I need help w/Clomid..round#3!

[Flowergirl]

Dreamofpink, please tell me - HOW would you improve your next sway? I'm currently swaying pink (after having two handsome lads) and my BMI has dropped from 20 down to 18 on LE diet (no exercise) and I'm waiting for AF to arrive to get bloods done on cycle day 21 to hopefully get clomid. I'm up to day 39 of my cycle now (after a 28 day cycle last month) so I'm really worried I've taken it too far with the weight loss after reading both your and lovemy2blessings stories. Do think what affected your sway most was the required weight gain on your second clomid cycle? I'm wondering if I can help my situation prior to our first attempt/starting clomid

It seems like there's such a fine line between having a strong sway and having a sway that goes too far and backfires - it's so hard!

[lovemy2blessings]

Flower it looks like you may have lost Ov just like me because of swaying too hard core. My doctor advised me to gain weight and that's exactly what I've done.

[Flowergirl]

Thank you for your reply lovemy2blessings. It's so frustrating to know just last cycle was normal and this one isn't (and I didn't lose anything more during that time).. I'm hoping and praying I can get clomid and that will be enough to bring on Ov. I gained a few kilos to fall with my two boys so I really don't want to do that again if I can avoid it somehow.. Well, at least try another method first. x

[Dreamofpink]

Flowergirl, I lost my ov in January '13 & started Clomid in February. Unfortunately for me, Clomid did not bring on ov that month as I had an opk+ around day 19 & af came 3 days later. I think that if your body has shut down due to low bmi nothing will make ov occur. I could be wrong though, that's just IME.

I know that I took it to the extreme & it was more a case of something each month that stopped me from conceiving. FR didn't work for us the first two months, so I dropped it. In the lead up to ov in month 3 we had a hugely confrontational weekend with FIL so I skipped that month on the advice of Atomic due to high T levels. The next month I messed up by trying to relax a bit & missed my ov as I didn't use any opks. I then lost my ov for two months before my bfp. Even though I only gained 2lb I know for sure that I was improving my condition massively. Once I opened the floodgates - so to speak - I ate far too much. It was a mixture of desperation for a bfp & a genuine need for nourishment that drove me on despite staying veggie.

Next time I know that I have to conceive as I'm losing weight not when I'm at my lowest. Also I have to let go a bit as I know that the perfect sway doesn't exist. I know that I had to live it though before believing it. As daft as it may sound I'd have had more regrets if I hadn't thrown everything at my sway & it still produced an opposite. I love my ds3 sooooo much it hurts & I have no regrets. My swaying journey actually started in June '11 when I started the IG diet & timing. I carried on until March '12 when I dropped the diet. I then carried on with a cut off until August '12 when I found this website & started the LE diet. By the time I conceived ds3 I was just desperate for a baby & I truly believe that I had to walk that path in order to become more accepting of him. I had some GD when I found out about him but I was not devastated like I would've been when I started my swaying journey.

I don't want to make you or lovemy2 feel bad about your circumstances but I wanted to be honest about how it turned out for me. Hth

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[Flowergirl]

Thank you for your honesty dreamofpink. I really do appreciate and need it.

2lb is such a small amount to gain - I really do feel like it's such a fine line, it's frightening!

Looking at the LE stats it would make you think that staying on the diet for 21-24 weeks would give you the best possible odds.. I guess I just wish I knew that it's best if you had enough weight to lose otherwise (as opposed to maintaining a low weight after losing it for that period of time) you're actually better going for a shorter sway.. In saying that, some people may lose weight quicker then others I guess?

I'm looking back now and wishing I had our first attempt in Dec when I was still losing, but I talked myself into trying to get "even more prepared".. if only I could turn back time!

Anyway, I guess it's not too late to redeem the situation. I can only see what clomid does for me and I'm thinking if I don't ovulation on that I might reassess TTC for now.

Thanks again for your very informative response. Everything you said and your thoughts make a lot of sense and really resonate with me.

[atomic sagebrush]

Keep in mind ladies, that there are blue swayers getting opposites even gaining weight on HE Diet - it's not necessarily a dealbreaker, if you need the weight. Swaying is a radio dial, not a light switch http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...s-swaying.html