What next??

[atomic sagebrush]

See, what you're really after is some magic way to both sway pink and up odds of conception. And that simply doesn't exist.

If you want to be in with tons of attempts, you can have BD every day starting at the end of AF and going right through O. This is called frequent BD through O and it does seem to help sway pink. I am not a fan because it goes wrong a lot (something happens and people start skipping days and then this ends up to be every other day which I believe to be blue) And it also doesn't serve your purposes because it really depletes sperm numbers and many people have done this and not gotten pg.

I"m not sure how many more ways I can go over this, but your options are, DTD every 4 days, DTD every 3 days, DTD every 4 days plus one attempt at pos OPK, DTD every 3 days plus one attempt at pos OPK. While I don't know it as fact, I think any of those will be a heck of a lot better htan DTD every other day. The more attempts you add, I believe the lower your odds of pink are gonna be. I just can't pull something out here that will solve this dilemma, because it's really seeming to be a mutually exclusive thing - the more attempts just does seem to lower odds of pink. I don't know how or why, but I just can't draw any other conclusion based on the data.

The only other option is a bit of sneaky pool which would entail using jellies or something to cut odds of conception to nil with some attempts and keeping your husband satisfied that way, then dropping that for one or two attempts.

[Sp4rkl3s]

Yes, I'm definitely looking for that magic way to have the best of both! If only it were that easy!

Thankyou for your time.
I think I'll try to start with every 3 days, then see when positive OPK falls, then decide whether to add extra attempts. (I'll probably be back then asking for more advice!)
For all my worrying and planning, I'll probably get confused with OPKs again, or DH will be too busy, or some other unexpected complication!
I know I should relax and take it as it comes, but I do like to have a bit of a plan.
Thankyou again for your help.

[Junie]

See, what you're really after is some magic way to both sway pink and up odds of conception. And that simply doesn't exist.

If you want to be in with tons of attempts, you can have BD every day starting at the end of AF and going right through O. This is called frequent BD through O and it does seem to help sway pink. I am not a fan because it goes wrong a lot (something happens and people start skipping days and then this ends up to be every other day which I believe to be blue) And it also doesn't serve your purposes because it really depletes sperm numbers and many people have done this and not gotten pg.

I"m not sure how many more ways I can go over this, but your options are, DTD every 4 days, DTD every 3 days, DTD every 4 days plus one attempt at pos OPK, DTD every 3 days plus one attempt at pos OPK. While I don't know it as fact, I think any of those will be a heck of a lot better htan DTD every other day. The more attempts you add, I believe the lower your odds of pink are gonna be. I just can't pull something out here that will solve this dilemma, because it's really seeming to be a mutually exclusive thing - the more attempts just does seem to lower odds of pink. I don't know how or why, but I just can't draw any other conclusion based on the data.

The only other option is a bit of sneaky pool which would entail using jellies or something to cut odds of conception to nil with some attempts and keeping your husband satisfied that way, then dropping that for one or two attempts.

This is so SO true atomic!!! I know sometimes I really, really, wanted there to be some way to just not do the diet LOL. But what Atomic gives us are the tools to have the best possible sway and we have to accept that if we don't follow her advice (which is fine!) then we will probably be decreasing our chances of our dream gender. Which is also OK. I mean I'm doing quite a relaxed sway but I'm also very aware that the choices I'm making could lead to me having my third boy,and I can live with that.
Good luck sp4kl3s

[maidentomother]

I very, very much agree with atomic's post at the top of this page. The whole reason that swaying pink works is bc it lowers fertility, so anything you do to significantly increase your odds of conception, like adding attempts and being lax on the diet, will undermine your months of hard work and sway blue.

I urge you to stay strict on the diet above all else, as it is the strongest pink sway tactic - even stronger than just one BD attempt. I do think BDing from AF all the way through O, without skipping a single day, CAN sway pink for some couples, especially if the woman was being very strict on the diet for many months and is using rephresh/acigel/sylk etc to kill off much of the sperm. But as atomic said, it's difficult to BD every single day for 2+ weeks straight and most of the time, the couples who try this tactic end up skipping days and swaying blue. Also, since you conceived a son while BDing every day, I do not think this tactic will sway pink for YOU, but instead almost certainly blue. So again, I urge you to stick to every 3 days, the most reasonable pink BD plan for swift conception. Whatever you do, DO NOT, for the love of God, BD every other day! That is optimal for sperm count inside you and is a very strong blue sway BD tactic. I would rather see you BD every day from AF through O using rephresh & sylk than BD every other day - though I don't RECOMMEND that approach unless absolutely necessary to keep DH on board with TTC. Stick to every 3 days if at all possible!

Also, why not avoid telling DH when O is expected, and BD as much as you want (multiple times a day, even) from CD1-8 and again from 3DPO until AF. If you enjoy BDing during AF, do so. Have so much sex when you're NOT fertile that when it's the week before/around O, DH is so worn out from BD he's happy to take it easy for a while. I don't know your DH, but if can't be moved by facts & reason (via reading atomic's thorough and brilliant essays on swaying), perhaps a little trickery will work more effectively.

Stay strong, and stick with the LE strictly no matter what you end up doing BD-wise. We're all rooting for you even if DH doesn't understand.