystical sense, but when you work hard and try to help others, then you are more likely to be rewarded for it (or at the very least, helped when you need it) than a lazy bum who mooches off everyone all the time. Unfortunately this system is not reliable and often bad people are rewarded and good people suffer in silence.

I don't believe in karma in a magical way I finally decided. I have become more of a sh-- happens kind of person.

People get different genders not for any mystical reason and certainly not because they deserve them, but because of real biological reasons that affect the human body and so it is totally possible for bad people to just get lucky and biologically be in a place where their body supports conception of the gender that they want. Deserve has nothing to do with gender ratio.

[Myloves]

Interesting thread!

I believe in karma not in a mystical sense, but when you work hard and try to help others, then you are more likely to be rewarded for it (or at the very least, helped when you need it) than a lazy bum who mooches off everyone all the time. Unfortunately this system is not reliable and often bad people are rewarded and good people suffer in silence.

I don't believe in karma in a magical way I finally decided. I have become more of a sh-- happens kind of person.

People get different genders not for any mystical reason and certainly not because they deserve them, but because of real biological reasons that affect the human body and so it is totally possible for bad people to just get lucky and biologically be in a place where their body supports conception of the gender that they want. Deserve has nothing to do with gender ratio.

I believe this too.

[KidAtHeart]

My neighbor tragically lost a child in a freak accident. After that happened, I came to the conclusion that sometimes, bad things happen to good people. I no longer feel like I'm being 'punished' by having all boys, or that I'm not worthy of having a girl. It used to make me really sad to walk into Gymboree and skip 3/4 of the store. I really do believe that unless you go HT (which is still far from a guarantee), it is a 50/50 chance no matter what you do. I just got three heads in a row in a game of coin toss. That's it. I'm not a bad person or unfit to be the mother of a daughter. There are far worse things that could happen to me than having three beautiful healthy boys. I just try to keep it in perspective. Good luck!

[1+2+3boys]

I don't know what I believe but wonder if I have been punished by karma even though I am a good person. As a child and growing up I always had this deep sorry feeling for families with 3 or more of one gender, especially for the parent that did not have a child of their gender. I always knew that I wanted a family with children of both genders and after I had my son and joined playgroups, I felt really sorry for the Mums with 3 or more of the same. Now I have three boys and want one more but sometimes wonder if it will be a boy too for punishment of all the thoughts I have had and the strong GD I have at times. I hope this is not the case. Or will I have my girl but something be wrong with her to teach me a lesson

[RKT Mama]

I believe that at the end of the day, I am the only one responsible for my own life and being the best person I can be. I cannot judge other people to be good or bad, they are the ones that have to be happy with themselves. I have 3 sons and sometimes I get sad, jelous or angry that people who look like they are bad parents get girls and I didn't.
But then I look at my boys and they are healthy and loud, I have food and a house and everything we really need. Other people must look at my life and feel the same emotions.
I am now pregnant with what is supposed to be a girl. I went through a long journey and lots of swaying to get her but then I look at other families on this site who have gone through so much more and not got the gender they wanted even though they probably deserve it more in karma terms.
I am petrified this baby comes out a boy but I know that if that were to happen it would be my own emotions I was dealing with, not that I have done something bad or good but just my own interpretation of what I want to happen

[motherofboys]

I want to believe in Karma, but some of the things I have experienced I think I must have been really bad in another life to have got that in this one. And now I think perhaps I'm just not good enough to have a girl, maybe I don't deserve one and wont do a good enough job. Maybe because I'm not girly enough I won't bring her up in the way a girl should be and I'm better suited to boys.
I know its irrational but its the sort of thing that goes through your head in these situations isn't it