ColdWater, can you take a look please?

[JoannaK]

Thank you waiting4daisy. I haven't been on InGender in 4 days and I'm shocked and disgusted to be told that it's apparently it's still active. I truly thought people with children would be too busy to be harassing complete strangers, I'm talking about one person in particular, most people will know who I'm referring to. I'm actually having an advanced scan in two weeks, purely because of the unnecessary pain certain people have put me through. I'm still undecided whether I will post the confirmation of my girl on InGender, at this point I don't see the need, as apparently I don't even need to be talking on InGender for people ( or a particular person) to still be attacking me. Very disappointing. The thread clearly got out of control, one person in particular just can't seem to let it go, and I don't really want to hang around people like that ( this is very different to the people in the beginning that do just want the best for me and want me to be cautious etc etc etc). I left when someone was just being unnecessarily out of line

[PeonyPrincess]

Oh JoannaK, I am feeling relieved right now that my tech wouldn't give me any nub shots. What a headache. Rest up and take care of yourself and your precious baby!

[JoannaK]

I will certainly do that and yes, I've learned some very valuable lessons regarding nub shots lol. Im so glad you're relieved that you didn't get any shots because I'm guessing it must be a much more pleasant feeling than constant confusion and anxiousness!

[JoannaK]

The most important thing I've learned, after leaving that thread on ingender, was I've come to appreciate my family and children so much more, to be surrounded by good, kind people, is worth infinitely more than some nasty comments from a person whom I'll never meet in this world. And the love and appreciation I have for my unborn child, that I will be passing down my kindness and compassion for others to him/her, and my other sons. It is so much easier to be happy than to hold grudges (for me anyway). I hope my children will be the same

[JoannaK]

I think it is incredibly sad that I'm getting feedback from ingender, telling me I should be grateful that I'm even PREGNANT, when one lady was saying she has been trying since 2007 to have #2. This is what I've learned from going through the loss of a child. It is hell, it rips you apart. But it DOES NOT make you a super human, or a non-human, you come out the end of it STILL human, and being human means you still hope for a certain gender, and i don't feel bad for feeling that way! Because.... I AM HUMAN for gods sake. People need to give everyone a break, this is a JOKE!!!!

The fact that I"m no longer apart of that thread, and yet people STILL need to offer me this "well intentioned" advice is beyond crazy. I accepted the opinions of the people who guessed this baby was a boy, good for them, i have NO issue WHATSOEVER with that, so there's NO obsession there. What I'm "obsessed" with is the UNNECESSARY, hurtful comments I've received. I think people have taken this so much further than it should have gone, and that thread should have been locked... And it's very sad because instead of future people learning from this experience, it is now going to be filled with hurt feelings and inconsiderate remarks (please note, ONCE AGAIN, I do NOT include "guessing a boy" in such inconsiderate remarks). what hurt me most, is after I updated everyone and told them that my obstetrician with 80 % certainty told me this is a girl, that I had one woman on ingender tell me that "she hopes I don't grieve too much WHEN I have to repaint your wall".

I found that very hurtful, considering all she had to say was "if you have to repaint your wall". To be so self-righteous as to say WHEN to repaint your wall, how nobody can consider THAT unnecessary, I don't know. And maybe I am caring too much about that comment, but I just hope that woman realises that what she said was particularly hurtful, and this is a parent of children, that is what scares me most- these are people that are far down on the list of people that should be being so petty and childish.

That thread should have been left at "I think this is a boy joanna", to which I would say "thankyou very much, i think you're wrong, so I'll show you in 4 weeks". and that should have been that. But apparently not.

[TTC5]

Oh are they still going on about this to you?

[BeadinMom]

I wouldn't even go back to that site. There's no point. The only thing I'd go back to do is delete my pictures, if I were you.

[Butterfly Spirit]

Oh are they still going on about this to you?

They won't shut up!

[JoannaK]

My biggest issue, besides the few things that some of them are saying, is the fact that they are STILL keeping that thread active,when I made it very clear to them that I wasn't returning to that thread. It's the fact that they just can't leave me alone

[Butterfly Spirit]

Yes it's VERY inappropriate that when a moderator asks everyone to stop, they just keep going. It only reflects on the type of ladies on that site. They aren't worth you, or anyone getting so worked up to that level of stress. So I do hope at this point that the mod locks it.