How we got our boys!

[hbcd123]

I have a DS and a DD and after reading about swaying i can see the differance beetween my lifestyle. when i concieved my DS it was first ov after a mc i think it must have been on ov day because i paniced ( wanted realationship to end and didnt want to be tied to him through a child) and took the MA pill but i still got pregnant so the egg must have been there for it not to have worked! i was at my heaviest adult weight of 165lbs and i was gaining (comfort eating due to unhappy relationship) frequent dtd every day and i never exercised i had tons of EWCM and i was 9 years younger! constant arguments with ex so prob had high T levels planning my secret escape all the time!! all very different when i concieved my dd however i did a lot of boy sway when i concieved her I was lifting weights 2x a week and cardio 2x a week eating breakfast (heavily fortified) drinking lots of strong tea and i ate meat and fish almost daily! but i was at my smallest and looseing weight and i never ate past 3pm i was always hungry! and cold lol!! HTH

[prayforaboy]

Tahnks for the information.

[Rainbow baby]

No swaying. No added salt but heaps because I am a fast food lover but never added to any meals. Hate anything healthy, don't excercise , over weight, coffee lover at least 3 a day, Loads of ewcm and tested ph is 6-7 now. Love meat. Kids allergic to most meats so we eat beef probably most nights in some form. Don't drink much water at all and a lot of soda/soft drink. Love breads and cereals! Dh is exactly the same Oh we both don't drink at all maybe one or twice a year!

[meeks32]

Hi all,

I have been reading this website for a while as we are TTC a girl after 2 boys. This thread and the girl one are so vital, I thought I had to post my experience for other mums TTC boy.

DS1 - No idea about O as I was completely naive to that all back then, frequent bd since we were on honeymoon, every other day, sometimes twice. I drank alcohol but only sometimes, and not that much. I had 1 'real' coffee a day (latte) and drank decaf tea frequently. Also drank green tea and chai tea made from leaves. Hardly any dairy in my diet due to lactose intolerance, so I drank a LOT of soy milk. I drank a lot of orange juice. I took vitamins daily, had been on centrum for years. I ate super healthy, lots of vegetables and fruit, very mixed and varied diet. I was eating slightly more calories back then, than with DS2, i'd say around 1800 - 2000 a day. If I ever binged it would be salty things like chips and dip, or I would sneak some soft cheese despite being intolerant. I did eat a lot of red meat, chicken and fish, and rarely ate vegetarian dishes. Lots of pasta, tomatoes, spinach etc because I cook lots of italian food. NEVER skipped breakfast, but didn't ever eat a lot either. I had musli or oats for breakfast or if in a rush, toast with vegemite (salt!). Never drank soft drink (soda) and watched salt intake as a rule, however like I said my binge foods were salt-laiden, even though I didn't binge often. We were on the pill and taking malaria tablets for holiday o/s, didn't know malaria tablets can cancel the pill and hey presto - pregnant!

DS2 - I had read a tiny bit about swaying and this time bubs was planned, I was on prenatal multivitamin AND high dose folic acid, no idea why but my doc put me on 5000mg (megafol 5). I tried the shettles method for TTC girl, 3-5 days before - FAILED! Got pregnant 2nd cycle off pill. However I do think my diet was still bad for TTC girl. I was still drinking orange juice daily, still having coffee and tea, lots of soy milk and lots of varied fruit and veg. Little dairy.

I believe my ph was naturally around 7 (higher with ds1 possibly) because this time, before I started swaying for baby 3, I tested ph and it was 7. After cranberry and acidophilus (inner health +) It was 5, and with diet now 4 to 4.3. I can see the supplement's biggest benefit is changing ph. I was eating 1200-1400 calories a day and going for walks most days. Fruits included banana, apple, orange, grapes, mango etc. Veggies included potatoes (often), avocado, spinach, tomato, broccoli, peas, corn, carrots etc. Ate lots of olives and other salty things like spicy tomato salsa.

With both boys I had lots of CM (maybe due to soy intake).

