UK SMOG Wannabes - November (moved from PL)

[littlemisswilko]

Hey everyone, I found you all ha ha!
Havent been on PL for a week and was so shocked to see its closing, but so glad I popped on today to catch the moving post.
Am so behind with whats happening, will have to make sure I pop on daily now.

Im still holding out to ttc from March time, then I thought leave it till the year after, but after charting this month my suspicions of a short lp is confirmed - 9 days. Although I suspect I ovulated 2 days later than ff said so could be 6! So going to chart for 2 months and then go to the drs before ttc as do not want to risk another mc. So if I need treatment, Im not sure I can do all the sways - might not feel right as they may only give me limited time to try things so should ttc as best as I can, hard one! Bloody PCOS I thought it wouldnt be that easy. Just lucky my 2nd child managed to stick with no problems! With DS1 I had a hcg shot and progesterone shot.

Hope your all well, any recent bfp's?

yayy chocolate, glad you found us!!! we were wondering where you had got to.
charlieispy recently got a BFP and deaks attempted the other night. so we have all got our FX for her. Mabeybaby has been blessed with a healthy little boy, she found out yesturday! and My attempt is a few days away!! Indigo is 10dpo so were bugging her to test very soon!! Got a few more newbies to the thread also!!!

have you tried b6 to try and lengthen lp? hope things work themselves out. got my fx for you xxx

[maybebabythree]

Poor Dave, it's not him, it's my lost chance of my girlie! I was toying with Pgd but it's the thought of 4 kids!! Never, ever have I wanted 4 kids!!! I have a three bed semi and little chance of moving as its a expensive area and we don't own this house so extending it is a no-goer. Plus I like my holidays. I couldn't go abroad with four kids every year.

[chocolate]

yayy chocolate, glad you found us!!! we were wondering where you had got to.
charlieispy recently got a BFP and deaks attempted the other night. so we have all got our FX for her. Mabeybaby has been blessed with a healthy little boy, she found out yesturday! and My attempt is a few days away!! Indigo is 10dpo so were bugging her to test very soon!! Got a few more newbies to the thread also!!!

have you tried b6 to try and lengthen lp? hope things work themselves out. got my fx for you xxx

Thanks for the update, hope for some more good news soon then!

Maybeybaby - I understand your post now, Ill just ramble and hope I dont offend or say something that doesnt make sense: justgive yourself some time, let yourself feel however you feel and do not feel guilty for it, I had days in pregnancy with DS2 where I would just think 'bloody typical' and just not know why as I really thought I would not feel dissapointed, think hormones dont help - I felt down and just wanted to pin it onto something! Looking at DS2 now, I would happily have another 2 of him, no dissapointment when I look at him at all, wouldnt swap him for the world. Will be swaying for a girl, and who knows,may feel some sadness if I find out its a boy again - but not about the baby, more about the lack of pink in the house, but I know once that little person is here Id be smitten, sure you will be too.


LittlemissW, no I havent tried any supps as still bfeeding and not trying till March so will chart for a few months and see whats happening before asking the drs what route to take, just do not want to risk a miscarriage again, never thought it would happen to me even with all the percentages not in my favour, and was a bit shock when it did happen, do not want a repeat of that so if I can hold off ttc till they sort my lp for the best chances then so be it.

[chocolate]

Poor Dave, it's not him, it's my lost chance of my girlie! I was toying with Pgd but it's the thought of 4 kids!! Never, ever have I wanted 4 kids!!! I have a three bed semi and little chance of moving as its a expensive area and we don't own this house so extending it is a no-goer. Plus I like my holidays. I couldn't go abroad with four kids every year.

Thats exactly how I see it ' not the baby, the chance of a girl'.............. thats how I felt with DS2. At least you realise that though, 3 to 4 isnt a big jump apparantly lol, app. 2 to 3 is worse lol

[littlemisswilko]

Poor Dave, it's not him, it's my lost chance of my girlie! I was toying with Pgd but it's the thought of 4 kids!! Never, ever have I wanted 4 kids!!! I have a three bed semi and little chance of moving as its a expensive area and we don't own this house so extending it is a no-goer. Plus I like my holidays. I couldn't go abroad with four kids every year.

That is the only downside to having a large familys as holidays abroad become very expensive. As a family we havent been abroad but enjoy lots of caravaning holidays in the summer as its quite cheap and the boys love it. For me if baby #3 was a boy then i know i would definately consider pgd as i dont think i could let go of my dream!

[maybebabythree]

Chocolate - I am sure your right. I wasn't fussed about the sex of ds1 or ds2 so hopefully this will pass. I think I just want a bloody good cry and get over it. However work is so busy and I had to go in today after only finding out yesterday. Maybe if I still feel poop after the weekend I will phone in sick. I soooo wanted this baby - still want this baby. I just want to be happy again. I know other people with three or two of one sex and they are happy, some wasn't at the time but they got over it. I just need to get over it now, today!!

[charlieispy]

Petal - can't belive your due now! How are you feeling?

I am still quite sad today - I can't belive how I feel really. I thought I would be ok, but I'm not really. Seems unfair but thats life I guess.

I hope I feel better soon :¬(

Maybe - this is exactly what happened to me - had the scan was fine went out brought a few bits saw my BF told her etc etc......that night I started crying and without being OTT i pretty much cried for 3 days AND nights....lying in bed sobbing my poor DH didnt know what to do. It was a mixture of mourning for a daughter I thought I would never have AND the awful guilt i felt for feeling so disappointed. DS3 was my first pregnancy that wasnt high risk and I was still devestated that he was a he. And like you say its not the babies fault so you beat yourself up for feeling upset. What I am trying to say is that it will get better it will I promise and oh my how I wouldnt swap my ds3 for a girl no way never even if he was my only chance for a girl I love him so much he melts my heart. I am so glad i found out though - i mourned i wailed and i shouted it wasnt fair (and i mean pretty much lost the plot for a while) but after doing all that I never felt any disappointment with his birth or his arrival he was a he and a beautiful he. I was going to keep his sex a secret but the constant questioning the oh i beat its a girl really stung and cut deep so I ended up telling most people to shut them up! Anyway I hope my ramble makes you feel not so guilty for feeling the way you do and give you hope that it will pass x Trust me when I find out this bean is a boy I will shed more tears but I know it will pass and I feel more at ease this time as either way no more babies after the bean x FX all going well x

For me the one of the worst things is the pity you get from people who cant think before they speak....idiots

anyway been thinking of you x x much love x

[maybebabythree]

Yep - with the comments - my first was from the sonographer!!!

[HopeandDreamG]

yeh if you add a few lavender drops to the anion strip just help lower testosterone and have you got your self a magnetic sensa pad?

What is that?

[HopeandDreamG]

Never mind just saw your post below it. I'll check it out! Thanks