October Babies! (continued)

[xokatietatie]

I think it's natural to have good days and bad days when it comes to GD. I know I still have days when I feel sad all over again, especially when I think about this being our absolute last pregnancy. We're all going to fall head over heels with our babies as soon as they're handed to us though!!! I can promise you all that.

[motherofboys]

I agree I think it must be normal, especially at this stage when I know my hormones are in over drive with excitement and nerves and just wanting to be done. It must be so much harder knowing you are having a boy but having everyone guessing girl. I had a small taste the other day. Someone (who I was sure knew but must have forgotten) said maybe this one will be a girl and I had to tell her that no it wont be. I've got two pregnant friends left now due after me. 1 knows she is having a boy, she already has one of each. The other has a boy and doesn't know what she is having this time. She told me she had a dream the other night she had a girl and didn't like her and tried to swap with me for my boy! Now granted I wouldn't swap this baby now, but it still hurt because I am convinced she is having a girl.
I'm still not convinced I will get to try again. I know now that I want to and I will have to sway just so I can say I gave it my best shot. But its trying to get DH on side. So this could be our last too. And when I think of that I feel sad for the fact I'll never get to do this again (even though right now if he decided he was ready to come I wouldn't complain LOL) and that the chance of a girl would be 0 if we didn't have another. I feel, atm, that I would be able to accept a 5th boy and be happy knowing I tried. But I've been up and down about it.

Once our babies are here we will love them no matter what and I'm sure that each of them are who we were meant to have in our lives.

[xokatietatie]

I've got to admit, I'm glad to know I'm not the only one whose hormones have gone into full blown overdrive. I am a mess these days!!! I don't remember crying this much with any of my other pregnancies. I feel like I'm walking on the edge constantly, never sure when my next break down might be. I took DS3 out to lunch the other day, my last little date with him as my baby, and I broke down and cried in the middle of the restaurant!! Then I cried again when I got him to the car. It just hit me like a ton of bricks that after almost 4 years he will no longer be the baby. I'm ready for this little guy to be here, but I'm not ready for him at the same time. I haven't been able to picture him with our family. I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around going through labor and having a newborn again. And I worry about if bringing a new baby home will throw off the balance and chemistry we have with our boys now. It all gets me so worked up!! I mean, goodness, I'm 5 days away from having him and I still can't grasp having four children.

[strawberrymom]

Lola-How did your appt. go? I hate when people ask when I am due and usually brush it off with "a while still", but can't do that now due to huge size.
Katie-I had the same thing happen after my check-spotting and contractions that lasted all night. Didn't want to mention it because I was hopeful for you. I know it will be done soon but I prefer sooner to later at this point!
Navywife-How exciting to have your dh back! How long has it been?
ICB3-It's a tough call for me. I do like to think let baby come when they want usually although I have been trying every natural method this time to encourage her to come out now lol. I did have my membranes stripped last time as I was overdue and baby did come w/in 2 days (dilated to 3 for 3 weeks). I guess it comes down to how comfortable you would feel having someone else deliver you if you happen to go in those two days.
Big hugs to everyone struggling with gd. I do find it odd how strangers feel the need to know. Even though I am getting my dd, I still find it offensive when someone asks what I am having. If I do or don't say, either way there is the presumption that I must want a girl. I always feel bad for ds2 because people discount him even though I DID want him to be a boy. Also this is my last too (age reasons more than anything), and feeling that sadness of it all being done and am a crying mess too. I am looking forward to my body finally being mine alone in a year (plan to bf for a year).
I can't wait to start hearing birth stories!

[motherofboys]

My hormones are all over the place. I'm easily irritated and find myself crying over almost everything. The other day I broke down for NO reason, honestly I couldn't think of a single reason that I was crying but I couldn't hold back. Madness.

Tonight out side of school I was talking to a lady who was there collecting the children she child minds, she also runs the local Beaver Scouts that my eldest goes to so she knows him well and knows we are having another boy. She was telling me about her boys. She had 5. She had 2 years between the first two, then a few years later fell pregnant with triplets! Naturally! They are now all in their teens and over 6 foot tall, big strapping lads, all super smart, at the local grammer.
It was so nice hearing someone who has been there and done that and raised 5 boys talking about having an all boy family and how great it was, and what its like all those years down the line. She said she had the same reactions back then, she phoned her family to tell them all 3 were boys and got "aw what a shame, couldn't one of them be a girl" and now she gets comments from people about how lucky she is to have them.

[champranjani]

HI Everyone, my due date is oct 18, this is my first pregnancy is there any hints and symptoms for labor to ascertain few days before and aware

[motherofboys]

Hi Champranjani, its a difficult one to answer. There are many signs that your body is heading towards labour, but at the same time they are normal for the last few weeks and don't necessarily mean labour is as close as we would like it to be. And some women wont experience any of them anyway.

Well I had my 38 week appointment today. She said the baby was 'right down there' and made it sound as if he must be full engaged, then wrote 3/5s in my notes. I've never been more than 3/5s engaged before. She measured me and said that the baby is so far down in my pelvis that I was only measuring 33 weeks after measuring on target previously. She then measured all the way to my ribs and said "if I measure to here we will get 38 weeks" and wrote 38 in my notes. She said his heart beat was nice and stead and relaxed and didn't sound like he was going anywhere soon.
Then asked again about parking for my home birth! I said well with my first home birth the midwife arrives at 4:30 am and she found somewhere to leave her car then. She asked again about someone having my boys, I said my SIL lives 2 doors away and she said "does she know shes having them?" Erm no I just assumed it would be ok, of course she knows. Followed by "don't want her getting a surprise when they knock on her door in the middle of the night hahaha" Sorry if I'm in labour in the middle of the night I'm not going to go wake my kids up and send them round there! I will leave them in their beds to sleep, I'm not noisy in labour and the bigger two if they did wake up could be told whats happening and to stay upstairs and they would. If I had an emergency and had to leave again I wouldn't wake them, but would get SIL to come and sit in my house until they woke up.

[*ruby*]

What a strange midwife MOBs, I would have thought one of the benefits of a homebirth is that you don't have to wake and get the kids babysat!

I don't think my baby is even engaged yet so been bouncing on the fit ball trying to get he/she into a good position. Still feeling much smaller than with DS2 who was 9pd 10 so hoping this bub isn't quite so big.

[champranjani]

Thanks Friend,

Today is new moon day, here in India its considered as a un auspicious day! Thank god we crossed!! Hence the upcoming days are very good as the days are in growing phase till 18th Full Moon Day!!!

[motherofboys]

What a strange midwife MOBs, I would have thought one of the benefits of a homebirth is that you don't have to wake and get the kids babysat!

I don't think my baby is even engaged yet so been bouncing on the fit ball trying to get he/she into a good position. Still feeling much smaller than with DS2 who was 9pd 10 so hoping this bub isn't quite so big.

Exactly! And like I want to wake my kids in the middle of the night anyway and get them all excited so they can't go back to sleep and then deal with a new baby and 3 over tired grumpy/whiney/arguing boys all day too LOL
I have to say other than the last school run of the day at 3pm I don't really feel much like his engaged. I don't feel I'm waddling, or like I have anything right down there. That last school run I feel a lot of pressure and 'lightening crotch' but apart from that I feel 'normal' just tired.