This time i'm heavily on dairy, stopped soy milk entirely, on cranberry, folic acid and inner health +, was on calcium but stopped after reading lots on here about how it may not work and may even increase nutrients so much it sways boy. Focussing on reducing salt and potassium and eating 1200-1500 calories a day. Jogging. No red meat, chicken, fish. Bland diet with few veggies and few fruits (only approved ones like raspberries, eggplant etc). Lots of milk and cheese, despite the ill effects. Loosing weight. Bd once in 7 days, so trying once a week before predicted O, then trying for O+12 as well. No rush to get pregnant as this is my last so I don't mind reducing my changes by fewer attempts. Any tips?

[atomic sagebrush]

Meeks, if you don't mind starting a new thread and asking q's in there, I would appreciate it!

[Tiggerian]

I didn't even know about swaying when I got preggers with my two boys, but looking back I can definately see a pattern!

My eldest boy wasn't planned, but he was conceived around xmas/new year and well.. I'm a total sucker for calorific christmas food! its start about november with my hording and eating everything from cakes, cookies to cooked dinners. Anything Christmas - put it in front of me and I'll have inhaled it in second! When I conceived my eldest I found out (after) that in a matter of months I had gained at least 10 lbs! I have to admit greek Souvlakis had a lot to do with it (lots of meat, salt og probably quite fatty), lots of chocolate, sweets, food on the go mainly.

With my youngest son I had just lost tons of weight and was looking very skeletal, not a good look for me, so I decided to fatten myself up a bit (believing it was better for the baby I was trying to make). Again I gained weight quite quickly - again my diet was quite high in meat, salts and sugary snacks.

To add to all this I have PCOS and my blood sugar and testosterone levels must have been quite high!

[HopingWishingPraying]

Looking back I realise I was doing a 100% perfect boy sway for my first 2, and a pretty damn decent accidental boy sway whilst doing the hardcore IG diet for a girl with my third.

Boy 1: My husband had been diagnosed with a low sperm count (he has always had this and interestingly we have 3 boys!) so I was doing all sorts of things to try to get his sperm count up as I was MEGA stressed that we wouldnt be able to have a baby. I had him on zinc, tribulus, Vitamin C and E, selenium, green tea, ginseng, folic acid and a whole lot of other stuff. He noticed a big increase in libido and energy and did feel that these supps were "doing something" to him. I also was taking robbitussen to try to increase EWCM, I think I might have been taking evening primrose oil too. I read on a forum I frequented at the time that a lot of women were using egg whites "up there" to increase the chance of pregnancy, so I did that too, inserting about 5mls of eggwhite pre BD. Lots of BD across O, using OPKs and propping my hips afterwards. We were newly married (6 months of marriage) so lots of BDing and lots of eating out. I was definitely eating a very high calorie diet and we would have eaten out at least twice a week - my favourites were always creamy pastas with lots of cheese etc on them. I ate a lot of dairy too. It was a full moon, I had a very high stress job and was also extremely stressed and distressed about being told about the low sperm count ... I was most definitely obsessed and on a mission to get pregnant. I probably have a bit of PCOS and insulin resistance too - I ended up with gestational diabetes this pregnancy too. I dont eat a huge amount of red meat or meat in general (only about twice a week) but would have got a lot of fat and protein from dairy and other stuff. Lots of snacking, always ate late and night (ie midnight as I was a shift worker). Looking back... is there ANY wonder I got a boy?

Pregnancy 2: I was breastfeeding an 8 month old and was desperate to get my cycles back to try again for number 2. I took vitex for quite a number of months to try to restore my cycles. I cant remember much about what my diet was like around this time, I know I did go on a diet to lose some baby kilos sometime around now although I cant remember if it was right before I got pregnant. I had read up a bit about swaying by then and was taking cranberry tablets and using a lime douche pre and post BD to try to get a girl. No other swaying factors though. New moon. No eggwhite, but I cant remember if I got my DH on the suppliments - possibly not as I got pg with my first cycle after AF so maybe had not started them before PPAF. Got pregnant with a girl, but lost her at 9 weeks due to turners syndrome (meaning she only had one X chromosome... so potentially the sperm that fertilised her may not have had an X or a Y chromosome).

