ever been in my shoes?

[Waiting4Daisy]

There is a 'friend' I know who is smug about everything and thinks her life is perfect. She moved and after 2 boys had a baby girl, I think maybe they went high tech secretly but can't be sure. Anyway, I would never admit to her that I want a girl as she is already so smug about her princess. If I have no 4, I'm thinking of putting something on facebook about hoping for a 4th boy to even things up, that way she can't be super smug about having a girl. I've analysed it so much!

[Myloves]

There is a 'friend' I know who is smug about everything and thinks her life is perfect. She moved and after 2 boys had a baby girl, I think maybe they went high tech secretly but can't be sure. Anyway, I would never admit to her that I want a girl as she is already so smug about her princess. If I have no 4, I'm thinking of putting something on facebook about hoping for a 4th boy to even things up, that way she can't be super smug about having a girl. I've analysed it so much!

Hugs, Waiting4Daisy. Don't analyze things too much. She's not worth your time! And I think 3 boys and 1 girl sounds awesome (more cool big brothers to look after your future Daisy) I think you're in a win-win situation either way; if you have a fourth boy, you'll have a boy for Baby B to play with!

[Waiting4Daisy]

Thanks sweets! I just hate anyone pitying me over my life, I think my family is awesome! Actually I was talking to one of the women that works in my school and she had seen me walking my boys when Logan was at nursery and she said, 'Oh you have such lovely children I always admire them.' I was so chuffed, especially as they are usually mis-matched and disheveled as we are running late! I would honestly at this stage just desperately love a 4th baby (here's hoping I get healthy soon!) and while I have a slight preference for a girl just to experience a daughter I would be thrilled to have a 4th boy and even out my kidlets (can I convince you of number 4? Maybe?!!! ;-)) xxx

[Myloves]

Hehe, maybe I might have four when my youngest starts school! Dh says he's absolutely done (he only wanted two kids actually), but if I convinced him to have a third, I can do same to have a fourth ).

You do have great children. I just love seeing your cute boys on FB. You know yesterday I saw three little boys at the park, all standing in a row holding hands and walking together. One was an older kid, another a younger kid and a little toddler - all three were blondes. They looked so cute Your boys will be like that too (when Blair-bear learns to walk of course ).

[Butterfly Spirit]

Toomanyboys, Haven't heard from you since the beginning of this month. Are you doing alright?

[kpmum]

great topic, yes I'm in those shoes right now, my friend just had a lil girl and another friend is pregnant with her first child, a lil girl....when both of them told me, I was over the moon for both but deep down my jealously just brought me to tears. But that is why I joined this site to hopefully gain knowledge on sway for girl, but I know I will be just as happy if I end up having another boy, for myself knowing that I did try ;0)

Good luck with ur sway- I hope u get ur DD! I just found out last night my dear cousin who was like a sister to me growing up had a baby girl. I knew deep down she would. Also picked a name I love. I actually feel very frustrated at myself for wanting a daughter so much that some days planning my HT journey is all I can do to keep from feeling sad. This in turn makes me feel guilty for not just being complete with my 2 wonderful boys

[mumof6]

absolutely!
Having 6 boys i see friends and family all rubbing my face in the fact they have girls
my brother in law is the worst one for it and tbh with you i resent them for having a daughter and still rubbing it in my face
i was always pregnant at the same time as a family member or friend and every single time they had a girl and went on and on about it and i had "just another boy" according to everyone
i've heard every hurtful comment under the sun.

i love my amazing little boys more than anything but i would love to have a little girl

[Anne1992]

I can sympathize for you , it has been a hell of a ride on my end . With my first he is two everyone was having girls and I was ok because it was baby # 1 and my siblings only had boys at this time . With baby # 2 there was alot of pressure to have a girl because my family would go off on how they didnt want anymore boys ... meanwhile I was told it was a girl and they all paid attention to my pregnancy that I was sharing with my brothers wife ... it turned out to be a boy with half a heart and nobody will see him because not only was he not the girl but was sick . My brothers wife had the girl and all my friends had girls and I cried for weeks and couldnt cope . Then I just sat back watching all my friends have girls girls girls and cried .... So we just found out the other day we are pregnant and 18 weeks at that . But unfortunatly out here they dont tell you the se and you have to book a private U/s and pay through the teeth to find out the sex ... Dont worry we all feel that way but you can be thankful you dont have the pressure of loosing family or love for your children based on its sex . <3 cheer up

[kpmum]

Since writing my post many of my friends and family have had girls too however my GD has actually lessoned. U c my cousins DD has been a nightmare for her. Doesn't sleep ever, always unhappy and irriatable. She is having a hard time with her. I look at both my DS and think back to how lovely they were as babies (and still r!) Very happy, settled bubs. I know it has nothing to do with gender but I definitely feel lucky to have 2 wonderful boys. I also started working as a nurse at a children's hospital and its given me so much perspective. To have a healthy child IS the most important thing in the end when u c what other people face everyday with terrible disabilities and the possibility of their child dying. This helps put some perspective on gender disappointment that although I would love a DD and sometimes feel twangs of jealously when people around me so effortlessly have girls I do have 2 healthy and happy little boys and that I'm ever grateful for!

[Anne1992]

Since writing my post many of my friends and family have had girls too however my GD has actually lessoned. U c my cousins DD has been a nightmare for her. Doesn't sleep ever, always unhappy and irriatable. She is having a hard time with her. I look at both my DS and think back to how lovely they were as babies (and still r!) Very happy, settled bubs. I know it has nothing to do with gender but I definitely feel lucky to have 2 wonderful boys. I also started working as a nurse at a children's hospital and its given me so much perspective. To have a healthy child IS the most important thing in the end when u c what other people face everyday with terrible disabilities and the possibility of their child dying. This helps put some perspective on gender disappointment that although I would love a DD and sometimes feel twangs of jealously when people around me so effortlessly have girls I do have 2 healthy and happy little boys and that I'm ever grateful for!

Thank-you for this post , it reminded me what I almost forgot getting caught up in being sad about not having a girl . The other day I got to see my baby #3`s heart beat and flicker perfectly . Because of the condition my son has now there was a high chance this one wouldnt be healthy enough to carry but it is and that is what a perfect baby is . Ten fingers and ten toes and a working beating heart unlike my youngest son who we got so caught up in being upset being told he was a girl then boy .... but it was not as sad as the moment we were told that he would die as soon as they cut his cord ... or when they replaced a valve and it didnt work he couldnt cope was ressitated 3x but never went to heaven . I know you cant really replace a longing for something but I think if its healthy it is perfect and just what you wanted . Thank-you Kpmum again for making me see the bigger picture I forgot this afternoon <3408217_415949668454946_531279406_n.jpg