Due March/April/May 2017 (3)

[Burakoam]

I'll receive some judgement for this but actually I chose to medicate her. She is on quillivant and it helps a lot just not entirely as it's short acting and doesn't stay in her system more than 6-8 hours. We have tried therapy etc but some of it is her age and stubbornness. I love her dearly but daily she drives me up the wall and to the edges of my own sanity. Her tantrums are awful and I swear she screams and cries over everything. All the baby has to do is touch her hair (pat her head) and she screams how she is pulling her hair..ugh.Am hoping she outgrows some of it in the next few years... but realistically I know GAD is probably life long.

[pinkinthestars]

No judgement here each and to their own I feel your pain about the screaming over everything by son is like that and is overly sensitive , but that's just his reactions to surroundings and him learning to cope with his emotions it's not an easy task
Was just a suggestion from my own experience hope I didn't upset you in anyway.

[purple]

Burakoam, does she also have some sensory processing issues? Our son has some minor sensory issues and also a bit of anxiety too but his is all part of having ASD. He isn't too bad compared to some kids as he is very high functioning but it can be challenging at times (although all kids can be challenging, even those without a diagnosis!).

[All*blue*everything]

Burakoam, does she also have some sensory processing issues? Our son has some minor sensory issues and also a bit of anxiety too but his is all part of having ASD. He isn't too bad compared to some kids as he is very high functioning but it can be challenging at times (although all kids can be challenging, even those without a diagnosis!).

There's a theme here, my eldest son is also waiting to be diagnosed for asd, his meltdowns can be horrific im dreading him being like that when the baby comes..

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[purple]

There's a theme here, my eldest son is also waiting to be diagnosed for asd, his meltdowns can be horrific im dreading him being like that when the baby comes..

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How old is he? Do you get much assistance in the UK for him if he is diagnosed? We have the national disability scheme (NDIS) here so you have to apply for a plan and then they give you funding for OT's, psychologists, speech pathologist and other services depending on the childs needs.

[All*blue*everything]

How old is he? Do you get much assistance in the UK for him if he is diagnosed? We have the national disability scheme (NDIS) here so you have to apply for a plan and then they give you funding for OT's, psychologists, speech pathologist and other services depending on the childs needs.

He's 10 school picked up in it 2 years ago and been waiting to see a specialist for a year. It won't make much difference expect when he goes to secondary school they will realise he's not acting up, he already gets extra help at school with subjects he struggles with and he does a Lego therapy club etc...hes much better at school now its more at home we struggle..hes like jeckyl and Hyde x

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[Burakoam]

I was not offended i am just used to the judgy remarks (my own parents make them)..it was time to increase her anxiety medicine to 7 days a week instead of 5 and my dad said "You cant do that it alters her brain do you want her hearing voices!?" I had to resist rolling my eyes at my own father because thats not how the medicine works and if its the right med and the right dose that shouldnt happen..

She hasnt ever been evaluated or diagnosed for sensory processing problems but i have high suspicions. Honestly i think alot would be explained if someone told me she is very very mildly autistic. Alot of her life fits within the spectrum...including high intelligence..she is ahead of her class and does some 2nd grade work (shes in 1st but she is one of the youngest kids in her class) she was 3 years old and stunned me with words like "octagon" instead of stop signs lol...She has to have at least a small routine or her meltdowns and tantrums are way worse...i mean literally as ive heard parents describe their autistic kids it always sounds word for word like mine other than she would be so high functioning no one has caught it

[Lissastick]

Sounds like your husband is open to a third, do this is not the end of your journey! Xx

But, I'm not really wanting a third. I have really only wanted 2 children and I've doubted, and still doubting that I can handle two. I realize that I might feel different, especially if this child was "easier". But, the ONLY way I would have another is if I could GUARANTEE that she was a girl. Two boys is bearable, but three? Nope. Not for me.

I have plans to get into acting again and if everything works out, I will get a commercial acting agent and hopefully get jobs that will help my husband and I pay off some of our debt. If I can manage to do that, we might do high tech for a girl. But, that's a whole new can of worms!

So, I really feel like this is the end for me...

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[Burakoam]

Lissa from a kindred spirit to another.. if you are certain you can handle only 2 I wouldn't even do high tech unless you know 100% the baby going into you is an XX embryo and then I'd make sure you can really handle 3 just to get your girl. Oh my god I wish I had stopped after my first. Then accepted I was meant to be a mom of two girls after I had Angela and never took this risk. I still have days where I wanna beat myself in the face for doing this. I never wanted 4 kids and even if this baby was a boy I'd still be panicking I think. It's not just that she is a she it's "oh my god what have I done" period.

[purple]

I know I would struggle with 3 if my age gaps were closer. I still think it will be hard having a 3rd but with the boys being older it should be a bit more managable for me. I also has the 'what have I done' thoughts when I first got pregnant (all 3 times ttc this 3rd child). I still see little toddlers around and question why I'm going back to do it again! I'm also really excited about meeting her in March so it really is mixed emotions