would this offend you?

[Adia]

Yesterday I was outside with my kids and this old lady walked by and gave me a lecture about how I shouldn't let my kids play in dirt because they could get worms and a bunch of other similar stuff. But since I didn't ahve any emotional investment in that I was able to just let it roll off my shoulders secure in my knowledge that the most recent studies have shown that dirt is actually good for kids' health (and so may be worms LOL).

In my never-humble opinion I think that is the problem with America today. Too many kids don't/won't/can't/aren't allowed to play in the dirt with worms!

[Mrs_Incredible]

Once we knew we were having ds3 my husband put something on fb asking what people thought about family balancing after a few of the one gender. One friend who has twin girls from IVF said we should be happy with what we get after they had to go down the IVF route for their girls. So, he was happy enough to get his dream (child/children) from NHS IVF but our dream of having both genders after 3 natural ds's was not as important as his?! This bothered me because it made us out as being selfish but they were justified in pursuing their dream?! I think people generally think within their comfort zone. I am ashamed to say that I said the most insensitive comment to my sil - she had 3 girls and was pg again. They had always voiced their wish for a boy. Before the gender scan I said 'it'll be a girl' That came from my GD. I sent a text later the same night apologising for being insensitive and that it was because I had always hoped for a girl. They got their ds!! Sometimes even someone like me who should know better says stupid things.

[myrainbowgirl]

my personal opinion would be that nothing is out of gods reach, ivf pgd maybe immoral to a few people but that does not mean god is against it (not that i know he is for it either?!?) but at the end of the day although you are expressing a preference gender wise its not a guarantee that you get pregnant with that child (some get none to transfer, some don't cycle, some get bfn's, some miscarry, very occasionally there are opposites - there are plenty of ways for god to intervene if that baby is not 'a part of the plan') anyways and whose to say thats not the child you wouldn't have received if you'd tried naturally either (a lot of girls get their dg after failed ivf) - it may all be mean't to be anyway. At some point we were given the ability to carry this process out, maybe these babies are all part of the plan too in there own way.

Every medical invention could be seen as against gods plan by some, but maybe the knowledge is a gift instead. People are very quick to judge what they do not understand or experience, if this 'friend' cannot support you is she really someone you need in your life?

Charlee i think your dads response was imed at you not your baby, my family was the same with ds3, i think its just cause they were disappointed for me as they knew how much i wanted it and they all loved me - they have all loved and accepted my little man without question or hesitation, he is as special to them as the others are, i think people just don't know how to handle things sometimes.

^^^THIS!! I agree that God gives us knowledge so we can use it! I ultimately believe He is in control, & will give us His best, but sometimes I think He guides and directs our path to accomplish His will.

I for one, believe God directed me to this site...I won't go into why I believe that...it's a whole other story. LOL. But, while I am NOT God and don't absolutely KNOW that this baby I'm carrying is a girl, I feel strongly that she is a she. And if I was dreaming up my intuitions and feelings about this due to GD, at the very least, I have discovered a healthier way to live. Let me explain...I have PCOS, and have always had trouble conceiving. However, after I found this site several months ago, it made perfect sense why I have 3 boys...diet and our sex life being the main things that sway blue. I am embarrassed to admit that I have a TERRIBLE sweet tooth, which I know is a detriment to my health. I have tried in the past to reduce sugar, but haven't really been successful. Once I got on here and researched swaying for a girl, it clicked that maybe one of the reasons I have boys is due to my own poor choices. (I absolutely adore my boys, don't get me wrong! And wouldn't trade any of them!) But, after 3 boys, I was desperate to give up whatever I needed to increase my odds for a girl, including my sugar-heavy diet.

It felt so good to improve my health in the process of doing the LE diet (PCOS version)...and I got pg first try, first O postpartum! This is CRAZY for me...getting pg has always been a huge challenge, so I am now very confident that our issues in the past could have been helped if I had changed my diet back then. I plan to keep certain parts of this diet permanent...simply for my health and to be a better example to my kids. If I come away from this "swaying experiment" with another DS, and better health for me and my kids, it's still a win!

So, sorry for the long book, but my point is that God gives us knowledge for a reason...and you need not feel guilty for using it! He will accomplish His plan regardless!