If money was no problem?

[sugarNspice]

in a heartbeat. after having multiple m/c, I would even consider it, not for gender selection, but just to give me the knowledge that the embryo inside me was chromosomally normal, and thus more likely to survive.

[LolaInLove]

I would! I don't know why the embryo thing doesn't bother me....I guess it's because I've lost 4 babies total in my lifetime, and the easiest way for me to get over that is reminding myself that they are just a little ball of cells, and that ZILLIONS of little tiny balls of cells die or don't make it every second of the day around the world. It's nature. Of course, in my position, this is an easy question to answer. But I love your idea, Begonia....I would totally sponsor others having IVF just to have babies in the first place. Infertility forums are a much different world than this site. You can't even mention pregnancy or babies or anything related to that without a disclaimer that you are going to mention it because it is too painful for some women who struggle with infertility and have no children at all.

[auroara78]

I have to say no because the idea of the discared embryos would bother me, esp. the xy ones that would be left behind, I'd be thinking of my sons I currently have, and it just wouldn't feel right to *me*. Though I totally understand that biologically they are just a bunch of cells, I couldn't do it.

And I support each and every woman in their decisions to do HT I do admire the road taken, because for me it seems very hard, the money, the emotional and physical aspects, so bravo to all you ladies who could undertake it!

If we won the lottery and had tons of money, I would be tempted to "duggar it out" hahahahah

Or at least I know if we had heaps of money we would go for number 4 for sure, and maybe a number 5.

[nini]

Unfortunately yes I would do it. I wish I could say no, but honestly I would. I dont live in a country where this is a possibility and also my dh would never ever ever agree....

[Flava]

I use to say no way but if it would be just one baby like begonia said then i would have done it for #3. But no not anymore because I don't want more kids at all.
If I would get rich I would pay for good schools for my girls , take them on vacations in the summers , have some nice times with DH and things like that .Not having more babys for sure.

[Indira]

I´m not sure, I´d have to find myself in the situation to be sure but I believe I wouldn´t.
It would take my desire for a girl on a whole different level, now it´s just part of wanting a third child and enjoyable things like pregnancy and having a newborn again, going High tech would put me in a :´ I will do anything to have a girl´ and ´I won´t be happy without a daughter´-perspective. That would make me very vulnerable. And you don´t know how many cycles it will take and if you will get pregnant. A lot of possible stress and hurt. I´m still in a stage in which I believe my life will be a happy one if I concentrate on the good things I have and not on the things I don´t have. This might change in July... lol
I don´t judge people that go HT in any way, if people really just want a child of their desired gender and they have the finances, I think going HT is the best thing they can do.

[nuthinbutpink]

I think that to some extent, money controls who can even try HT. That is unfortunate.

Most of us using HT have 3,4 of the same gender. Had HT been more approachable and an option earlier, I could have done it for child #3 and then go back for any frosties for child 4 regardless of gender. That IS an option. You can go back for your embryos.

It is a decision of knowing that you are not okay with another child of the same gender. It is hard to look at yourself in the mirror and be honest. I don't feel bad for doing it though. Had I not gone for it, my son would not exist. We would have had no more children.

With the extra embryos, it's always a possibility but you are lucky to end up with one or two at the end. If you go into it open to more children down the road, it may still be an option for some of you.

Swaying is way harder. Requires much more self discipline and commitment. HT is expensive but in many ways, it is out of your control which makes it easier in some ways!

There are some clinics offering sorting with an IUI now. It's not MS but it is an option.

[Zivic-Bubac]

In a heart beat!!!! I would go for twin boys!

[4BlueLooking4Pink]

Nope, I couldn't bear the thought of any of my babies (embryos) getting discarded . I have ethical isues with PGD/IVF. If I had a gazillion dollars though I suppose I could have a gazillion babies and then most likely would end up with both genders though.

[atomic sagebrush]

I don't think I would. My husband would never agree to it first of all (but since this is a fantasy, we'll pretend he agreed) and secondly, every time I've ever been on a prescription drug I've had a major allergic reaction to it and my age means I'd be way unlikely to succeed anyway (but again, for purposes of fantasy, I'll set those aside.)

But the real reason is, I just KNOW I would be that woman who didn't get XX or didn't get pg with them, and then decides to implant XY instead. I KNOW with every fiber of my being I would do this! And I'm not even sure I would discard a Downs Syndrome embryo either, I think I might implant it believe it or not. So to my mind, I can brew up XY at home for free LOL. Course, I got over my GD most of the way too, and I've never been in the position of not wanting another boy, it's just that I DID want a girl too. Plus like Auroara points out, if money was no object I'd feel ok about having lots (more) kids anyway and so why not Duggar it out???

If money was no object I actually can see myself funding HT for others and not for myself! I know that's weird but I know so many people whose lives have been destroyed by GD and who deserve their DG, it would bring me more pleasure to make a lot of people's dreams come true than just mine alone.