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[motherofboys]

Facebook is flooded with pictures of my friends new baby boy, after 3 girls. He was born early yesterday morning. She brought him home today. She must be on cloud 9. She has a healthy baby, which is enough to be joyful about, but she also got her dream gender. He is her last as well so there were no more chances. I simply cannot imagine that feeling. I don't think its one I'm ever going to experience and its making me very tearful today. AND AF is STILL here. Day 6, its very light/spotting, but still thats longer than usual.

[foxymrsg]

Oh Hun know what you mean! Hope you're ok it's so hard as you're happy for your friend but have this feeling defo down itll never be you feeling that delight! I'm the exact same! But why can't it be us!?! We could all fall pregnant soon and all have our DG! It could be the coin landing heads up for is next time who knows! At least were all going it our best shot!
Hope AF clears off soon! Maybe this is another step to you lp evening out?

[motherofboys]

I don't know why I let it bother me what other people get. I thought I was used to it by now, other people get girls, I don't. And she got a boy, so why is it effecting me so much?! I have boys. It should be the little pink bundles that upset me.



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[Babybeaublue]

I'm exactly the same it's like when someone has all the same gender you feel a sort of solidarity with them (or relief maybe that it's not just you) but then they get an opposite and it's like you are back to being the minority again. A friend of mine is having a girl after 2 boys and I was so pissed off when I found out. How bad is that?

[motherofboys]

Maybe that it. I know someone who had 2 boys, her 2nd exactly a month older than my 3rd, and we were ttc together. She really wanted a girl. She got pregnant and had her girl, before I even managed to conceive ds4. Knowing how much she had wanted her daughter and how she is always on about how much she loves the girly stuff with her. I tried to talk to her. But it's like she doesn't remember how desperately she wanted a girl now. Kinda like how old people look at a crying toddler and tut as if their child never cried.
I hate being like this. I just keep moaning about everything lately. Sorry guys.


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[Babybeaublue]

It's fine, I think everyone here understands. This is my last chance so I think it's hitting me harder when someone else gets their dg

[motherofboys]

I'm glad that we have this place to let it out. I feel horrible enough for feeling like this, and that genders important, I'd feel so much worse if I thought I was alone in this.


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[Mrs_Incredible]

We all understand. I don't think the want, need i suppose, or panic i felt knowing this was my very last shot, will ever leave me. The memory of the sadness might fade (hopefully) but after 10 years of longing I'll always remember the impact gd has, especially the past 7 years as that's when it wasn't guaranteed we would go for #3 or #4 xx

[foxymrsg]

I love this website there is no judgement! Even for people that have their DG. They stay here as support girl others as they've been through it and remember it, which I truly appreciate!
In real life and on a other certain forum which I no longer use, not so much! As you say they forget the pain they went through and forget others are still going through it! I hope we all get our DG and I hope if I do I never forget writing this post and will still support and encourage people who are feeling the way I feel right now.
It's a horrible feeling you're feeling sad that we don't have what we want but guilty for having what others long for and not being content with just that. But you can't help feelings we are human after all and thankfully we have here to vent and realise we are not alone!

[motherofboys]

I really thought I was getting somewhere and working through it and accepting that that's how things will be. Because if I get another boy then I've just got to accept that that's how things are. I know dh said a possible 6th but I don't know if that will ever happen. And even if it does, it's not impossible to get 6 boys. And then what? And I thought I was getting there. But lately everything's just been wrong again. Why can't I just be happy?


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