TTC a boy! HELP!!!

[atomic sagebrush]

I think we were posting at the same time, see post above and if you still need more clarification ask.

[atomic sagebrush]

Everything that improves your condition and your fertility helps to sway blue. Even something as simple as getting lots of rest can help.

[Nann3r]

I think we were posting at the same time, see post above and if you still need more clarification ask.

I guess I'm just still confused as to what actually sways. I know what doesn't make a difference at all now. So I'm wondering what DOES make a difference. I know now that a nutiritious diet and supplements can increase odds of a boy.. And if that's all I can do then I guess I'll do it.. But is there something else I can do that I'm missing?

[Nann3r]

Everything that improves your condition and your fertility helps to sway blue. Even something as simple as getting lots of rest can help.

I'm sorry I'm not trying to be difficult I'm just having trouble piecing all this information together after reading so many methods that work and don't work I'm becoming overwhelmed and lost in all the information lol. I'm really trying to grasp everything tho!

[True Blue]

I'm always reluctant to try to explain these things because im always learning something new myself each day, that's after 10 years of researching swaying

It's not 'just' diet it's the effects the diet has on your body and how it works. The higher calories and healthy fats help our bodies produce good hormone levels. This helps improve fertility as well as our own health. Helping to tell our bodies that we can conceive & nourish a baby boy.
The supplements help our bodies produce hormones, example the fish oil, not only can it improve CM it can naturally help to raise testosterone as can lifting weights
So it's not just the diet & supplements it's the effect they set off.

If I have made any sense

[Dana-Alicia]

Take a deep breath and give yourself some time to process all this information. This whole process is overwhelming and daunting at first for everyone. Just read on this site, I would highly recommend a personal plan made by atomic as it takes the stress away from having to sort everything out yourself.

[Adia]

So what does sway? If timing doesn't and pH doesn't that leaves a hardy and nutritious diet and supps? That's it?

Yep, I have had some thyroid issues and swayed for my baby boy for almost 2 years.

By the time I conceived him I was eating very healthy nutritious food, keeping my blood sugar steady, taking a few supplements, doing weight training for exercise, and being competitive as a full time college student. When I knew I was close to ovulating we had sex a lot and we got a boy, no preseed- just EWCM! That's it.

Nothing crazy or fancy just a VERY different lifestyle for me than before. I would think the most bizarre thing I did was drink coconut water and pineapple juice once a day from day 1 of my cycle to the day after I ovulated. I didn't use temperature to track ovulation, I just knew by my cervical mucus and other body signs that I was ovulating.

The hardest part of the HE diet for me was gaining weight. I gained 20lbs on the diet over 2 years and that was hard to deal with, but I am having a boy and i wanted that more. I can lost weight after he is born. My natural eating and exercise habits are very GIRL friendly, hence I have 3 girls without trying.

I strongly encourage you to read everything Atomic has posted for you and read the posted sways. I highly suggest reading BOTH the TTC Girl and TTC Boy information so you can compare what your lifestyle was when you had your daughter versus the lifestyle Atomic suggests to get a boy. It takes a while for the theories to sink in and make sense, but they make perfect sense once you grasp them.

Good luck!

[ELP]

Hello Nann3r As all the ladies above had said, the best sway for boys is to improve nutrition and condition. For most of us its toning up the muscle but as you say you were pretty hench! when you conceived your girl/s so maybe where your body was burning through so many calories it may have not felt steady enough for a boy conception. Now things have slowed a bit with training you may already be in prime boy territory! Good food, womens one a day multi vit, a good fish oil and a good few attempts in the week leading up to ov and over your fertile window.

Please forget any miracle timing, eggwhites and baking soda, its nonsense and dangerous. The above has given me two succesful blue sways in a row after a previous run of three girls before that. Take your time, read through, start from scratch ok

[Nann3r]

This is all very encouraging! I had to just take it day to gather my thoughts again and cool off because I just get so worried and worked up

I definitely think I can improve my diet. I know a ton of factors way in to swaying but I'm sure that being malnourished didn't help me with my first! I'm sure the depleted nutrition is what gave me my girl. Along with other things who knows !!

I've already gained about 15 pounds from pregnancy. Mainly because I was not dieting, and I was eating whatever I wanted over the holidays :-) so I'm fairly confident if I just continue with a hardy dietand adding supplements I will really increase my chances of having my boy!!!

As far as lubricant, I tend to be very dry anyways. TMI but we usually have to use spit!! Ew.. So with this attempt, I think I'm going to use preseed. Not just for a boy but just to help the sperm along in general since I'm so dry down there as it is. Maybe also due to malnutrition? I suppose we'll see. Thank you everyone for all the help!!!

[atomic sagebrush]

I guess I'm just still confused as to what actually sways. I know what doesn't make a difference at all now. So I'm wondering what DOES make a difference. I know now that a nutiritious diet and supplements can increase odds of a boy.. And if that's all I can do then I guess I'll do it.. But is there something else I can do that I'm missing?

The old school sway advice approached swaying as "do these 10 things and you are guaranteed a baby of your desired gender" but that isn't the way it really works. I honesty CAN'T give you a list like that because there are people who could do all those things and then be smoking a pack a day and still get girls because it isn't that list of 10 things that really works, it is improving your condition and fertility as a whole both for you and for DH and together for you as a couple.

All that having been said if you do these things we are getting best results with them:

Eat a nutrient dense diet with more animal fats than vegetable ones, eat 3 meals a day and 2-5 snacks, protein and carbs at every meal and snacks.

Take a prenatal or good multivitamin without a bunch of megadoses or herbs in them, and the same for your husband, plus some fish oil or DHA Husband can take carnitine and that may help.

If you are underweight gain up to 10-15 lbs, if normal weight gain up to 3-5 lbs, if overweight gain nothing up to 3 lbs.

Do musclebuilding exercise but do not overtrain. no more than 45 min at once, 4-5 days a week tops.

Get lots of rest

If you have lots of natural CM that's great, if not use Preseed.

Avoid things that decline your fertility for either you or DH or together as a couple. This includes things like smoking, excessive exercise, excessive crash dieting, biking/jogging by DH, tight underwear, excessive heat, and things like baking soda douche that actually wash away your body's natural CM. Hving your husband release regularly, every 2-4 days, can help. We believe that having regular unprotected sex also helps sway blue by exposing you to the hormones in your husband's semen but I understand that you are probably not going to be willing to do that because it goes against shettles. REgular orgasms for you (2x a week and then one with your attempts if possible) may help a little.

Have more than one attempt in that fertile window. If you can't let go of Shettles that's fine, wait till pos OPK or day before O.

Anyone else, am I missing anything?