Roll-call!! Due June/July/August 2013

[cvd]

It's so good to read some similar stories, makes me feel a lot better even though it's unfortunate for us all lol.

Jennaesue - I can totally see what you mean!!! DH and I were raised VERY differently so I think that's a factor for sure!

BCT - I'm sorry to hear it drove wedges between your DH and you. So far it's not causing problems with us, but I have warned him that one day (like you) I will probably snap and not be able to hold my tongue. But I totally agree as well - they are my children, not hers!

[Praying4Pink]

Aww man cvd, I am super sorry that your MIL is being so snarky towards you. I would imagine that she feels entitled to say something because she is your DH's mother? Even if that something is nothing...if that makes sense. My mom likes to sneak my son candy but she knows that when I say NO candy before dinner I mean it. My MIL respects our decisions and they are the best in laws so I can't say I have experienced what you are going through but I can say that you are doing a fantastic job and no one should juristic what YOU are doing with YOUR children.

OAN: I know a fight will be ensuing soon because my MIL wants us to pierce my daughters ears at 3 months. I had mine done at 3 months and I still tell my mom to this day I wish she would have let me make that decision....I hate jewelry. Plus my niece had a bad experience and she had to undergo surgery. I just don't want to take that chance. So my MIL will just have to deal!

[Mrs_P]

Aw cvd sorry your having MIL problems if its any consolation mine is just as annoying, i get things in stereo off my mom and my mil (although they always have opposite opinions and will never agree which i think is quite funny at times). I know its hard but try not to listen, they are your children and its your body. Isn't the idea of parenting that we learn from our parents mistakes, yes you will make your own but they are your children and providing your doing what you think is best and for the right reasons (you love your kids) they should be supporting you not criticising. I'm always getting compared to my SIL and i really don't think she is the best of parents, certainly not that i would want to be like her anyway and has always palmed her son off on everyone since he was a baby (she left him to go away on holiday abroad at 4 months old and he was breastfeeding - not my idea of parenting but then MIL moans that my boys are too clingy to me and they should be happy with anyone like him!)

Maple, i really like both Ava and Freya what lovely names for him to choose (when i was pregnant with ds3 we couldn't choose a name and ds1 asked he could choose - he picked mario like super mario - needless to say we didn't pick that!)

[WantingPink]

Okay ladies I need your help, advice, thoughts, etc.

I got the results from my MaterniT21 testing today from my Drs office. They test for trisomy 21, 18, and 13 as well as screen for the Y chromosome. The trisomy tests were all negative so I was very thankful for that. There was also no presence of a Y chromosome... so according to the test I am having a GIRL!!! I was so happy when she told me I cried! Of course now that it has been a few hours I am freaking out. Supposedly the gender test for MaterniT21 is 99.4% accurate but in my mind I have all these doubts and crazy thoughts. What if they accidentally switched my test results with someone else's? What if my doctor read me someone else's results? All these crazy stupid things floating around in my head. Should we let our parents know the results? Should I wait until the 20 week scan for conformation?

Does anyone know if there has been any controversy around the MaterniT21 gender results? Can I paint the room pink?? I am I just being crazy paranoid (it is okay if you say yes)

[jennaesue]

Okay ladies I need your help, advice, thoughts, etc.

I got the results from my MaterniT21 testing today from my Drs office. They test for trisomy 21, 18, and 13 as well as screen for the Y chromosome. The trisomy tests were all negative so I was very thankful for that. There was also no presence of a Y chromosome... so according to the test I am having a GIRL!!! I was so happy when she told me I cried! Of course now that it has been a few hours I am freaking out. Supposedly the gender test for MaterniT21 is 99.4% accurate but in my mind I have all these doubts and crazy thoughts. What if they accidentally switched my test results with someone else's? What if my doctor read me someone else's results? All these crazy stupid things floating around in my head. Should we let our parents know the results? Should I wait until the 20 week scan for conformation?

