Dreaming Pink Opposites Due Winter 2013/14

[Mabel_79]

Emmyroo, so glad baby was happy and healthy at the scan. A weight off your mind no doubt. Really sorry it confirmed that this is not your little daughter. I'm sure you will probably have some good and some pretty bad days now, but three weeks on from my confirmation that I was having DS3 I can actually say it's getting better.
I have started putting together a box of cute outfits for him- even a couple of really nice things. My first two were just dressed in Tesco own stuff as I worry about money, but then I thought what the heck. Seeing as I'm going to be saving money on clothes and toys by not having to buy girls stuff I would get a few nice things. Have got a cute Hatley babygro and a knitted cream one from Gap which will look so scummy around Christmas time.

Told 3 random people in shops today with a huge smile on my face that after trying one last time for a girl I'm having another boy. Seems the more times I can smile and say it the more normal it seems and the more I feel fine about it.

Still stumped with names though. The only one DH and I have warmed to, my MIL said she loved. Now she's said that I feel I need to hate it on principal!

Hope everyone is having an ok day xx

[myrainbowgirl]

Mabel - I love what you're doing...telling others you're happy, because I honestly think if you keep doing it, you'll believe it. Because, ya know what? It really IS great! It's rare to have children of all one gender, but it's special! We mamas will be the queen of our castles, and all our little princes will (hopefully) treat us that way!

AFM - Had an extremely tough weekend last weekend, but once again, DH was amazing and had just the right words to say. Oh so thankful for him! Trying to let go of my dreams at this point, and just trust God's perfect plan for our family. I know in my heart it's what's best. I know it will be a process to get over GD, but I am confident I'll get there.

Totally went shopping today! Unfortunately didn't have much time, but got a few cute little things, and am glad I am having my first winter baby so I actually NEED to shop! Woohoo!

[mindyjean]

It's been very nice and comforting to read everyone's posts and your experiences as we try to navigate through our feelings. I've had a few more negative responses from people finding out our gender, but have also had a lot of people think that 3 boys is pretty cool--so I just cherish those responses and those people and try to stay positive.

I mean, having a healthy baby boy is such a blessing when I see parents out there who can't conceive a child at ALL, or baby is born sick, ect. I have a friend currently with a child with cancer, so I can't even begin to feel sorry for myself when she's going through that.

I had a dream the other night: I dreamt about going through labor with this baby, and he was born a girl. The feelings in the dream were so wonderful--both DH and I were so happy in the dream, our 2 boys just loved her and were so surprised that it was a girl, people kept bringing us gifts of girl clothes since we hadn't bought any, and I kept showing her off to people in the hospital.................when I woke up, I just felt SO HAPPY, but then slowly started to wake up and realized it was a dream. I was so sad again. I am still sad when I think of this dream, and how much I want it to be true.

[zebaniee]

Hugs mindyjean. I understand how you feel, I am holding a glimmer of hope that this baby will be born a boy even though. Have had two scans that said girl.

I feel sad that my partner and I never got to feel the elation of finally having a son. I have already started thinking about going for a fourth baby but my partner has said no. The only reason he agreed to try for #3 in the first place was that I was so sure the sway would work...for a lot it did, but not me

[EmmyRoo]

It is so hard. I think the wondering why did it work for others and not me question is the hardest to work through. I can't see myself ever truly managing to get rid of this GD. Other people will always be having babies, whether they're my friends, my younger sisters, my kids, my grand kids etc etc, I will have to face people having girls for the rest of my life. I just hope that once this LO is born I feel that I am done with this stage of my life and am happy to move on to the next phase, a huge part of why we went for no. 3 was that I just didn't feel finished having babies yet. I just want to feel content and move past this onto feeling at peace with my family and able to enjoy our life together.
X

[Dreamofpink]

Emmy that's totally how I feel too. I don't want to be 70 years old & still feeling that pain of not having my own daughter. Grand-daughters would be great but just not the same.

I had a hard day on Monday when out on a home-ed day. There were loads of families there, the vast majority were mixed gender families. A lot we hadn't met before as it was a cross-county thing. Two families that I kind of know but haven't seen for a couple of years were there. Both were 3 boy families last time I saw them. One family has added ds4 & the other have twin boys due next month! So not only did I feel the petulant child that GD can be shouting "it's not fair!!" at me all day, but any hope I had was extinguished by seeing those families. They are lovely families and it's nice seeing their great boys, but it's not my dream IYKWIM!

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[Dreamofpink]

Btw DH was joking about going on Ebay & buying a baby girl earlier. I said that all we needed was a trip to California! That will never happen as it's way out of our reach. The sensible me would feel like I had to pay off some of our mortgage if we ever had that sort of money. I just couldn't land us in debt for my dream. I'd rather keep going & fill our house with love & kids! Once this ridiculous house sale (on buyers #3 now) finally goes through we'll have a house with room for 6 kids if they shared 2 to a room but the challenge is my vba2c. I don't want 6 c-sections!! DH won't want 6 kids though lol!

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[myrainbowgirl]

Hi ladies,
Yes, it's so discouraging seeing other families. MOST families have both genders, and that will always be in my face. Almost all my friends have both genders as well. I am lucky that my sister has 3 boys (and they are done), so I don't have that screaming at me all the time. BUT, in the world around me, I will constantly be exposed to little girls, and the pain of not having one. It's so sad! But DH has basically said we'll just keep going till we have a girl...I cannot imagine, as this is boy #4 and I am 36. I really don't want more kids, but am happy that it's a possibility. Just not sure I want to. I am trying to find peace with all boys, would love to just be content with that. We've also talked about adoption and HT, but neither option really feels right at the moment. That could change...we'll see. Arrrgh. Just wish it had worked out THIS time.

I'm starting to tell more people, and honestly haven't really gotten any negative responses. The most common one was "Were you/are you hoping for a girl?" It's not negative, and honestly think it's not intended to be hurtful. The only reason it is is because it's a reminder of what I didn't get. So, I can't fault people for saying that!

For the most part, I am doing better, although I still have my moments. Got to hear baby boy's heartbeat yesterday at my 16-week check. A sweet sound, no doubt! My doc told me I was so blessed to have 4 boys, and I know she's right.

[Mabel_79]

Hi all.
Yesterday I had a really bad day. It's my niece's first birthday soon and my SIL has asked for cute clothes. Shopping for cute girls clothes is possibly the most torturous activity I think u could put someone with GD through. Came home feeling so sad.
But today I had an amazing day! My eldest was sick last night after one of his migranes so I let him have a day off school today (school 48hr rule for sickness and all that).
By mid morning it was clear we needed to get out the house as the boys were bouncing off the walls so took them to the local farm park.
It was deserted as most kids in school so we had the run of the place. They were amazing. So well behaved and watching these two brothers playing together was totally fab. Can't wait for their little brother to arrive and be part of it all.

In terms of all the 'were u hoping for a girl' comments, I now say as soon as I talk to people (with big smile on face) "we tried one last time for a girl, but it's another boy! It's going to be wonderful chaos in my home!"
Not much anyone can really say to that so not getting any negative comments any more (although one lady who is a mother of three boys and no girls herself just burst out laughing when I told her it was another boy)! ; )

[GeCon]

I had some pretty random stranger asking me if we knew what we were having, I replied not yet as I didn't really think it was any of her business. So she goes on how nice a little girl would be and I say with a smile: "yeah, it would be nice, but another little boy would be just as great." And she says: "Oh, but a girl would be so much nicer!" I was too baffled to respond anything more than "I don't think so."