Part 3: Due January, February and March 2019

[simkan]

Sorry you have an extra worry and stress Kelbear. Strange that at your ultrasound they said all looks good. Try not to worry. Also I really dislike the whole percentile thing. It causes so much unnecessary worry. And they're not even accurate. I was told my first was 50th percentile and he came out 90th, and was told my second was the 96th percentile when he was born get was actually the 20th. Hope everything turns out fine with your placenta, I have no idea what that means. Just take it easy x

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[Noemi2017]

Kelbear im sorry to hear about your problems with placenta, i pray it is ok and baby is safe and healthy. This is now the most important

[Noemi2017]

Thx u gafan. I will know in March. First i didnt feel any disappointment and i was and i am happy for healthy baby boy or girl. But yesterday evening i was thinking maybe i will never have my baby girl, my dream wont become true so i was crying. After i was upset and sorry i was sad. It was not fair, my baby is gift from God and i should be grateful. I try to fight with my feelings but i also understand now all girls which go through GD.

[Throwaway_panther]

Omg Kel, I am so sorry to hear you had a shocking scan. At first I thought it was funny how we both had been wrestling with Team Green to be explicitly told we can't know gender at our scans -- but now to be told the placenta has issues is so scary.

I will say: these scans are highly imperfect, especially at general/normal techs with OBs. Is there a specialist they can refer you to? The growth can definitely be imperfect -- my poor friend was induced early because of IUGR with her first who ended up being normal at birth, I was told DD's stomach was in the 4th percentile indicating an issue, etc. (she didn't; she was born as normal and perfect as could be), and these were in later scans, let alone at the "still ambiguous middle point" scans. I am so, so sorry about all the compounding stress you're under now. I am really hoping your follow up scans give you some relief -- though I know if you're like me, each scan will bring stress right before between worrying what it will show AND the GD!!

[Throwaway_panther]

And as for me, an update: we are still going to follow up scan. I had my my midwife appointment yesterday and she really encouraged me to go still, even though I expressed how much they give me anxiety (which is true -- not just GD related, but also the nerves each time of seeing something wrong).

But in some weirdness, she went to show me the report and stopped to go, "Oh! Wait, are you finding out?" and I said, "Oh, we don't want to but she said she couldn't even see it." But the report said "normal genitals" but no gender. She said that was odd as usually they'll include it regardless as it's for the professional staff only. Then all the things we were told we were checking today (nasal bone, spine, cord) were different -- they had TONS of heart stuff listed that was not seen. I was even asking, "Are we sure this is my chart?!" haha. She said she'd call the office (the scans are never done in the midwives office) -- but she trusts the supervising doctor over there, so she must have seen what she needed to on one hand and not enough of the other. But since it's heart stuff, my midwife said it's pretttyy important to check those.

Though now, of course, I am stressing that if the doctor somehow saw genitals that the tech didn't see, it'd have to be a girl since she'd have investigated 3 lines I feel (how could a tech miss a penis and a doctor see it just from pictures?!). At first I had had this feeling it was a boy upon seeing that on the report, but now of course I've analyzed the heck out of everything and am back to thinking it's probably a girl sigh.

I did notice heartrate was much lower on the anatomy scan (which I had asked not to hear so it didn't stoke my GD anxiety), and it was lower at the appt (low 140 instead of the low 150s), and I did briefly get excited thinking, "Omgosh, my chiropractor just told me how both her boys started as high as 160-170 and got down to 130-140s as time went on," but of course I Googled and EVERYONE's gets lower haha. So I'm just dreading this scan in general since I'm sure I'll catch NO genitals (especially since it's even later in development now) and know it's a girl.

[Noemi2017]

Tp heartrate of my baby was 177. I hope your scan goes well and u dont see any genital parts. I think it is better to know gender of baby after birth so u can enjoy pregnany and dont be sad. I pray there is baby boy for u

[Throwaway_panther]

Tp heartrate of my baby was 177. I hope your scan goes well and u dont see any genital parts. I think it is better to know gender of baby after birth so u can enjoy pregnany and dont be sad. I pray there is baby boy for u

Thank you Noemi, just as I pray your baby is your longed for baby girl! Let's stay strong as Team Green together so hopefully we won't be sad these pregnancies! <3

[Eighme]

I'm so sorry, Kelbear! I'm praying and hoping your placental issue dissolves and you and little one are healthy!

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[Eighme]

TP, would the doctor right down "normal gentials" if they knew you didn't want to know? Just wondering. When is your next scan? Hoping you and little one are good and that little one is actually a little bub for you!

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[Throwaway_panther]

I imagine, but my midwife said they will say gender even if we don't want to know just for records. And they did say on the form that they couldn't get all of cord. So idk... maybe my insistence to tech that we really not check genitals led to this? lol. Next scan is this afternoon EST!

Already just over it. lol spent all morning ignoring work to try and figure out what I'll do after this baby for a sway...