DS2: Desperate after a miscarriage I went straight back to having my DH on all those supps, dropped the cranberry and the lime douches, picked up the eggwhites again. I was exercising to try to lose weight but was mainly doing a lot of strength and resistance training, building muscle. I think I had previously been dieting but had dropped it (maybe signalling to my body times had improved). I conceived him weeks after Christmas (food, food, food!) and also just after a vacation in November where we ate really badly... so I remember very clearly that when I fell pregnant with him I was lamenting my recent rapid weight gain. I had put on HEAPS of weight and started my pregnancy with him at the same weight I had been at 9 months pregnant with my last baby 17 months before. Full moon again too. Again... any wonder I had a boy?

DS3: About 8 months before conceiving him I went on weight watchers and dropped a lot of weight by calorie counting. I then stopped Weight Watchers and started the IG girl sway diet hardcore. Took all the IG supps too - vitamin D, calcium, magnesium, cranberry etc. When I say hardcore I mean that I was very diligent about making sure I only ate the foods "allowed" - I never cheated about this - BUT in hindsight I realise that I was eating the "allowed foods" pretty freely. I ate chicken or lamb every single day, lots and LOTS of eggs (I remember lamenting about how much money we were spending on eggs and kind of worrying if I was having too many eggs) a huge bowl of greek yoghurt every day, 3 classes of milk, milky puddings for "supper", cheese, some custard or icecream on occasions, lots of pasta. I had read Atomic's stuff about losing weight etc being part of the sway but the thing is I actually WAS losing weight on the IG sway - I lost 8kg in total - so I "thought" that I was doing the LE part of things ok as well. Knowing what I know now about the LE diet I absolutely shudder to think how much protein and fat I would have been consuming every day - let alone how many calories. The other thing is that typically I dont actually eat much meat (never would eat it every day) and when I was on the Weight Watchers diet I was eating a lot of carbs (cruskits for lunch or a small potato etc). I think, in hindsight, that going straight from the calorie restricted, high carb WW onto the IG diet with all the meat, dairy and protein, I probably massively indicated to my body that times had improved and things were good again... I definitely would have been in "improving condition" even though I was losing weight. I used soy isoflavones with him as I have long silly cycles, and it gave me a lot of EWCM. I didnt use an antihistamine on the cycle we conceived. In some ways it is very sad that I dropped the WW diet (which probably was swaying pink for me) specifically to go onto the IG diet that ended up swaying blue for me.... but of course when I look at my little DS3 I know he was meant to be and I cant regret anything.

So there we have it - all up, I think swaying HE style DEFINITELY has worked for me several times. It also proves that people who yoyo diet can still conceive either gender, depending on whether they are on an "up" or "down" swing at the time they conceive. Seeing as my body seems to respond so well to swaying HE style, I just hope and pray that the LE diet works just as well for me.

[Atsaukina1]

thought I'd add mine since I have 3 boys. I had a dd 1st but unlike others I do not see the difference in my lifestyle or diet. I have always weighed about the same,never dieted or exercised. I love a high fat diet and eat all day. When I got pregoo w/ my dd 12 years ago I was actually working at taco bell so eating lots lol.That is also how I eat w/ my boys. I don't eat meat but still get a lot of protein and about 3000 cals daily. One differece is w/ dd I didn't have lots of ewcm back then and now w/ my boys I do. Also didn't O ever back then (different partner thank god lol) so boy moms try to get that O Another thig maybe it swayed was when I conceived dd I was working graveyard so my lack of sleep was def. different so boy moms get lots of rest Good Luck

[meeks32]

I have already written up how I had my boys above, just wanted to add big points I think made me have boys were: SALT!!! MEAT!!! Tomatoes!!! HUGE amounts of garlic and onion, lots of orange juice. Soy milk. Eating very healthy but snacked a lot, maintaining or even loosing weight at the time but just lots of nutritious foods, tons of multivitamins and supplements, lots of green tea and herbal tea as well.

PLEASE mums that are ttc boy, don't start eating calories and junk to gain, that's not the way most of us got our boys, most of us seem to eat a LOT of fruit and veg, very healthy nutritious food, then as secondary factors, we may have treats, but not as the main part of our diet. Eg I HATE sugar, and rarely eat high calorie things, but I had larger servings of healthy foods and snacked a lot on healthy things.

[Rosie85]

Mmmmmmm I was not eating healthy and I got three boys.