Due in December 2014 - Jan/Feb 2015

[Rosie85]

If my ovulation comes 14 days after my 1st day of bleeding from miscarriage I will be in for a February 21st due date. My fingers are crossed so tight they hurt! Haha

[Yahmama]

jTE=daisymoo;579433]Just checking in to see how everyone is feeling these days Anyone have a scan coming up? I'm going to go for an early scan at 8 weeks but that's not for another 2 weeks!! Has everyone told their family yet? I think I'll tell my mom this weekend She'll be over the moon!
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I had a scan on Tues- it's back a few pages on this thread. I've been wondering if I'm not welcome in this group or something because I have both genders?tI didn't sway this time even though I swayed with my 4th baby because I desperately wanted a brother for my son and cried each time i had a girl because i always wanted 2 boots close in age. No one seemed interested in it maybe? Maybe I'm just hormonal but it's hard when my IRL friends don't know and I felt I could share here but it was basically ignored? Please tell me if I'm just being silly or if people would rather me not be on here.

[Rosie85]

Yahmaha!! That is so not it!! If I didn't see the scan you mentioned it's because of my loss. I haven't much focused on anyone else the last few days and I apologize for that. You are most definitely wanted and loved here. Gender disappointment and desire can happen to anyone regardless of how many of each gender you have. You are lucky to already have some of each but that doesn't mean you don't have the feelings that you do. I am assuming everyone here feels the same as me. So in summary...you are being silly.

[daisymoo]

Sorry about that yahmama I hadn't gone through all the posts properly as have been very busy the last few days so my fault totally
I'm glad your scan went well Of course you're always welcome in any group Sorry if you felt ignored. Are you hoping for a blue or pink bundle this time?

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[Lolo]

Hi ladies, can I join you please? i am 13 weeks + my due date is 25/11/14 if born on that day it will be my 40th birthday too!! What a present lol! Xxxx

[daisymoo]

Welcome lolo! What a nice birthday present that would be!!

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[Yahmama]

Thank you so much Ladies- that makes me feel like I'm not going crazy- I appreciate your kind words and I'm so sorry I ever thought that. I know there's a lot going on and things just get backed up. I guessida little paranoid bc when I first got on IG a few years ago I had a couple people ask me why I was there and I guess I've been over sensitive myself since then.
Daisy- I'm actually hoping for another blue bean but we're felt going to try to go team green for the first time ever. Make this one a surprise from beginning to end. <3

[Lolo]

Hi Yahmama, I think there is nothing wrong with anyone wanting another blue or pink its such a personnal choice for whatever reasons, same gender siblings for a brother or sister is totally understandable. I am hoping for pink to complete my family, as I have two boys I adore, but would be fine with another boy, I hope you get what you want we all deserve that and a healthy one is the most important its a desire goodluck everyone

[LilithWiser1979]

Ugh, don't get me started on IG, Yahmama. That place used to be SO supportive, and I don't know if the admins stopped caring, or what happened, but it's just AWFUL now. I think a lot of women have terrible gender disappointment in the beginning, often with all of one gender, and they either get their DG or they work at processing and getting through their GD, but then they emerge very unsupportive of the women still going through the worst of it. No one seems to understand (or remember!) that pregnant women are abnormally emotional, and we often feel things more deeply. Something that sounded mildly disappointing before we got pg is suddenly world-ending when we're in the throes of pregnancy hormones.

I had to leave there. I just couldn't take it anymore when women got jumped on for having a gender preference when THAT'S WHAT THE BOARD WAS THERE FOR! Everyone's GD is valid. If you only wanted girls, had three girls and then a boy, your GD and feelings are valid and you should be supported. I don't feel NEARLY as bad for you as the women who have had 5 boys hoping for a single girl, but I acknowledge that your family doesn't look the way you envisioned and wanted, and I understand that mourning. There was a woman who unsuspectedly wandered onto IG a year or so ago with that exact scenario, and I could NOT BELIEVE how she was treated. In her original post she bemoaned how she felt like a horrible person for feeling that way, wished that she was happy to be having a boy, and couldn't express to anyone else in real life her feelings because she knew it sounded awful. Even then she was basically told to not come whining over here because there were women who would kill for one of each gender. UGH!

Sorry if you're not feeling supported here. I've been a bit distracted and distant waiting for my Panorama results, but now I'm ready to be excited and fully on board with this pregnancy. I hope you stick around and feel welcome here. I'm jealous of your team green status! I've never done it, and, thanks to dealing with crippling gender disappointment, I never will. Oh well. I'm just happy to be pregnant with my DD now, and feeling blessed!

[Lolo]

I couldn't agree more with you, I had extreme gd disappointment I was crying every day it felt, its a loss of what could of been my desire is to have a mother and daughter bond i never had with my mother, its not cos i don't want boys and after my son was born he is such a joy and very content and i wouldn't change him for the world and I feel very grateful for what I got but that still don't take away that I still want a daughter it will never leave me I know thoses feelings have always been there my last son was the shettles method and I have swayed this time around I will accept what god has given me