TTC boy this summer... sway buddies?

[Blue-dream]

Hi Amel,

Welcome to the thread and good luck with your boy sway.

I am ttc since July still no luck. This month I have finished my ovulation but couldn't see any non flashing smiley on CB but still went ahead and tried based on FF predictions and also dtd EOD after that for 2-3 attempts. Now have stopped testing and in 2WW. I am trying not to raise my hopes up no any symptoms yet though other than minor twinges in my boobs and occasional light cramping in lower abdomen. But have had all these even in my previous cycles

I think what Sora meant about posting sway was few people post their attempts in swaying, similar format to successful sways, to get atomic's and other ladies comments on it.

[Throwaway_panther]

Amel : Hey welcome ! I may be trying end of October/start of November so we can support each other... I'm not sure pounds are the only thing that sway. Some mothers of boys I know are very thin and I'm way overweight so if pounds were the thing, I would have 2 boys, not 2 girls. It's more about nutrients and regular meals really. Did you post your sway somewhere ?

Panther : Oh dear, it's terrible. I know what it's like to loose an animal. I've lost almost all the cats that grew with me these last few years and it's so hard to see them go ! I told myself the same thing, they won't play with my girls ! One of the last to go had almost the same kind of problem than your dog. She was feeling a bit unwell, was treated for some digestive illness. But she didn't bounce back after that, she continued to waste away. She was more and more tired, slept at all times, ate less... I knew she was at her wit ends but I was still suprised... They did lots of tests and didn't find anything. Then suddenly a young student thought about looking her lungs although she was breathing just fine... And there it was : terminal lung cancer, all silent and unnoticed but there. Her lungs were basically ruined. Came out of the blue. They asked what to do and my grandmother told them to end it. I was still numb. In 48 hours the cat was gone and I couldn't speak to her one last time. I miss her a lot. Sometimes you wonder why they can't live a full human lifespan at your side.

I am so sorry about the loss of your cat! That sounds awful, and yes, very similar to our situation. We went from, 'Our dog picked up a bug' to 'We had to put him down from metastatic cancer' within 2 weeks, and he was only 9 or so He was a senior dog, but had always been in such good shape and healthy. It's the suddeness that is killing me. And I just can slowly feeling myself slipping into the antepartum depression -- with my first pregnancy, it was the GD. Now, it's the loss of my dog! I seem to have such a hard time hormonally resisting it. I was doing so well this pregnancy too...

[Sora]

Hi Amel,

Welcome to the thread and good luck with your boy sway.

I am ttc since July still no luck. This month I have finished my ovulation but couldn't see any non flashing smiley on CB but still went ahead and tried based on FF predictions and also dtd EOD after that for 2-3 attempts. Now have stopped testing and in 2WW. I am trying not to raise my hopes up no any symptoms yet though other than minor twinges in my boobs and occasional light cramping in lower abdomen. But have had all these even in my previous cycles

I think what Sora meant about posting sway was few people post their attempts in swaying, similar format to successful sways, to get atomic's and other ladies comments on it.

Yes that's what I meant, thank you Blue ! I'm sorry these last 2 weeks I've got no real time for myself between DD2 going to kindergarten and looking for a job... I'm sorry Blue, still nothing ? I'm starting to fear I will not be able to make my attempt at the end of October/November. A lot of bad news happened this week and my health is not really good right now. I fear TTC in this state will only result in a girl, if it works at all. Sadly, after that, we face months of DH not being home at the time of O (unless delayed) ! Seems like a pregnancy in 2018 is not meant to be... I'm praying for 2019 to be a better time all around because things are not looking too bright now.

I am so sorry about the loss of your cat! That sounds awful, and yes, very similar to our situation. We went from, 'Our dog picked up a bug' to 'We had to put him down from metastatic cancer' within 2 weeks, and he was only 9 or so He was a senior dog, but had always been in such good shape and healthy. It's the suddeness that is killing me. And I just can slowly feeling myself slipping into the antepartum depression -- with my first pregnancy, it was the GD. Now, it's the loss of my dog! I seem to have such a hard time hormonally resisting it. I was doing so well this pregnancy too...

Oh panther, I feel for you... I had bad antepartum with DD1 because the pregnancy was difficult, GD and reliving years of abuse. And DD2, well, I had to deal with the stress of a surprise pregnancy and an even worse GD, and then DH starting a new job and being absent from home most of the time.

You were doing fine and you will be doing fine, I'm sure. You just need to mourn your dog, give yourself some time. Maybe think of adopting a new one ? It may seem too soon but sometimes it helps. It does not replace your dog but taking care of another animal keeps you from thinking dark thoughts and helps you deal with the loss. An aquaintance of mine adopted two cats after the loss of her 16 years-old own and took in two more that her old neighboor had to leave behind when she had to move into her children's house because of health problems.

[Amel]

Yes that's what I meant, thank you Blue ! I'm sorry these last 2 weeks I've got no real time for myself between DD2 going to kindergarten and looking for a job... I'm sorry Blue, still nothing ? I'm starting to fear I will not be able to make my attempt at the end of October/November. A lot of bad news happened this week and my health is not really good right now. I fear TTC in this state will only result in a girl, if it works at all. Sadly, after that, we face months of DH not being home at the time of O (unless delayed) ! Seems like a pregnancy in 2018 is not meant to be... I'm praying for 2019 to be a better time all around because things are not looking too bright now.



