Any blue swayers TTC in dec 2013

[Boysway]

Oncue, unfortunately it's more difficult for dh to perform when he has been drinking. It's always been the case If only.

Mamato3, I try the upbeat, positive vibes, I try complementing him. He just has such a negative personality. I am positive most of the time (it's taken a lot to get me to this point) every few months I get to the point when I'm over everything negative and I just hold it all in till I either verbally or mentally blow up or dh coaxes it out of me. He does feel he has failed me. I reminded him he isn't a failure. But he needs to take the steps to look after himself.

We had a long chat this afternoon. The main thing seems to be getting to the gym. It's hard with me working nightshift all the time. I've suggested we try out going to the gym from 6:30-7:20am on the mornings I'm not coming off nightshift and from around 7-7:40 am on the days I have work. I am hoping that will help.

Thank you for your advice ladies Whether you think it's silly (it wasn't) or not, I am happy for hints and advice

[Ewpnx1]

Boysway I dont have much to say but it took me a month to convince my hubby to go for a sperm test he felt awkward about it..but once issue was found he was active to work on it..in terms of taking supplements etc..i agree that you are doing everything to sway for blue but he hasnt been interested..y dont u ask him if he really wants another child? He probably doesnt..tell him if he wants then he needs to cooperate n look after his health so that baby is healthy too..

[Boysway]

Ewpnx, as far as I know his sperm isn't too bad. The problem is his equipment not working. I think his weight has a lot to do with his low testosterone and his equipment has never performed well under pressure. Our very first time together didn't work out because he was nervous. I won't even tell him when ovulation is anymore for fear of too much pressure on him. I think it's psychological as well as physical. Dh definitely wants another baby, it was me he had to convince. And, yes I have also told he needs to look after himself. I've also reminded him I can't make a baby myself. I tell you what, if HT could guarantee us a baby boy I really think that would be the best way to go. Save us all this stress, save money as well. The supps, coconut water and juice really add up. Not to mention the bottles of Robitussin, the pressed and OPK'S. This has all been rather expensive

[Boysway]

Hey ladies just letting you know I will likely back off from this forum for a while. I may stalk a little bit but, who knows *shrugs*. I am having a very hard time with all things ttc and life in general and my depression is back. I will be seeing a psychologist as of this Wednesday. I won't be telling dh as he doesn't need to know. That will only make things worse for him as my moods and his problem are causing his depression to resurface and he gets it worse then I do. Thank you for all your support, I really value it xx :bighugs:

[oncue]

Aww boysway, it will be sad to not have u around. Please always come back if u need anything even just to vent. We are here for u, just to listen and send virtual hugs! I know it must be so difficult for u. Uve been such a trooper with ur diet and all things TTC, I'm praying that it happens for u soon. I think it's important to make sure you get yourself feeling good, even if it means having to let DH know ur feelings. Depression can be an awful cycle, and if talking about how u feel improves things for u, it will also improve things for ur DH too. You can't help him til u help urself is what I'm trying to say.
Take as long as u need, but ur always welcome and cared for here xox

[Boysway]

Thank you xxx

[crazycatcouple]

We will miss you around here Boysway, but I completely understand needing to focus on you and getting in the right frame of mind. Depression can sneak up on you, so it's great that you are aware and are going to see someone about it. As Oncue said, please feel free to come visit whenever you need, even if it is just to vent, as we all know we need an outlet for that every once in a while! Good luck to you, and I'll be thinking about you and praying that you get a little blue bundle soon!!

[Ewpnx1]

boysway look after yourself.We will miss you here.Please come back once you feel like it. Wish you all the luck for health for you and your family.May god bless you with healthy baby boy very very soon

[Boysway]

Thank you for all your wonderful support ladies. It really means a lot to me I have renewed hope though Dh took 1/2 a viagra this morning and we were finally able to bd for the first time in two months I will still see the Psychologist but, I am definitely feeling more hopeful. So glad I didn't stop the supps and diet because I nearly did.

[Ewpnx1]

Awesome news )) Enjoy