Timing Question

[Birthfree]

Did you try when you got the blinking smiley? Have you fallen pregnant yet? I'm confused with clear blue when we should do our one attempt, at the blinking smiley or the not flashing smiley.

I used the line style of OPKs but we tried on the first strongly positive OPK. We are just starting the 2ww.

[atomic sagebrush]

Wow im so confused with only trying once! After reading so much about shettles. I got my boy last time doing shettles trying for a girl. So only try once after abstaining for our first try and try to do it the day before ovulation

We have several different strategies for swaying. Not everyone does the same thing. Birthfree is "at a certain age" (me too LOL) so we have to be more proactive in her getting pregnant.

Most of us on here have 2-3-4 or more Shettles opposites (again me too!!) But if you are a big believer in timing, that is fine, you can try for a cutoff if you want to (no more than 2-3 days tho) or use the one attempt at pos OPK.

Whether to do abstain or FR depends on a lot of different things - most people with husbands over 35 don't use abstain as it may not be totally safe for sperm, but if he's under 35 you can have him abstain if you want to.

[atomic sagebrush]

Did you try when you got the blinking smiley? Have you fallen pregnant yet? I'm confused with clear blue when we should do our one attempt, at the blinking smiley or the not flashing smiley.

It depends on if you want timing or not. If you want timing you'd aim for attempt the second flashing smiley but be aware that you can have only one flashy and go to peak, or go straight to peak without any flashies!

If you don't want timing and just to have one attempt (for reasons we are not clear on, one attempt has been very effective for pink for us) then it's easiest to do that at the first peak (solid) smiley.

[Birthfree]

I totally understand - it took me 6 months at 41 to get pregnant and I wondered the whole time if I was doing the right thing. But she is here and normal and perfectly healthy.

I have a positive test this morning! (8-9dpo... I think 9dpo and that a really restless night messed up my waking temperature). [emoji7]

[atomic sagebrush]

ooo, I see it!!

[PINKwish16]

Hi, I'm new to this site. But interested in timing for girl sway also.
I for some reason had a weird experience (although still conceived) that I had a flashing smiley Day 12 (I was using line tests everyday as well) but never got a positive until late afternoon day 24!! We had from, I think, day 6 been doing it every other day exactly. And the last time was the night before the +OPK as hubby went away (so day 23)
The month before was flashing smiley for 3 days then +Opk. So this was extremely weird to me.
Anyway, I had two boys having intercourse soon as I've had an +opk and then a day or two after and always had EWCM around ovulation.
This time I've made a few changes like skipping breakfast, eating foods I believe to be acidifying for the body, no veg (which now I'm worried was wrong) lots of plain Greek yogurt, NO bananas or fruit, haha. Didn't lose any weight but didn't gain. Had no EWCM and tested on the acid side when ovulated. Me and husband took mag and calcium sups (got bit lazy month we conceived) and he took baths when he could, he did the night before my +OPK.

Sorry for the essay (embarrassed face) but at a glance would you say that was a reasonable pink sway or are there a few rooky mistakes here!

Thank you in advance

[atomic sagebrush]

It happens more than you might think.

I never recommend DTD every other day for TTC a girl but you do always have a chance of a girl no matter what. Sending you tons of pink dust!

[PINKwish16]

Thank you and thank you for the reply!

Ah ok, my understanding was that every other day would lower sperm count and the Y sperm may die off sooner leaving X sperm up there (of course not knowing when I'd get the +opk). Probably got it all wrong haven't I
I just tried to do the opposite to what I did with my boys I guess.

Why do you not recommend the every other day with a cut off?

Did everything else look ok? Or have I gone way off away from your advice guidelines. It's ok, I can take it....I think. Hehe

[atomic sagebrush]

It's not that you got it wrong, it's just that there is a lot of info on line and some of it is decades old and has been debunked. People keep putting it online but it doesn't work. Most of us on here got opposites with the old-school timing stuff and we just want you in with the best possible shot because we know how hard it is to have GD.

Dr Shettles was wrong about X and Y sperm. He made a mistake and thought that capacitated sperm were Y sperm, and uncapacitated sperm were X. We know that this is a proven fact and no one can see the gender of sperm thru a microscope. We now know that X and Y sperm live the same length of time and swim the same speed. What you are doing is dumping more and more sperm into your repro tract and studies and other theories have indicated that this may sway blue (because of sperm numbers, exposure to hormones in semen, pH, or some combo of all three plus other reasons we can only guess at.)

Timing with cutoffs does not sway. It doesn't work. Doing the opposite only works when you're doing the opposite of things that got you boys to begin with. If you had sex the last time with your husband's socks on, and this time you're going to have sex with them off, that obviously can't be the reason why you got boys, and relying on that as your sway is not going to help you, if that makes sense.

It doesn't mean you can't get a girl - you can get a girl doing things straight off the boy playbook, but it's not going to be your best shot, is all.

Are you already pregnant?

[PINKwish16]

Yes, that all makes sense.

Yeh I am pregnant, I looked at things a few months before trying and did the things mentioned above that I felt would be opposite and/or what I thought would sway from what I had read (like eating acidifying foods, timing, sups, the baths etc) but since falling pregnant have become more intrigued and am now realising I should have researched a little more to have given myself the best chance, but the reality is it's too late now. Haha.

I fully understand though that inspite of even the most accurate of sways you are still only in with a chance, your only swaying your chances, not making it something that will definitely happen, so I know logically there's still a possibility. I guess after reading more and more I needed to ask what you/someone thought. What will be will be I guess, too late now.

Although I'm glad nothing stood out to you as being strongly in the blue territory!