What I would do differently

[atomic sagebrush]

Hey, I had my DD at 42 and it was one of my easiest pregnancies and my easiest birth.

Remember, a lot of the people with issues in their pg at older ages were people who have other health problems to begin with. If you're healthy going in, you're certainly better off than a lot of younger women who are NOT.

[pink_bean]

But of course her daughter is older than a good deal of us and we have no idea what Martha was like when she conceived her!

I know a woman who was this laid-back VERY young girl who worked in a hair salon and married this super rich guy, got pg right away with a girl, and then after that went from Mary to Martha in about 3.5 months. A couple of more entertaining anecdotes were when she flew into a panic because her daughter slammed her finger in a door - not because she was hurt, but because it was her wedding ring finger and how could she ever get beautiful wedding photos taken with no fingernail (the child was 3 at the time) and she had a special drawer with new never been worn socks for her daughter so she could wear pristine white socks to go to the doctor's office. Needless to say she got a boy next.

This is funny. My husband thinks I would go crazy if we had a girl because I (used to) freak out over ODS clothes getting dirty. Needless to say I'm over that insanity. I think having two boys is making me less of a Martha, personally because honestly who has the energy to strive for perfection with two small children?

I think for me, much of it was living on my own and having the ability to have myself, my home and everything else in a particular order. I think that carried over into motherhood at first but now I have no choice but to be flexible.

[trifecta]

I'm not obsessive about order, dirt, other people's behavior, or anything like that but I'm sure my general neuroticism would still sway blue.

[pink_bean]

Maybe it's a defense mechanism but I always looked at the positives of what sways blue, like healthy diet and high fertility. I never knew it had anything to do with personality traits which is why I nearly starved myself to conceive a girl. Lol

[atomic sagebrush]

I'm not obsessive about order, dirt, other people's behavior, or anything like that but I'm sure my general neuroticism would still sway blue.

there are now 10 hundred people out there going "but I"m not obsessive about stuff like that"...well, me neither (kind of a slob to be honest) but I AM obsessive over tons of other things.

ONe of the most interesting observations I noticed when swaying was that I have always been very passionate about wearing seatbelts even if just going a short distance in the car. As in, practically having a panic attack if anyone ever wanted me to go in a car without decent seatbelts, even just a short distance. And then suddenly I found myself thinking "well, it's only just down to the post office" and not wearing my seat belt. It was totally out of character!

[atomic sagebrush]

Maybe it's a defense mechanism but I always looked at the positives of what sways blue, like healthy diet and high fertility. I never knew it had anything to do with personality traits which is why I nearly starved myself to conceive a girl. Lol

Food for thought if you do ever sway again, but I find the gals who are the strictest on diet get the most opposites. I think doing the diet "perfectly" becomes a source of obsession that actually sways blue and the gals who (either from choice or circumstance) have a more laid-back 80-20 approach, are much more likely to have success.

Remember, it doesn't take much fat coming in for your body to make testosterone (or whatever it is that is actually swaying) with and if it perceives a crisis situation that you may have to fight your way through to survive (as in, starvation) it will make testosterone out of anything it can get its greedy little enzymes on.

[True Blue]

I have so many obsessive tendencies it's not even funny. I think I border OCD for many things. Should I not be an all boy mom
I'm getting more laid back the last couple of years, Im much more relaxed and the need for things to be PERFECT is much less these days.

[True Blue]

I bet I am inadvertently swaying pink

Typical

[pink_bean]

One thing I did was give up at the end and took a bunch of supplements the month I conceived. I suffer from depression and it was getting bad and vitamins often help. Right now I am a crap eater but it's because I am so overwhelmed at times and I seem to have no appetite.

[pink_bean]

I wonder what kind of personality traits make you more likely to have a mixed gender family. And I mean families that have boy, girl, boy or gbgb in consecutive order like they just ordered it that way