FR OR ABSTAIN TO CONCEIVE PINK - POLL

[amelia10]

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[squigglepink]

Actually I need to check something here..
What happens the days prior to this?? I'm talking DTD or DH releasing.. can we do nothing and then do the hurry up FR?

I think what im trying to say is, do we abstain from AF up until our attempt time and then do the hurry up FR? Or can we just DTD (protected) whenever we would like form AF up until our attempt time and then do the hurry up FR?

[honeybee37]

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With ds1 we were really desperately ttc and went from maybe once a week BD to every day through ovulation. With ds2, I had a 5 month old and we were v v v rarely BDing! It was def a one off and (sorry) most of the semen seemed to have fallen out! I was also breastfeeding and losing weight so I can't fathom how he is a boy! But he is! So I'm not sure what we will do. DH does not have a high sex drive at all and quite often it is 1-2x a month (I know, that's rubbish!) we are just trying once a month at +OpK. I think from our BD-ing patterns we should have had a daughter somewhere along the line!

[squigglepink]

I was reading your FR, Abstain etc essay Atomic and i noticed in 2013 you said you were over this frequency thing (cos of results vs one attempt).. And here we are 2016 asking you the same questions!!! Lol, sorry about that!!
Ok, so here's my thing: Pretend ive just finished AF, lets say we dont get in any BD and maybe DH releases alone, maybe not and we are at a +OPK - is it ok to then just either 'do our one attempt' or do the hurry up FR? So - does our pattern of BD prior to our one attempt not matter, is it like irrelevant? Or, pretend ive just finished AF, we have protected sex twice, maybe DH releases in between then, maybe not and then i get a +opk and we have our one attempt or hurry up FR whatever we go for... - does what we do before our attempt matter? In other words, can we just do nothing and then have our attempt or do whatever we want (protected) and then have attempt? This is probably so confusing to you, but it makes sense to me. (I think if we did nothing prior to attempt thats kind of abstaining anyway and DH is 38 - but that would not be planned. And im sure we would want to DTD at some point)
I read in the same essay, you responded to someone with this:
"every 4 day method OR having him do regular release every 2-4 days by himself or with you, with a condom and then the one attempt at pos OPK. This will make for healthier sperm" ( did i just answer my own question?)
ANWAY - this sounds more manageble but my next question is the last part of your answer, where you said it 'makes for healthier sperm' - that has nothing to do with 'upping sperm count/increase odds of boy' does it? (as in low sperm = girl)

[atomic sagebrush]

Hello I have 4 daughters and my hubby and I always had sex every day, not saying this is what you should do, because some may disagree with me. But this is just what we always have done, and ended up with daughter's every time. Good luck to you. You can have all my pink dust. And never had an orgasm making any of my girls.

This has seemed to make girls for some people but I do not recommend it as a pink sway tactic (or a blue one for that matter) because it can be very hit and miss.

[atomic sagebrush]

Actually I need to check something here..
What happens the days prior to this?? I'm talking DTD or DH releasing.. can we do nothing and then do the hurry up FR?

I think it's best to have him do regular release every 2-4 days for as far in advance as is feasible before doing hurry up FR.

Barring that, have him "do what he does".

I would not do an abstain nor FR then tack hurry up FR onto the end of that.

[atomic sagebrush]

I was reading your FR, Abstain etc essay Atomic and i noticed in 2013 you said you were over this frequency thing (cos of results vs one attempt).. And here we are 2016 asking you the same questions!!! Lol, sorry about that!!
Ok, so here's my thing: Pretend ive just finished AF, lets say we dont get in any BD and maybe DH releases alone, maybe not and we are at a +OPK - is it ok to then just either 'do our one attempt' or do the hurry up FR? So - does our pattern of BD prior to our one attempt not matter, is it like irrelevant? Or, pretend ive just finished AF, we have protected sex twice, maybe DH releases in between then, maybe not and then i get a +opk and we have our one attempt or hurry up FR whatever we go for... - does what we do before our attempt matter? In other words, can we just do nothing and then have our attempt or do whatever we want (protected) and then have attempt? This is probably so confusing to you, but it makes sense to me. (I think if we did nothing prior to attempt thats kind of abstaining anyway and DH is 38 - but that would not be planned. And im sure we would want to DTD at some point)
I read in the same essay, you responded to someone with this:
"every 4 day method OR having him do regular release every 2-4 days by himself or with you, with a condom and then the one attempt at pos OPK. This will make for healthier sperm" ( did i just answer my own question?)
ANWAY - this sounds more manageble but my next question is the last part of your answer, where you said it 'makes for healthier sperm' - that has nothing to do with 'upping sperm count/increase odds of boy' does it? (as in low sperm = girl)

Oh gee squiggle if I never got any q's on things I was "over" I'd probably faint haha.

I ~think~ I just answered this question above, did I cover it?

[squigglepink]

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Um yes ok I think I'll do the 2 to 4 days and then the hurry up FR.
Just the question on 'healthy sperm '? I think I know the answer but I trust your brains over mine here!! 😊

[atomic sagebrush]

Also following this!!
With ds1 we were really desperately ttc and went from maybe once a week BD to every day through ovulation. With ds2, I had a 5 month old and we were v v v rarely BDing! It was def a one off and (sorry) most of the semen seemed to have fallen out! I was also breastfeeding and losing weight so I can't fathom how he is a boy! But he is! So I'm not sure what we will do. DH does not have a high sex drive at all and quite often it is 1-2x a month (I know, that's rubbish!) we are just trying once a month at +OpK. I think from our BD-ing patterns we should have had a daughter somewhere along the line!

Swaying is like the tip of an iceberg though. The stuff we see is like this teeny little tip and then there's a huge monster chunk of stuff invisible down below the surface.

[atomic sagebrush]

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Um yes ok I think I'll do the 2 to 4 days and then the hurry up FR.
Just the question on 'healthy sperm '? I think I know the answer but I trust your brains over mine here!! ��

It may, but the think is, that if you don't do it that way, then there is nothing but dust coming out practically or in the case of abstain, everything is killed off, sperm production has dropped and it's much harder for it to recover.