TTC Blue Crew Grads

[begonia]

Baby- oh you have no idea. Dh doesn't really fit in with his family and they've always looked down on him for it. He was teased as a child because he liked to read, mocked as an adult for being white collar, and down right abused for not producing an heir. I won't lie, I love that this shut him up for a second and took some of the attention away from his son. Bil and sil insist on them or their kids being the center of attention and literally squirm when someone else gets any. It really is no mystery why we avoid them.

Really, that's just so sad that he was treated that way by his own family How lovely that he now has such a wonderful wife and kids!

[begonia]

Spicy I said it on another thread but you know I'm with the others in saying wait and see! That said, you know what you saw, and I can understand if you're feeling like you really saw it. But still ... nubs can definitely be misleading, and FX yours ends up blue. I'm really glad you're handling the potential girl result well though!

I'm with you, I too feel like I had a great sway which is where it is so hard in some ways to accept; for crying out loud I ate and worked out like a "boy mom" for 9 solid months! Sheesh. If that can't change my body to be boy friendly I really don't know what else I could do. Our sway results definitely aren't breaking any records lately, so here's hoping the next round of ladies finding out bring some good blue news to the board!

[begonia]

Thanks, cant afford HT & i dont want to be an old mom so this will be my last baby. Am feeling better about it everyday

Baby that's awesome that you're feeling better every day! I am trying so hard to get there! I keep getting hung up on the "but I tried SO hard" and having a hard time believing that this is REALLY it.

I will say I had lunch with a friend today and her darling 10 month old baby boy, and I wasn't eaten up with jealousy. I mean, all babies are cute. My 3rd baby girl will be a total doll, I know it ... when she grins at me for the first time?!?! I can't wait. It's more the long-term relationship of mother/son that I feel like I'm going to always be missing. But not all mothers/sons get along so I need to let go of this romantic, made-up vision of me and my son; it's not real, and it's not like I had it and lost it. I might as well be holding on to a vision of having won the lottery and complaining about that not being true

Baby will you have any more scans? I can definitely say I think I'll feel better seeing my girl again later this month. It helps make her more real and reminds me again how lucky I am to have a healthy little one squirming around in there!

[begonia]

And welcome to this thread Foxy and MFC! I hope I didn't miss anyone else. I admit to being pretty self-absorbed as of late

Jen I bet when I see the pic (because I'm hoping you'll post one...) of your 3 DD's and their little brother I'll be itching to have a 4th. Your kids are darling and what a fun family make-up to have. My bestie growing up was the 3rd girl in a GGGB family, and she and her little brother are actually closer than she and either of her sisters. How is DD1 dealing with it being a boy? Has she come around and gotten excited?

[Foxy]

Spicy - With my last baby I was sure I saw a flat nub during my 12 week scan and nothing between the legs. I even called DH and told him that we were having another girl. Two weeks later a penis popped up on the screen, lol. Wait for the big scan, hun.

[Foxy]

Begonia - Thanks for the welcome and I don't think you are self-absorbed at all. I'm glad to see you posting! Baby girls are so much fun and all the feelings you have right now will go away when you see that little sweet face for the first time. You should get a 4D scan if you can. It helped me bond with DD#4.

[babydes56]

Baby that's awesome that you're feeling better every day! I am trying so hard to get there! I keep getting hung up on the "but I tried SO hard" and having a hard time believing that this is REALLY it.

I will say I had lunch with a friend today and her darling 10 month old baby boy, and I wasn't eaten up with jealousy. I mean, all babies are cute. My 3rd baby girl will be a total doll, I know it ... when she grins at me for the first time?!?! I can't wait. It's more the long-term relationship of mother/son that I feel like I'm going to always be missing. But not all mothers/sons get along so I need to let go of this romantic, made-up vision of me and my son; it's not real, and it's not like I had it and lost it. I might as well be holding on to a vision of having won the lottery and complaining about that not being true

Baby will you have any more scans? I can definitely say I think I'll feel better seeing my girl again later this month. It helps make her more real and reminds me again how lucky I am to have a healthy little one squirming around in there!

I'm so alike with you in that from DD1 i wanted a boy, DD2 i wanted a boy & now i'm having a third daughter, sometimes life isnt fair! I felt sick the other day when DH asked if SHE was moving because until now i refuse that i'm carrying a she, how sad is that? I noticed that when i refer to the her i dont say SHE i say the baby. I think i'm getting better with it but it still hurts so bad knowing i'll never have a mother/son relationship which i thought i'd have. I know that if i had lots of cash i'd consider HT in a heartbeat even though i said i'm getting too old for another but there's no way i'd try for another naturally because it would absolutely rip my heart apart if it failed again so i wouldnt take that chance.

Would you do it if DH agreed? It costs a lot doesnt it? No i dont get any more scans now, i'd have to pay if i wanted another

[babydes56]

Begonia - Thanks for the welcome and I don't think you are self-absorbed at all. I'm glad to see you posting! Baby girls are so much fun and all the feelings you have right now will go away when you see that little sweet face for the first time. You should get a 4D scan if you can. It helped me bond with DD#4.

Welcome Foxy, here's to hoping you hear blue. You right about how we'll feel better when we see that little sweet face for the first but i still dont know if the longing for a son will

[3Pink1Blue]

Oh me too!!! I keep journals for my kids, with DD1 I started it right after we found out she was a girl, and with DD2 I couldn't start it until the week before her birth because I was so worried I'd write something in there inadvertently revealing how sad I was about her being a girl. This one I'm terrified again to start so will probably be an after-birth endeavor.

And I worry about if we did adopt a son ... would my girls feel like we "chose" him because they were somehow not what we wanted? It's so hard. Because in truth I wouldn't even consider 4 if one of our 3 had been a DS. 3 was always the plan; it wasn't just this one that I wished for a son, it was all of them, so having #3 wasn't just for gender. 4 would only be because of my inability to get past not having a son, and I'm not really comfortable with that being the reason. I'd rather get to a place where I genuinely WANT a 4th CHILD, kwim?

B- We too had always said three, from before we were married we said three but it never occured to us we'd have three of the same. I can't be sure but I don't think we would have gone for four it one of them had been a boy. I never wanted four till dd3 was born then the older she got the bigger the hole in our family felt. Dh refused to try again till he felt I wanted a baby and not just a boy. It took 3 years before we both knew I would be ok with 4 girls. To an extent you can't decide with your brain or your wallet that you're done.
I hear ya on adopting a boy and not wanting anyone to feel he was hand picked to cover up your failures. This whole wanting a different gender thing is so complicated.

[3Pink1Blue]

Really, that's just so sad that he was treated that way by his own family How lovely that he now has such a wonderful wife and kids!

Awe thanks He's got a real thick skin about it because it's been that way his whole life. I get upset that they all pretend to be so close and love each other so much and then think it's just fine to treat him/us like that.

Here's another example of bil's behavior. Dh got a text at 2pm yesterday informing us of my sil b-day dinner TONIGHT @ 6. Yep 28 hrs notice, a few years ago we got 3 hrs notice. Lovely huh.