Being happy VS having GD

[envisioned]

So, I really do believe it is MUCH more prevalent than anyone makes on, but it's because when you do show a preference people shame you and treat you like you aren't fit to be a parent!

First time poster, long time lurker. I have two DD's. Always wanted a house full of boys. This really resonated with me b/c I remember the first time I ever admitted to a friend that I was terrified of having a DD (this was when I was pregnant with DD1 and I didn't know what I was having), she positively eviscerated me for admitting what I did. It pretty much ended whatever friendship we had. She however, had a DS already and only wanted him.

So IRL there's only 1 other friend I can talk to about this who doesn't judge me for admitting this.

Regarding FB, well, things aren't always as they seem. I've discussed this with friends, and most people agree that others post very edited stuff on there showcasing their happy 'perfect' lives. Hell I did all the time and inside I was dying. I deleted my account after getting pregnant with DD2, b/c for my own mental health, I couldn't take seeing the 'happy families' even if I knew some of them weren't truly happy (for various reasons). Shallow, selfish and immature? Of course. But it was the only way I could cope to try and heal myself mentally b/c I had severe EGD when I was pregnant. It was a very dark place and I've worked and continue to work hard to not let myself go back there. And I fell madly in love with DD2 from the moment she was born and I still can't go back on.

Everytime I get into self pity mode about not having a DS, I look at mom's who have who say have 2-3 DS's wistfully and then I remember that maybe they're looking at me thinking the same thing. We all have our ideal family makeup and if anything this board and IG have made me realize that what's perfect to us, may not be perfect to them.

I know this may come across as soft comfort to the mom's of boys wishing for a DD, but just know that there is someone out there that thinks you are the luckiest woman alive.

[auroara78]

Everytime I get into self pity mode about not having a DS, I look at mom's who have who say have 2-3 DS's wistfully and then I remember that maybe they're looking at me thinking the same thing. We all have our ideal family makeup and if anything this board and IG have made me realize that what's perfect to us, may not be perfect to them.

I know this may come across as soft comfort to the mom's of boys wishing for a DD, but just know that there is someone out there that thinks you are the luckiest woman alive.

Love this and this is so true
Just reading the GD forums has really, really helped me work through my GD with DS2. Knowning that some women would love boys made me realize that while I desire a girl, my boys are special It just helped put the pieces into place for me. Thank u all for that.