To me there is no other way. We did not find out the gender either time, nor will we in the future. I was a little bit sad when my second son was born but I didn't even check until after we bonded. I just feel like that's the best way for us personally. I understand wanting to find out right earlier but it just isn't the route I want to take. My husband doesn't care either way. He would be content with 20 boys.