Swaying after Miscarriage

[atomic sagebrush]

Oh gee whiz, I thought I had commented on this thread!!

What a great thread and (((Hugs))) and love to you all.

The only thing I can add is that my understanding is that some people want you to wait one cycle to make sure that all the tissue (and even cells) have been passed to ensure there is no risk of infection.

Doctors talk a good game but they know about 3% of why anything really happens if that even. Take their advice with a grain of salt because I think they speculate A LOT and just do things sometimes so they can appear that they know WTF is going on and that they are in control.

I'm with ya in the 2011 SUCKS clan. Can't wait for 2012, even if the Mayans were right it has to be an improvement!

[XXdreaming]

I am on the fence here, I was puking by 5wks pregnant, got u/s at 7wks. Saw a healthy baby and heartbeat, wanted to see me back in 10wks, I lived on zofran puking my guts out, all signs of a good pregnancy....yeah right! My 10wks u/s showed a baby measuring 7wks 6days with no hb, my body had no signs of m/c, cervix tightly closed, no spotting, no cramping, so I decided the fastest way would be d&c, went home and felt sorry for myself taking my zofran and still vomting, blood work agreed with u/s, and my question is it different with a d&c then a natural m/c, can you still start right back up after d&c or should you wait?, I haven't decided yet, because I just puked through thanksgiving and christmas and then found out a week before my bday it had already died, I don't know if I am ready for m/s again, but just in case I change my mind can you start right away after a d&c?

[Mochagirl]

First of all, I'm am sooooo sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you that you've had to go through this so many times.

Back when I was trying to decide what to do, I found lots of people online asking the same thing as you. A lot of them were told by their doctor that since a d&c completely cleans out your uterus it's a good idea to wait until after your first period to make sure you have a good lining built up first. Could you maybe ask your doctor?

I did end up trying right away, but my body obviously wasn't ready since I spotted through my whole LP, but my second O I got my BFP. I'm somewhat of the mind that if your body isn't ready to support a pregnancy, you won't get pregnant. I wish you a swift BFP and a sticky, healthy bean .

[rainbowflower]

I am on the fence here, I was puking by 5wks pregnant, got u/s at 7wks. Saw a healthy baby and heartbeat, wanted to see me back in 10wks, I lived on zofran puking my guts out, all signs of a good pregnancy....yeah right! My 10wks u/s showed a baby measuring 7wks 6days with no hb, my body had no signs of m/c, cervix tightly closed, no spotting, no cramping, so I decided the fastest way would be d&c, went home and felt sorry for myself taking my zofran and still vomting, blood work agreed with u/s, and my question is it different with a d&c then a natural m/c, can you still start right back up after d&c or should you wait?, I haven't decided yet, because I just puked through thanksgiving and christmas and then found out a week before my bday it had already died, I don't know if I am ready for m/s again, but just in case I change my mind can you start right away after a d&c?

so sorry for your MMC I had a similar one
no, you can start after a D&C, but in a D&C they really strip your lining of most of its thickness (to make sure they get all of the cells) and I'm not sure if that would affect implantation chances in the first cycle
not all pregnancies are the same, you might not be sick at all with the next one.

[XXdreaming]

thanks i think I will wait a cycle then, because I dont need any help with m/cing, it does make sense in cleaning your uterus and striping your lining my body might not have enough to time to replenish it for an egg to implant, so I think to be safe I will wait for my cycle to return and all my pregnancies sucks lol I am puking at 5wks and dont let up till 18 to 20wks so I am not to hopeful of it being any different :/

[atomic sagebrush]

Hang in there XX. Praying it happens fast for you!

[Allegra]

I'm so sorry for all of you with losses. I've never had a late miscarriage, but have now had two early ones in a row and I'm getting so frustrated. I know it's not fair to compare week 5 M/C with week 11, but it still hurts some way.

First misscarriage was about week five. Had many BFP:s but I still was cautious and continued LE diet. When the mc happened, I was happy I did, cause then we could ttc right the next cycle. I had a GREAT swaying cycle after the MC. Did the diet, antihistamines, ph, supps, 8 day abstinence and 0+7-timing. And I got pregnant. I had an early BFP and was SO excited that this must be my girl. I didn't continue LE diet this time because I was so fed up with it - having eaten tasteless food since february. I ate chicken, fish, pork, chocolate cake - whatever I feeled like.

But after a bit more than a week, mc happened again. I was again on 5+ weeks. I'm just getting frustrated and I'm not sure I can continue swaying anymore. The thought of zucchini pasta makes me cry and I'm not even sure we can TTC next cycle because of all the meat and fatty foods I've stuffed during the early pg. Also I can't help but think that the losses were boys. I've read that most miscarriages are boys, since they are more fragile. So how come I fall pg twice with (possible) boys after great sways.

Just needed to vent. I feel like baby fever is taking soon over the baby girl fever..

[Mochagirl]

Sorry, Allegra - that's frustrating. A miscarriage is a miscarriage no matter how early - they all break your heart. I certainly became much more 'team baby' after my m/c, and it think if I'd had more than one I would have dropped even more of my sway. Just make sure you don't make any decisions you'll regret. Maybe take a month off swaying and TTC altogether?

[Butterfly Spirit]

I'm so sorry for all of you with losses. I've never had a late miscarriage, but have now had two early ones in a row and I'm getting so frustrated. I know it's not fair to compare week 5 M/C with week 11, but it still hurts some way.

First misscarriage was about week five. Had many BFP:s but I still was cautious and continued LE diet. When the mc happened, I was happy I did, cause then we could ttc right the next cycle. I had a GREAT swaying cycle after the MC. Did the diet, antihistamines, ph, supps, 8 day abstinence and 0+7-timing. And I got pregnant. I had an early BFP and was SO excited that this must be my girl. I didn't continue LE diet this time because I was so fed up with it - having eaten tasteless food since february. I ate chicken, fish, pork, chocolate cake - whatever I feeled like.

But after a bit more than a week, mc happened again. I was again on 5+ weeks. I'm just getting frustrated and I'm not sure I can continue swaying anymore. The thought of zucchini pasta makes me cry and I'm not even sure we can TTC next cycle because of all the meat and fatty foods I've stuffed during the early pg. Also I can't help but think that the losses were boys. I've read that most miscarriages are boys, since they are more fragile. So how come I fall pg twice with (possible) boys after great sways.

Just needed to vent. I feel like baby fever is taking soon over the baby girl fever..

Allegra, Please don't blame yourself for feeling guilty for being sad that you had a 5 week M/C.
I believe the same thing that Mocha does, no matter what time it occured, a loss is still heartbreaking!
I had my first one this month at 5 weeks as well, and it HURTS like hell! We had sweet little babies that we finally conceived, and we thought and dreamed about their futures and then all of a sudden they were taken from us ... just like that.
Might I suggest what I am doing that two wonderful ladies told me to do: Either drink red raspberry leaf tea or taking red raspberry leaves capsules.. they strengthen the uterine wall!
Don't rush into conceiving though, just whenever you are ready again.
Life sucks! I'm so sorry for your loss hon. It's just not fair!!!

[atomic sagebrush]

I'm so sorry Allegra.

First of all, you have no way of knowing whether your babies were boys or girls. Girls are lost too, it's just that more boys are lost.

I would have you drop the abstain and O+ timing. Best results come from fresh sperm + fresh egg - I am NOT saying in any way that you caused your miscarriages by anything you did or didn't do, because most are totally just bad luck and out of our control. I'm just saying that's what ~I~ personally would tweak if it was me.

Huge (((hugs))) and best wishes for a sticky BFP soon.