Dreaming Pink Opposites Due Winter 2013/14

[2lovelyboys]

Welcome Mabel! Choosing names is sooooooo difficult, we like traditional names, I'm thinking Andrew Thomas for this little one after DH but he isn't as keen!

I'm having a bad day 2day, got my anomaly scan this afternoon, although I've known gender for 4 weeks now we haven't old anyone, they all know we will be finding out 2day (text messages have started already) I've been happy keeping gender to myself, have needed the time to adjust, don't feel ready for everyone else to know. I know the scan is for the health of my baby and that should be my primary concern but I'm so nervous, scared generally crazy and not sure why?!

Sorry to be a moaning minnie especially when everyone is doing so well!!

[zebaniee]

Mabel, if I ever have a boy it will be Samuel William. I also love christopher and Nicholas.

I am having my third girl and also feel a bit stuck with names. I already used all the good ones with my first two

[oxox2013]

Welcome Mabel! I am sorry that you didnt hear girl either there are so many more of us on this thread than there should be! BOO to failed girl sways. I wonder what the deal is? Especially with the boys swayers doing so well??

Anyway naming this boy has been on the top of my to do list in order to help me feel more connected to him. I have been hoping that naming him would help me move forward with planning and what not. The problem is, my DH doesnt see how dumb his ideas are and how great mine are! LOL!! No but really we just have different tastes in boy names so it is proving quite the battle. And like others, we have the perfect girls name picked out. No bickering or arguing over that one.. it was just suggested and felt right to us both immediately!

[myrainbowgirl]

Welcome Mabel! Choosing names is sooooooo difficult, we like traditional names, I'm thinking Andrew Thomas for this little one after DH but he isn't as keen!

I'm having a bad day 2day, got my anomaly scan this afternoon, although I've known gender for 4 weeks now we haven't old anyone, they all know we will be finding out 2day (text messages have started already) I've been happy keeping gender to myself, have needed the time to adjust, don't feel ready for everyone else to know. I know the scan is for the health of my baby and that should be my primary concern but I'm so nervous, scared generally crazy and not sure why?!

Sorry to be a moaning minnie especially when everyone is doing so well!!

I'm so sorry, 2lovely. I totally hear you on not wanting others to find out. I just cringe, knowing even well-intentioned people will say things that really make it worse. Ugh. I have a girls' night this week and know I will have to tell then...not excited about it. I need to pretend like I'm super excited, then maybe people won't feel sorry for me or won't know how to respond (so maybe won't say anything at all)!

[Mabel_79]

We were away all week camping at our sailing club for its annual social week and I had to tell everyone that it was another boy. In the end I decided to be honest and say- well, was hoping it was a girl but hey ho, then make all the jokes about my house being destroyed and being eaten out of house and home and how I'd be on first name terms with the A&E nurses- before they could get any in. The fact I was able to make these 'jokes' with a big smile on my face made me feel happier and 'think' it showed that while I wanted a girl I was fine with another boy. Anyway, think I did some good 'faking' it that week and definitely starting to feel more positive- like if you say something enough you can start to believe I yourself.
2lovely- hope all went well at the abnomaly scan today.
Myrainbowgirl - hope the girls night goes well. Xx

[Mabel_79]

Oxox2013- just seen your signature ticker- we are due almost at the same time! Xx

[EmmyRoo]

Mabel that's exactly what I'm doing, saying I'd have loved a girl but it's a boy, but hey, at least I've got all the clothes already etc etc. Lol re. Knowing all the A+E nurses names - my DS2 is THE most accident prone child I've ever known so we know A+E well! But yeah, that kind of response I think makes people say similar things in reply, they tend to say "yeah and you know what to do with boys" or "yeah and it's lovely for boys to have brothers". I can't stand the thought of being pitied, I'm so glad people seem to be buying my fake-positivity.

2lovely how was the scan? I'm right there with you, my gender scan is on Monday and although this is a secret one, it will kill off my last tiny hope that the nub, willy, balls and train-like heartbeat are all wrong. I do dread getting to my official scan on 19th, where I'll have to go properly public+will have people asking. I'm hoping by telling them now that I'm convinced it's a boy it'll lessen the comments.

Rainbow I hope the coming clean to the girls goes ok.

X

[2lovelyboys]

Hi Ladies, anomaly scan went well, all where it should be and performing as it should. In no doubt now that DS3 is on his way, had his bits on display as often as he could throughout the scan

Still feeling down today, I have accepted DS3 is on his way and can visualise this little man as part of our family but its the mindless comments that hurt, I know I shouldn't let them get to be but am feeling very vulnerable so it's easier said than done . My M & FIL are gutted, but my SILs are happy, not happy cos he is a happy healthy little boy but happy cause he is not a girl (they are both desperate for a girl)! Makes me very resentful! Feel like I am fighting for him already, want people to be happy with him for who he is ........booooo! Moan over (I hope)!

Anyway, now need to update my ticker I think

Hee hee on the A&E comments, never spent so much time in hospital since having my boys

[Mabel_79]

Glad the abnomaly scan went well 2lovelyboys. I bet that is a slight weight off your mind. I am still scared stiff that after the huge amounts of acigel and vinegar douche I used to try and 'kill off' the boy sperm that I may have in some way damaged this baby. Was thinking of maybe booking a 4D scan in a few weeks time to see if baby looked normal but not sure how much you can really see or tell fom those.
Well last night was the first night in exactly 2 weeks (since my scan), that I slept well and wasn't woken by horrible gender related 'nightmares'. So hoping the GD is subconciously easing a little.

My MIL is coming down on Sat whic I'm dreading- she has made comments right from the start about how she 'knew' I was having another boy. I was so looking forward to proving her wrong, now I will have to listen to her gloat (she is not a nice woman). My SIL is a real sweetie and has been so kind, but just doesn't 'get it' at all. Since my scan she has bombarded me with daily pictures of her bay daughter in cute outfits with captions like "even tho u are having a boy u can still buy cute clothes for me Auntie".
I know she thinks she's helping but she's really not but I don't want to say anything as she's so sweet.
Emmyroo- I will keep everything crossed for your gender scan on Monday- there is still a small chance that the early scan could be wrong and as for the heartbeat- my little lad has consistently had a hb of 160 that sounds like a galloping horse whereas my other boys were 140 and chuffing trains but the willy and balls were undeniably there at the scan!!
Right, well I'm being jumped on by two energetic boys who want to get on with their day so better go.
I am sure we will all be posting our messages of joy and love for or newborns come January so I guess it's ok to man a bit now (though my DH doesn't see it like that). Anyone elses DH not particularly supportive? Mine just says 'you can't get everything u wan in life' and even called me a spoiled brat for saying I wanted a daughter more than anything (well I'd like a bigger car and lots of money by u don't see me moping about) etc etc. I guess he will never understand, esp as he has been given sons.
Hope everyone has a good day.
Bel x

[oxox2013]

Yeah I am due one the 27th of December Mabel. Im thinking he will be here early tho. Just a feeling I have