Does anyone know if there has been any controversy around the MaterniT21 gender results? Can I paint the room pink?? I am I just being crazy paranoid (it is okay if you say yes)

Oh! How exciting!! Congratulations! I don't know anything about the test, but it seems like it's trustworthy. I think if I was worried about it, I would call my doctor's office and ask them if they have seen any mistakes with the test.

[cvd]

Aw cvd sorry your having MIL problems if its any consolation mine is just as annoying, i get things in stereo off my mom and my mil (although they always have opposite opinions and will never agree which i think is quite funny at times). I know its hard but try not to listen, they are your children and its your body. Isn't the idea of parenting that we learn from our parents mistakes, yes you will make your own but they are your children and providing your doing what you think is best and for the right reasons (you love your kids) they should be supporting you not criticising. I'm always getting compared to my SIL and i really don't think she is the best of parents, certainly not that i would want to be like her anyway and has always palmed her son off on everyone since he was a baby (she left him to go away on holiday abroad at 4 months old and he was breastfeeding - not my idea of parenting but then MIL moans that my boys are too clingy to me and they should be happy with anyone like him!)

Maple, i really like both Ava and Freya what lovely names for him to choose (when i was pregnant with ds3 we couldn't choose a name and ds1 asked he could choose - he picked mario like super mario - needless to say we didn't pick that!)

Thanks Mrs P. I do feel like I get compared to my SIL, and as you said I also don't think she is the best of parents lol!

[Justjessica]

Wanting pink - that's great news! Don't know anything about the test though but it all sounds positive.

CVD - like everyone else has said, you sound like you are doing a brilliant job. My mum always tells me my MIL is just jealous and insecure and it makes her feel bad to see me doing a good job so she had to bring me down. Maybe yours has jealousy issues/insecurities?

[Justjessica]

so we shared the news w/ kids last night. got a cake that said "baby #5". kids were excited asking when is it coming,feeling my belly,ect. mw appt. here at the home this fri. and dh has a trip so had to tell them

Aww that's so sweet!

[hopingforsaskia]

Cvd I'm really sorry you're going through the mill with your MIL (see what I did there?? ) I have in the past had issues with my mil telling me that I should smack ds1 for running around nude after a bath... Opinions about what I feed them.. Ideas on how to make them behave (jump/how high scenario).. It seems mil's are just destined to step on our toes. I'd put her in her place soon, so you can stop listening to her rubbish.

WantingPink.. I don't know much about those tests either, but I think calling the dr and talking about it would definitely help. in any case I'm going to say CONGRATS!!! Sounds promising that you do have your little lady!!!!

AFM, well, I'm just waiting patiently for my scan in a few weeks..... I have discovered that I've eaten far too much in the last couple of weeks and I've put on 3kgs (!!!!!!) so I'm trying to ignore how sick I feel and eat less and better options... I hate pregnancy weight gain. Gets me every time!!! Even though this time has been a MUCH slower gain, I guess I got a little overly confident and got slack with my food choices and it's slipped me by.. Hehe. Still in a perfectly good weight range mind you.. So all good there. I'll just be good.. Better..

[Violet_]

I'm not really sure why anyone would recommend that someone ignore rude comments from a MIL? I see several people have recommended it. Why should one ignore? That lady should be put in her place asap. I wouldn't ignore a friend or anyone else that told me how to parent or crossed the line. I would talk to her about it, and the very next time anything comes up, that way you can talk about it before things get much worse. If you let it go, you will end up snapping and that would quite likely do more damage to the relationship then just talking about it when the situation arises. I can't see any benefit whatsoever in sitting there listening to her say things that are not polite or thoughtful. Tell her you don't think it's fair to compare her to your SIL all the time. Tell her everything. My MIL and I had one big fight, got all our issues out and have been great mates ever since. I'm glad we talked things through as we are now able to have an excellent relationship.