Dreaming Pink Opposites Due Winter 2013/14

[Mabel_79]

I'm due 1st Jan but had to be induced two weeks early with my last and consultant gave me 90% chance of needing it again. He actually joked with a smile "I'll see you on the 18th dec then".
Hated my induction compared to my natural labour but then again would be nice to get it out of the way before Christmas as naturally went a bit early with my first so wouldn't really be able to relax over Christmas thinking I might go into labour any minute!

[2lovelyboys]

Thank you for your support ladies you are great! Feeling much better this afternoon, had a bit of a rant to my mum about it all, weight off my shoulders!

Going to announce gender to my ILs tomorrow over dinner, planning a nice way to introduce DS3 is giving me something to get excited bout

I have had a few lovely texts from friends today so hoping things continue o improve!

How are all of you?

[Charlee]

I'm due 1st Jan but had to be induced two weeks early with my last and consultant gave me 90% chance of needing it again. He actually joked with a smile "I'll see you on the 18th dec then".
Hated my induction compared to my natural labour but then again would be nice to get it out of the way before Christmas as naturally went a bit early with my first so wouldn't really be able to relax over Christmas thinking I might go into labour any minute!

I was due with DS2 on 01/01/2008 and he was born on 12/18/07! So exactly the same circumstances I can tell you it was so nice to be home for Christmas... good luck!

[Charlee]

Ladies, so glad everyone is getting along better The comments about being totally honest RE "Yes, I wanted a girl but it's another boy and that's great because xyz..." are the PERFECT comments! I've found that you're reaction will speak volumes to others... sure they might think things about gender, but they will not DARE say it if you are acting upbeat. That's been my experience anyway. And stating the obvious "Yes I was hoping for a girl (or boy) but..." is great because of course you know they are thinking it when looking at your family. Of course we all wanted to experience both genders.... but your attitude about it will dictate what others SAY to you... and for me at least, that's what all I need at this point.

Come winter we will be posting pics of our new babies and none of this will matter.. trust me!

[myrainbowgirl]

Emmyroo - I agree, NT scans are not 100% (at ALL)...you may end up hearing pink! BUT, assuming your first scan was right, you are prepared and can enjoy seeing sweet DS again!

Mabel - Boo for your MIL's comments. Soooo insensitive. Other people just DON'T get it at all!! I know people are generally well-intentioned, but they many times just do not think before opening their mouths. Hope the visit goes well anyway!

2lovely - Sorry things have been a little rough lately. But so happy little man looks great! Ugh on your SIL's. So unfair. I just SO wish we had all heard pink and had gotten what we worked so hard for. Maybe that was our problem? Working too hard for it? I think you are the one who's mentioned all your obsessing in your sway, and I agree 100% that was MY biggest problem, too. Should we both have a little oopsie baby?? Maybe that will be the key!

AFM - Think I've been feeling a little movement the last couple days. YAY!! I was told at my 11-wk scan that placenta was "right in front"...so I'm assuming she meant anterior. Had the same thing with DS2, and barely felt movement till 18 weeks...so hoping maybe this time placenta is slightly off dead in the front so that I can feel things sooner. Hoping what I've felt the last day or two is the real thing!

[2lovelyboys]

Hi ladies, just had a lovely message from a friend and wanted to share!

My friend is one of four girls (her parents openly admit they wanted a boy), she has 2 girls, 1 boy herself. Just told her I am expecting DS3, she was very very excited for me, told me how extremely lucky i was 2 have 3 boys (!!!!!) and I have to agree after the lovely messages I have received today I am starting to feel very lucky and privileged to be expecting DS3 (just hope it continues!)

[Charlee]

LOVE the attitude 2LB! That's right! We are just lucky to be having babies... HEALTHY babies! And having all of the same gender is kinda cool... it's different than other families with a mix. We are known as boy or girl moms and that's something different than "Oh she has 2 girls and a boy" or whatever... NO. It's "oh you know, that woman with ALL BOYS".... haha... okay maybe I'm stretching but I'm trying to keep the positivity going here!!

[Mabel_79]

My main worry at the moment is what people think when they see my struggling with my boys.
My first is lovely, normal, high spirited boy. My second (hence the 4yr age gap this time) has been a challenge. It almost put me off having any more. He has been difficult since around 9 months. The amount of times he has just sat down in the road on the school run and refused to move, making DS1 late for school, just because someone has looked at him the wrong way, or I poured the milk on his cereal before he said I could or something. I end up carrying him kicking/screaming/scratchy/biting me all the way to school.
That's if he hasn't decided to run off in the other direction.
I know other parents look at me and think I can't cope with what I have so why on Earth am I having more. Thought a nice quiet girl would be different, but what if this boy is like my second. I might seriously end up in the loony bin.

Starting to get a bit worried about how life with 3 very boisterous boys is going to be.

I got chatting to a friends mother who had 4 boys in her quest for a girl before giving up. They are all grown men now, but I asked her how she coped. She said by ruling with an iron fist. She was very, very strict with them.
My parenting style has always been quite relaxed but think it's time to really toughen up. Hope I haven't left it too late to start being the disciplinarian Mummy!
Hope u are all having good days xx

P.s. Just won an ebay auction for the cutest bright turquoise chunky knitted cardigan/ hat and mittens set for new baby. Have started putting a bag together of a few new clothes for the new baby and have found some lovely, individual things that aren't the standard blues and greys you find in shops. Getting quite excited that I can dress this little one up in some cute outfits after all- you just need to look a bit harder to find things! Xx

[GeCon]

Just commented on another thread. Something that might seem trivial to others, but has been bugging me since I started buying things for DS1 and to be honest this is one of the things that keeps reminding me that I would have really liked a a little girl too.

Totally agree. Had an email from a well-known shop today: beautiful girly dress and some boys clothes in dark camouflage.

Just because I have a boy I do not want to dress him in dark, dull colours or camouflage.

*Argh*

So I was wondering, should we start a thread or maybe even do it in here if everyone is okay with it to share our cute and lovely boy shopping finds to show each other that there are nice boy clothes (and other things) around, it is just harder to find them?

Just a thought, let me know what you think...

[myrainbowgirl]

GeCon - YES!! I will have to go shopping this time, because my 1st three were warm-weather babies, and this one will be a winter baby! Very little I have from the first 2 years will work for this one...and a lot of what I have is stained and worn out anyway. So, yes, would love to see places to get cute boy clothes!

Mabel - I understand how you feel. My DS1 is my challenge. I totally ranted to DH last night about how awful his behavior is and how tough it is for me to cope with him. I find it hard being affectionate with him because of how difficult he can be. The other two are easy to love...DS2 is very easygoing and unselfish, sweet, funny, and so smart. DS3 is still a baby, is physically gorgeous, and is such a cuddler and kisser. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't trade DS1 for the world, and I love him to pieces, but he is HARD. I worry about what others think of my ability to handle another as well. Because, well...it IS a lot to handle. And boys ARE hard to manage when they're little. So I feel your pain!! I so wish things had been different for all of us, but I am trying my hardest to accept God's plan and move forward. It's tough, though! I can already say that I am MILES away from where I was when I first found out, though. I take comfort in that, knowing I will adore this little boy as soon as I lay eyes on him!