March Chit Chat

[begonia]

FX Lobella AND DM are holding baby girls on or before Weds!

DM I *hated* late pg sex!!! I didn't do it this time around; with the other 2 I did, always hoping it would make them come out! Never worked. So this time I just didn't even bother ... I felt miserable and the LAST thing I wanted to do was sex. Poor DH is in the longest dry spell of his life!

Zan I think hypnobirthing is fascinating. I had planned to try it with this one but really, once I found out it was a girl I was just so depressed I really didn't care anymore. So I didn't bother. I had a great birth anyway but IF we have #4 I think I might look into it again.

Mocha I hope there is some breakthrough for boy swayers! If I had done an IG sway I'd try atomic's next time, but having read just about every study I can find myself, I'm convinced Atomic's is a better approach, esp for a boy sway. The thing I hesitate most about it like I said, I've read a lot of the studies, and some research points to things that really would be impossible to impact intentionally ... some of it is just down to luck and whether the month you get pg happens to be a month that your own personal body chemistry is favorable to the gender you want. IMO at least. Tricky business this swaying stuff!

[Glittergirl]

DM no baby yet? Keep coming on to check! Ewww I really hated DTD in late pregnancy...never worked for us and this time I was so miserable I didn't even attempt it and she came a week early--others were always a little post due so I hear ya on post due dates--they suck LOL I always liked the old dudes too--dh is 9 years older and I was in love with Clint Eastwood when I was a teenager . HaHa Dh is also going through a dry spell. My 6 week checkup is coming up and I may be sneaky and tell him my OB wants me to wait a little bit. Im so maternal and dry from breastfeeding I can't even pretend to want sex! He's used to it though, he jokes there will be no action for another 2 years since I breastfeed forever...
Ok ladies sending you all labor vibes! I'm getting lonely here waiting for someone else to have sleepless nights, sore boobs, and spit-up on them

[Glittergirl]

sorry for the run-on sentences that dont make sense....im always holding Eva and its hard to type one handed!

[Mochagirl]

Yeah, my poor dh is in a dry spell too. We haven't dtd since I conceived this little bean in December! He keeps asking why I'm not horny since I'm in my 2nd trimester now, but honestly I don't have the slightest desire....

Z - I'd be interested in hypnobirthing, but I'd definitely have to attend classes solo since we don't have a babysitter we can call. Is there any way I can learn about it through DVDs or a book?

That reminds me of another issue that you ladies might understand. Do any of you feel the odd one out to still be having babies when all your friends are done? All of my friends stopped at 1 or 2 kids, which means their kids are all in the 'sweet zone' now of being school age and low maintenance, and here I am starting all over again! I don't know anyone my age still having babies, and certainly no one having their 4th kid! They all think I'm insane. They're also all back at work now which means I don't know any other SAHMs I can hang out with. I don't exactly have much in common with the 20-something first time moms I see at the library, and I worry I'm going to get lonely this time around since in the past I kept my sanity by planning lots of playdates and socialising with other moms then....

[lobella2]

Mocha all of my friends think I am crazy to have 3 kids. They all stopped at 2. I do have one friend that just had her first, but all my other friends have school age kids also. I never would have felt complete with just 2. I always wanted 3. I would even consider a 4th down the road, but my husband would never even consider that. He would have been fine with 2, but let me have my 3rd.

GG I can't wait for sleepless nights, sore boobs, and spit up I am so tired of being pregnant!

My dr. told me to have sex like 3 times a week now to bring on labor. I did not do that with the other 2 and they were early. I am so not in the mood this time either. Late pregnancy sex is way too awkward.

[Mochagirl]

I think if I'd gotten a pigeon pair, I would have been content with two. Since my first were twin boys, though, I knew I'd end up with 3 or more since I still wanted a girl. Looking back now, though, I'm glad it happened this way. I grew up with 3 big brothers and so will my daughter. I think it was meant to be

[DoulaMama]

Well that was awful!!!! LOL! Now I'm crampy as hell, the baby has dropped even lower and my SPD pain is radiating down to my knees! Lovely I laid in bed trying to keep the "deposit" as close to my cervix as possible...and my hubby kept cracking jokes about the piranha sperm eating away at the mucus plug... lol! Nice.

M- I think it is so awesome that the family makeup of your family will be the same as your own, growing up How perfect oh and if you're interested in Hypnobirthing- You can order a used but in great condition Hypnobabies study course. It's a great course, comes with 6 DVD's, and all the paperwork. If you want, I can ship mine over to you. It would cost less in shipping than it would for the study pack. Just let me know

B- I soooo totally hope that a swaying breakthrough happens in the next couple years and you can more confidently try for your boy I hear you on the third tri. sex...gawd I hate it. I tend to heal really fast after birth so I'm usually 99% ready by 2w PP. I think he's hoping that will be the case again...lol

GG- I can't wait to join the sleepless nights!!! I've never been this excited about getting this show on the road, before. I just can't wait to see what my daughter looks like!!! Eeeekkkk!!!

Z- I hope the classes continue to be great! You're going to have a lovely birth Thanks for the labour vibes!


I hope these annoying cx's actually do something...maybe "baby day" is sooner than I think! I'll update if anything changes!!

[Mochagirl]

DM - what a sweet offer! Do you really think the course could help? I didn't handle my natural posterior birth all that well last time...

You are a brave woman to dtd when you're already so uncomfortable. I hope all that yuckiness is worth it and you go into labour really soon!

[dannikins]

we are all waiting for your updates DM....

good luck!

[zanacal]

Mocha - I was going to suggest you ask DM about DVDs as she's mentioned them before but she got there first I certainly think it can help. I've used CDs in the past and with DS3 I found it really helpful in early labour but I lost it when it got really intense because I hadn't involved DH and he couldn't help me to 'bring it back'. If there's any way you can get DH on board, even with DVDs/CDs, then do - it'll give him something useful to do anyway I don't have any friends close by who have babies (or any close girl friends at all actually!) but I don't know if I'll try to meet any new ones either. Most of the mums who go to baby groups are first time mums and our lives would be poles apart - and when those groups are on, the boys are out at school/pre-school and baby is asleep, I don't think I'll want to go out anywhere!

My hypnotherapist told us that she had an anaesthetist client who had surgery on his lungs with only hypnotherapy (her in the room) and no other pain relief - he had his chest wall cut open, his ribs broken and his lungs operated on. Yikes - no thank you!

I have no problem whatsoever with third trimester sex