No heartbeat at 19 weeks

[deaks66]

oh no im am so very sorry to read this, i cant begin to imagine how devastating it must feel Thinking of you and hope you are well looked after during the next days, weeks and months.

[Mumof3girls]

I am so sorry.

[perrypop3]

Bless you heart I am so utterly sorry and gutted to hear you're going though this, my heart just breaks and please know I understand what you're going through, I have lost 2 girls (2012 & 2013) at the same stage and the numbness and shock I felt after 3 healthy boys is so devastating, I'm so sorry I didn't see this sooner, I wish I could have messages you to give you an idea of my inductions & labours, you will be strong and get through this and every day will ease, I'm sending you so many prayers and such strength and courage for you today, gosh I wish id seen this yesterday, please feel free to contact me, I can help you through this process if it's what you want, I'm so sorry xx you are going through the hardest day today, you can get through this I promise you, bless you and your little baby xx

[perrypop3]

I'm so relieved to read the post from rainbow baby, just glad you got the right advice and help when you need it most, bless you rainbowbaby, I hope your advice helped her, it's all the things I would have said too xx

[perrypop3]

Just so desperately thinking of things that could help you but these CDs are definitely for later in time.....for now just scream and shout and cry as much as you need....

I just had a look on circle & bloom for you and they have a special meditation cd specifically for what you're going through, listening to these really helped me, I used to walk every day for half an hour listening to these meditations, they can really help you to emotionally heal. W

When I used them they didn't have the one specifically for loss, I used ones for positive thinking and healthy mind, but this is a new programme they've released and so so needed and circle & bloom are so wonderful & they re not charging for this new programme...their programmes are normally about $30... have a look, it'll be a way for you to make time for yourself to process your pain and grief, I know how busy it is with 3 kids and going through this tremendous loss xx

[nuthinbutpink]

Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep is a wonderful organization that provides free services to capture any moments you may want to with this baby. Their website is difficult to view but I think it is a great service and perhaps something that may help.

[glory]

Only I am just so very sad to be reading this, I am crying at what you are now going through. I know how much your struggled to finally get pregnant and this is just not fair.

I have no advice, I am just so very sorry and I think Rainbow baby gave some really nice advice xxx

[purpledream]

I'm just numb reading this, I'm so utterly devastated for you and I wish I could give you big hug. It brings me back to my two losses and my heart aches for you. I did not labor my 19-week baby, my OBGYN though that D&E was the better way to go, I'm glad I didn't have to go through labor since I know that was going to make me feel worse than I already was. I did recover quickly physically, but emotionally was another story, it will get better, no matter how horrible it looks right now. I couldn't take pictures or other things like that, the ultrasound pictures and movies before the surgery were enough for me to have and that's how I wanted to remember her. Take time to grieve, scream, cry, be angry at anyone and anything and know we are here for you! You can always PM me. I'm so sorry..

[onlythelonely]

Thank you all. Have started the induction lunch time yesterday , waiting on 2nd dose and hoping after that all will go quick.

[perrypop3]

We're all thinking of you all around the world, you can do this and however hard and utterly sad it feels the sun will shine again in your heart I promise....I will go to sleep praying and thinking of you, I wish I could hold you hand and help you through this...my advice is to spend time with her, don't be scared, she will be beautiful and you'll look back and treasure your moments with her, I too like rainbow baby wish I could've had longer with her, it is something magical I will always remember holding her and even so young you will recognised her, be strong and let the midwives surround you with compassion and love, I pray for comfort and strength and most of all peace in your heart, be strong you can do this x