One attempt

[atomic sagebrush]

I've been using clearblue duel OPK. I had 4 days of flashing smileys, then a solid smiley yesterday.
We DTD Monday 2 days before solid smiley, then DTD last night 16 hours after solid test result.
I'm worried that LH surge might have started Tuesday after I tested and therefore not picked up until yesterday's test, which has would mean that ovulation could have happened before we DTD last night, given that it could happen 12 hours after first surge.
Did I wait too long? Could I have missed it?

Hope that makes sense!

I think that whatever will be, will be at this point and you need to say, ok, that was my August attempt and let it go and not call any more companies LOL. http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...ypothesis.html

[atomic sagebrush]

Clearblue recommend testing in the morning, but if the surge started the afternoon before, and we don't get chance to DTD until the evening of the positive, could it be too late?

I am really not a huge fan of the Clearblues, but you need to follow the directions as they are given by the company because that's how they are designed to work.

[atomic sagebrush]

I want to think that we weren't too late Wednesday midnight, but if surges usually start in the afternoon, and ovulation is 12-36 hours later, ovulation would have been early hours of Thursday morning at latest, and don't we need at least 8 hours after DTD for sperm to capacitate?

I just really, really think you are overthinking all this and please read the Maternal Dominance Hypothesis because this is the exact type of "swaycessing" that I like people to avoid.

[SamS_TTCPink]

Only one of our boys was one attempt, and now I'm pregnant with twins after one attempt so it's defiantly possible to get PG! 😉 Obviously don't know the gender yet but crossing everything that one is a girl. Our attempt early in the year that ended in m/c was a one attempt too.

[atomic sagebrush]

I hope no one minds me asking about my attempt in this thread. Atomic, You have advised me to dtd every 4 days starting at af and going through ovulation. Is this what is meant by 1 attempt? thank u x

One attempt just means 1 attempt in the fertile window (which lasts in a practical sense from O-3 thru O day - while you can get pg from attempts 4-5 days before O, so few pregnancies happen from that, that it's hardly worth consideration.)

DTD every 4 days is just an easy way to be in with 1 attempt in the fertile window. Some people prefer to have attempts every 4 days, others every 4th day (hope that makes sense) IN the worst case scenario (you end up DTD on O-3 and O Day) there will either be nothing left from that first attempt OR it will already have fertilized the egg before the attempt from O Day can capacitate and make it to the egg.

Some people, instead of DTD every 4 days, prefer to mix and match with frequency patterns and they DON'T DTD every 4 days but instead have their husbands abstain or do daily release and then have only one attempt at positive OPK, or even with a cutoff.

[atomic sagebrush]

Yes I'm kind of wondering about the one attempt for girl thing. When reading the 'how we made our girls' thread the majority had multiple attempts in the fertile window. Hmmm


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This does not prove or disprove anything. Those people are coming into all this SET for girls via diet, lifestyle, or some other reason we can only guess at.

In our stats, some of those women like me have had as many 4-5 boys and that we are getting 70% success rate with one attempt, and that this has stayed at this rate or higher since the earliest days we were tracking the stats (better than the overall success rates of the site) is very meaningful and I STRONGLY urge everyone to stick with one attempt as long as possible. Drop all other sway tactics that may interfere with conception like jelly, douche, frequency, timing, before dropping that one attempt.

[atomic sagebrush]

I got pregnant two times with one attempt - both results are boys :-) DS#2 was conceived when I was 37 and DS#3 at 38 (for DS#3 this one time was about 4 days before O, we didn't DTD for a week after that since DH was out of town, so I don't know how this little guy made it through))) So I guess one attempt does not sway pink for us... But I know that both times (we were not swaying, they were oops pregnancies) we did not DTD 5-7 days before that one attempt, which makes me think that if we decide to TTC pink in the future we should try FR for DH. Does it make sense?

One attempt sways for EVERYONE. But 30% opposites is still a lot of little dudes conceived. Swaying is not a magic bullet. Just because something didn't work for you once or twice, that doesn't mean it doesn't or couldn't work. You just had so much other blue-friendly stuff happening plus the cards didn't go your way that time. May very well be that one attempt took you from having 80% chance of a boy to 60% chance of a boy - but you still came in with better than 50-50 odds of a little dude! It is just a big step in the wrong direction to decide to do the opposite on one of the handful of things that's actually getting consistent results.

I BEG YOU if you are 39-40-41, PLEASE drop the FR, it just isn't working and it will lower your odds of conception too much. Keep the one attempt as long as possible.

[LoveMyKids]

One attempt sways for EVERYONE. But 30% opposites is still a lot of little dudes conceived. Swaying is not a magic bullet. Just because something didn't work for you once or twice, that doesn't mean it doesn't or couldn't work. You just had so much other blue-friendly stuff happening plus the cards didn't go your way that time. May very well be that one attempt took you from having 80% chance of a boy to 60% chance of a boy - but you still came in with better than 50-50 odds of a little dude! It is just a big step in the wrong direction to decide to do the opposite on one of the handful of things that's actually getting consistent results.

I BEG YOU if you are 39-40-41, PLEASE drop the FR, it just isn't working and it will lower your odds of conception too much. Keep the one attempt as long as possible.

Atomic, thanks for your reply! Yes, I understand that one attempt is not a magic bullet and I really didn't do much else for swaying pink (no diet, etc.). If we decide to TTC pink I will still stick to one attempt but what I meant is to try for DH to release (outside) every day before that one attempt instead of abstaining for 5-7 days as he did with DS#2 and #3. Taking into consideration how easy I got pregnant at 37 and 38, I guess he has pretty high sperm count (even though he is 43), so I was thinking that releasing for a few days in a row before DTD may sway pink for us? What do you think?

[Sp4rkl3s]

I am very obsessive, and TTC & swaying is something else I obsess over, as much I wish wouldn't! I have some OCD and things matter to me for more that they should.. eg. I'd rather have a May baby than June, which is why this month TTC was so important.
I had read about the Maternal Dominance, and I'm really hoping that the other parts of my sway will overcome by obsessive mind and my stress of not being able to control the situation.

[kitkat18]

Sp4rkl3s my advice if you are obsessive, yes im pretty Martha too!! Is to try every four days BD no opks, giving up My fitness pal if you have been on diet a little while you should get the hang of knowing when you are in your limits and lastly a really hard one but it helped me having some time off gender dreaming (although I love it toooo bits) but I would keep thinking my sway needs to be better etc etc and I would need to be on here like 10x a day!! Just my two cents good luck xxx
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