Are you going to try for that boy?

[CapricornAquarius]

I'm the same as you. My husband would be happy with 5 girls. But I have wanted a boy from my 1st.

I am pregnant right now, due in July. Will find out on Valentine's Day what I'm having.

My biggest pet peeve on my due date forum is people saying "I finally got my boy!" or "I hope I finally get my boy!" And I'm like "Finally huh, just how many girls do you have, oh only 1 or 2? You have no idea!" I just get jealous and feel like they don't deserve to have a boy when I've had more kids and have been waiting longer!

I think this comment was a little harsh, as you yourself said you wanted a boy from the 1st. I have 2 girls myself & would love a boy next & I would never say that some women dont deserve what they want regardless of 1,2,3,4 of the same gender.

[annabel♥lee]

It's so interesting to hear other people's experiences with comments, particularly those with all girls. It's strange to me because, while I wouldn't say something like that to anyone regarding gender, I ESPECIALLY wouldn't say it to a woman with all girls. Mainly becuase I'm jealous of that person! LOL

I teach preschool and I see 2 and 3 girl families and I'm completely envious! We have a set of adorable twin girls (3 years old) and they have a 2 year old sister. When I see those 3 sisters together I just can't help but envy the mom. How absolutely FUN to have 3 little girls!!!

But, who knows, maybe she feels that way about me and my 2 boys. I doubt it, but maybe. Haha

But anyway, yes, i get comments too and I hate it. People also like to tell me that I won't ever have a girl and I'm destined for all boys. Pisses me off to no end. :/

[NYFamilyOfFiveRoses]

Funny I took my daughter to the Lemon Tree to get her haircut and there are senior citizens that sit in there waiting for the main hairdressor to get a ride home.

I was so shocked that that is all they were talking about was grandchildren and boys and girls. They even have their comments.

One hairdressor told her customer that her daughter is having another baby and she gets another grandchild. She told the lady that it is a 3rd boy. Then someone else went on to say how she would love to have a girl they bet. Then she said "oh no she likes all boys and they grow up together". Or something like that. I was sidetracked because I had my daughter with me getting bored waiting.

But for me, I feel no matter where you go it is so hard to get away from the comments.

I had mentioned that I stopped going to a thrift store that I love because a lady in there is so chatty and I am not in the mood. It is a small store and it is too hard to not talk and I know she will tough the sensitive topic on me about trying again etc.

[fab4plus]

When you have say 3 or 4 of one gender then an opposite, does it shut people up, or do they still have dumb things to say?

people will always make rude comments i've come to realize

[annabel♥lee]

Edit: I just realized i already posted in this thread! Weird i totally forgot!!

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As a mom of boys, for some ignorant reason I never thought moms of all girls would have GD or even be upset! I guess that's because I always wanted girls. I wouldn't ask a mom of all girls if she was trying for a boy, I would more probably just be looking at her with alot of envy. LOL A friend of mine has three girls and always wanted a boy but I swear i have always been envious that she got three girls!

I guess it all depends on perspective. But I do think 3 boys is WAY more taboo than 3 girls! JMO.

[grasshopper]

I'm gonna throw in another side to this...I really feel a lot of people make these comments because they have or have had gender desire/disappointment themselves.
I think, most of the time, they are not trying to imply that there is something wrong with YOUR family, I think it is reflecting how they feel about their idea of the perfect family...some of them may have their perfect family makeup already and they can come across as extremely arrogant (which I then chalk up to ignorance on their part and disregard).
Others I feel may have experienced some form of GD themselves at some point and are perhaps more understanding of the situation than you realise...maybe they just don't communicate it well, or they are trying to mask it.
Perhaps the reason you cannot escape the comments/discussions wherever you go is because you take them a little too personally...these discussions take place because a desire for a certain gender or family makeup is much more common than most people realise...more people feel like us (or have at some point) than you could even imagine.

Yes people can be ignorant, arrogant and some just downright rude and there is nothing wrong with putting them in their place, and we should...but there are many more of us who just wish we had X number of children with X gender and sometimes the comments are less about us personally and more about themselves.
Perhaps the mother you mentioned in the first place is jealous of YOU and your 3 beautiful girls...perhaps she never wanted any boys let alone 2 of them and just always dreaming of the daughter that she finally did have, or pehaps she could relate having 3 of the same gender to her fears of having a third boy and just projected that onto you with her comment??? Then again perhaps she's just rude.
I guess I'm just trying to say that she may not know the best way to discuss the topic because she could have been there herself.
Its a touchy topic and the way people approach the questions can definitely make a world of difference, but some people just don't have tact as one of their strong points anyway...don't let other people's comments make you feel inadequate, what someone else has said may have less to do with you than you realise.
You have 3 beautiful daughters and have every right to feel enormously proud of them regardless of the GD.