Oh panther, I feel for you... I had bad antepartum with DD1 because the pregnancy was difficult, GD and reliving years of abuse. And DD2, well, I had to deal with the stress of a surprise pregnancy and an even worse GD, and then DH starting a new job and being absent from home most of the time.

You were doing fine and you will be doing fine, I'm sure. You just need to mourn your dog, give yourself some time. Maybe think of adopting a new one ? It may seem too soon but sometimes it helps. It does not replace your dog but taking care of another animal keeps you from thinking dark thoughts and helps you deal with the loss. An aquaintance of mine adopted two cats after the loss of her 16 years-old own and took in two more that her old neighboor had to leave behind when she had to move into her children's house because of health problems.

Thank you guys for your responses. I am sorry Sora things happen for a reason and I hope life gets better soon and you get to relax. I used to be just like that! I keep reminding myself that overthinking and stressing out over things will make think even worse. My problem was if I decide to stay home and be with the girls and have another baby OR go to work since I just graduated and worked for over 10 years to get those degrees. I asked God for a sign and whatever he shows me I go with it. My daughter woke up the next day crying telling me that she had a really bad dream. I asked her about the dream and she said Mommy you were gone in my dream and i kept looking for you but I couldnt reach you. The same time my God showed me this site and money came from nowhere from an account I forgot the password lol to cover my MBA tuition. I know its hard to believe but prayers have powers. Life is tough and please remember that even if you cry, stress over things it wont change anything. The problem is there you just have to ignore it. If there is anything we can help you with remember we are here for support. Hope you will get better soon and you get to focus on ttc. Always think positive even when all the odds are against you. Praying that your ovulation returns to normal this way you can get back in the game.
Panther very sorry for your loss

[Sora]

Thank you Amel but I don't believe in God's goodness anymore. I think He hates me and wants me gone from His Création. I spent years of my life believing there was a reason for so much suffering. But now I have to watch people, whom I know are liars, cheaters and even criminals get every dream I ever had handed to them on a silver plate while each month brings a new down or loss for me. After the things I went through that year alone, I've honestly given up on hoping for a better future. Things will just go down because that's the only path they seem to know and there's no end to this. Sorry for this depressing post but I went through some terrible times and I'm in a dark place right now. And I can't talk to anyone about it irl.

[aira22]

I'm back from our holidays -with hardly any internet or time for being on here- so I need to catch up on everything. I hope everyone is fine!!

Oh no.. so sorry to hear about you having such a bad time Sora! Don't say you have given up hope for a better future! Thats too sad. Especially when you are aaaaaall the way down, it can only go up again. There IS an end to sh**ty situations. Stay strong and try to see the bright moments in life. I mean if you have been in such dark places it surely has made you a stronger woman! Don't let bad things happen to you again! And if there is really nothing good in you life, at least you have your girls. They love you and need you to stay sane.

[Tharyla]

Hi Ladies

Welcome Amel and welcome back Aira!

Sora I can understand how you feel. But trust me there is light at the end of the tunnel. I know it’s easier to say but let’s just try to believe it even when we just want to give up.

I had my solid opk on 1st September. We BD’d that day and twice the day after.
I tested at 8dpo: bfn and 11 dpo: bfn. This made me so depressed so I decided to just stop testing and started looking at all the additional supplements I would adf for out next month attempt.

AF didn’t turn up on Sunday as expected so took a test on Monday and there it is BFP!
I was so happy but that joy was short-lived. I am now sitting here thinking about my sway over and over again and convincing myself that I didn’t do enough!
I thought swaying was hard, but these 9 months are going to be very long. I’m even asking myself whether I should just go team green.

[aira22]

Yay Tharyla, congrats to your BFP!!!!

I can understand you worrying about the sway!! I think it happens to all of us. You always could have done something better/different. But I believe it's not all swaying but also a huge portion of luck. There were women with the best sway ever getting the opposite and others were lucky with crappy sways. Try not to worry - I know easy written lol and enjoy you pregnancy. Going team green is an option too.. (not for me though. haha)

[Tharyla]

Thank you Aira, you're right! Swaying might change the odds but nature/God has the final word! Fingers crossed for our blue and healthy bundle!

[Amel]

Thank you Amel but I don't believe in God's goodness anymore. I think He hates me and wants me gone from His Création. I spent years of my life believing there was a reason for so much suffering. But now I have to watch people, whom I know are liars, cheaters and even criminals get every dream I ever had handed to them on a silver plate while each month brings a new down or loss for me. After the things I went through that year alone, I've honestly given up on hoping for a better future. Things will just go down because that's the only path they seem to know and there's no end to this. Sorry for this depressing post but I went through some terrible times and I'm in a dark place right now. And I can't talk to anyone about it irl.

Sorry to hear that Sora. I hope everything gets back to normal soon. Life is hard and we just have to live with it. Best of luck to your sway.