My Husband won't do anything sway wise will that mess me up???

[Wishing4Princess]

This is the exact post I needed to see tonight. long story short, i have been on LE diet for 8 months (keeping DH informed of swaying and my diet--big mistake). after 8 months of trying to convince him to change his diet to help me out w/ sway (as we both want a girl), he finally did some things, started smoking couple cigaretes a day (i made him)and taking LR, w/ abstain... I even went as far as changing his diet on him for 4 months, I didnt serve meat at home, served LE foods to him as well, he followed it but still moaned and groaned about it.

SO yesterday I got a postive opk, which meant id be ovulating sooner than expected (me being a f****ing idiot tha I am--told him we'd dtd tonight after work). he agreed, seemed to be ok w/ it, but as soon as he got home last night, w/ kids running around (i guess he had a bad day at work too), he snapped and started a huge argument w. me. he also said that I better not mention having another baby ever again!. can you imagine how I feel??? this isnt new though, you wonder why im dieting for 8 months? All b/c of that ass! he does this every month I wanted to have sex to ttc! (more TMI....he doesnt even have a high sex drive..I ALWAYS have to remind him to have sex with me...he can go for a month w/out it...he's been this way before swaying stuff)...some ladies told me to 'trick' him and have him just release inside me...but really, I didnt want to hurt my sway. i wanted him on board...even though it wasnt easy thing to do. Had I known he would be such a dick about the whole thing and pull this crap each month, I would never have mentioned it to him!...I would keep the whole thing a secret.

I really dont know what to think right now..I am in such shock that he did this to me......I really thought this was the month for me. we arent talking to each other and ovulation is passing...even if i made up and dtd, i ruined my pink sway, b/c my T levels are through the roof right now. I hate him so much!. i even threw awy the pack of cigarettes that I had convinced him to buy..geez, ladies im so sad right now

[atomic sagebrush]

Please don't try to pressure your husband too much, that's always what happens it seems like.

I know it seems wrong to try and "trick" him into it but a lot of guys seem to respond best that way anyway. It's like it activates some teenage rebellion thing in them when we tell them too much about what to do and how to do it.

Good luck - I completely know where you're coming from. (PS - my husband is a bigger jerk than just about anybody's on the boards and he's VERY VERY smitten with Miss Suzy and seems to have no regrets)

[IsabelB23]

Hi! My dh is not aboard at all... what do I do? Dont mention it, and I'm not planning on telling him when I O!! Oh no way...! I will tell him what he wants to hear, put him in the mood, and let it flow... to much mechanic doesn't work with guys, not with mine at least!
Don't mention anything about swaying with him! do it yourself!
good luck!

[bigchrista]

wishing4-I'm so sorry your hubby is being a butt. This may not be your month to try, once he calms down next month could be better (probably not what you want to hear). When I was swaying a back in July/Aug and concieved our girl (i m/c) DH didn't know anything. I didn't have him take any supplements, or change his diet (he's a big meat eater). I Changed my diet, added the vag gels and a few other things. That worked.

THis time around I have told DH about the swaying and he's okay with the idea. I still don't have him taking any supps or even changing his diet. The only thing I'm adding in for him is a beer a day starting a week before O.

My dh has 2 girls from a previous relationship. They did a lot of recreational drugs and drinking heavily(there must be something to that). When dh and I got together I got him off a lot of that stuff. He rarely drinks now, in a typical year he'll have maybe 4 or 5 beers. More recently he's been having a single more often. He'll drink with our mechanic, or have one with his boss. When we concived back our girl a few months back my hubby was spending time with our mechanic working on our viechels. I think that beer helped sway.

I say don't tell DH if he's gonna hold it againt you. Hide the OPK's in your underware drawer and only use them when Dh is away or you know is preoccupied for atleast 5 mins. Change your diet and do your part. YOu can turn the sexy on for him when its your O time and when not so he doesn't get suspicious you're TTC. big ((HUGS)) hoping your day gets better.

[miss_ickle]

wishing, this is sooo my dh too. i'm glad i'm not alone.he is a stubborn a*** hole every single time.i'm sure that's why its taken 6 cycles and counting :-( hugs to you x do

[6bluewant1pink]

Yay i am happy and shocked my Husband drink Cranberry juice for the 1st time today. He NEVER drink juice period since we been together that's in over 9 years! I wonder is He checking my Goggle search while i am away and seeing i have been looking up ttc girl info Oh i did tell Him that's good Hun drink at least 1 cup a day to clear your body out from drinking beer, hey sneak it in right. Oh and tonight we had pasta i got the kind with calcium in it he really liked it lol.

[atomic sagebrush]

I think the beer is better for pink than the cran LOL!!!

[6bluewant1pink]

Thanks atomic but beer is all he does drink(besides water) even when we conceived our youngest 3 sons (had my older 3 sons from past relationship) But maybe i myself should drink a drink or 2 when i start my sway LOL.

[atomic sagebrush]

Beer is one of those things where when you're younger, sometimes you can shake off the effects but the older he gets, the more it will sway pink for you. DON'T have him cut back and switch to cran juice, that's going to sway blue because it's healthier for him.