TTC Blue Crew Grads

**SpicyTunaSushi** · October 3rd, 2011, 10:25 AM

Congrats Babydes- glad you are feeling peace about it....

**Foxy** · October 3rd, 2011, 10:46 AM

Babydes - Congratulations on your sweet baby girl! I'm glad that everything looks good with her.

**Foxy** · October 3rd, 2011, 10:48 AM

Flava - I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope it wont be long before we see you again!

**ELP** · October 3rd, 2011, 12:50 PM

Congratulations on a precious baby girl to join your family babyDxxx Just wait til you meet her, she will be the most precious thing you've ever seen, I promise xxxxx

**babydes56** · October 3rd, 2011, 02:11 PM

Thanks ladies, i'm still in shock at how well i feel about it, good thing isnt it? Like i said i dont know how i'll feel later & like Begonia said it's what people are going to say about 3 girls that's going to upset me more. I'll also feel sad knowing i wont ever have a son but hey what we want doesnt necessarily mean that's what's intended for us in this life. I've been telling myself that having this girl is a true blessing & even the stupid comments people will make wont matter soon. It took me over a yr to fall preg so i am happy to have this girl & i know we will all love her to bits

**begonia** · October 3rd, 2011, 05:41 PM

Originally Posted by babydes56

It's a girl!! I just knew it but still had hope. I was surprised at how fine i was when the tech said she thinks it's a girl because i didnt expect i'd be that ok with it. I think as the days go by the reality of not having a son is going to kick in & upset me but today i feel fine. DH looked disappointed but says he's fine & that the main thing is the baby's healthy

Babydes, I will say ... I felt the exact same ... "I just knew it but still had hope." For some reason I just *knew* it was another girl for us too. I will say I think you're spot on, as the days go by you'll likely have some days that are a little harder than others. It takes time to shift the mental picture I think. For the past 3 years, since I knew DD2 was a girl, I had been envisioning our family with a blue caboose. Heck I saw myself with 3 boys before we had any kids, so with every girl I've had to let go of part of my dream. So that has made it very hard to let this one go, because I just SAW it so vividly, and now ... I keep trying to change the dream to fit the reality. Occasionally that makes me smile, picturing my 3 daughters, but more often I do get sad thinking we'll never have a son. I know it will be easier once she arrives and I can kiss her sweet face. But I also know I'm probably never going to stop wishing I had a son. Just have to learn to live with it; life isn't always what we want it to be but it's still good

Have to run now, but wanted to say congratulations, and I understand how you feel! HUGS! I hope you keep coming around. I pop in now and again and I'm sure eventually will be able to come back. Today I just had to check on you!

**begonia** · October 3rd, 2011, 05:45 PM

Originally Posted by babydes56

Thanks ladies, i'm still in shock at how well i feel about it, good thing isnt it? Like i said i dont know how i'll feel later & like Begonia said it's what people are going to say about 3 girls that's going to upset me more. I'll also feel sad knowing i wont ever have a son but hey what we want doesnt necessarily mean that's what's intended for us in this life. I've been telling myself that having this girl is a true blessing & even the stupid comments people will make wont matter soon. It took me over a yr to fall preg so i am happy to have this girl & i know we will all love her to bits

I keep reminding myself how many of those boy moms I envy (oh there is one with 3 of the CUTEST, stabs me every time I see them) would love to have a daughter. My grandmother told me if we all threw our problems in a pile and saw what everyone else was dealing with, we'd grab ours back in a second.

And I love what you said that what we want doesn't necessarily mean what is intended for us in life. It's true. Hard to accept, but if we can just want what we have we'll all be happier. Easier said than done for sure but I know I'm working on it.

Hope you went out and bought something special for your newest little lady

Congrats again on a healthy little one!

**TTC5** · October 3rd, 2011, 08:02 PM

Originally Posted by babydes56

It's a girl!! I just knew it but still had hope. I was surprised at how fine i was when the tech said she thinks it's a girl because i didnt expect i'd be that ok with it. I think as the days go by the reality of not having a son is going to kick in & upset me but today i feel fine. DH looked disappointed but says he's fine & that the main thing is the baby's healthy

Congrats on your little girl! How many daughters do you have? xx

**3Pink1Blue** · October 3rd, 2011, 10:49 PM

I've said it before and I'll say it again I LOVE having 3 daughters, screw people and their shitty comments

We wanted 4 so we swayed, we didn't go for 4 in pursuit of a boy. We were fully prepared for and looking forward to a life with 4 girls. It sucks a bit in theory but it's fab once you line up all those lovely little people.

**babydes56** · October 4th, 2011, 11:54 AM

B, i'm the same as you in that i saw myself with at least a son but now that dream is all gone & it's upsetting. Last night DH was snoring so i woke up & laid in bed thinking wow i'm having another girl & could we have done things differently. I blamed him for smoking & for being a vegetarian but then i stopped myself & said i cant change what's done & therefore there's no point in dwelling over it. I soooo wanted to prove those who said "oh it's another girl" wrong especially someone who keeps mentioning how awful teenage girls are compared to boys aaargh!

Nevermind, just keep telling yourself that all this wont matter once we see our darling daughters

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