Swaying after Miscarriage

[Allegra]

Thanks everyone! It's a much better day today. I think that when you're swaying m/c feels even worse bc of all the effort put into it. But here I go again finishing my mushroom pasta and drinking some sprite zero. I think we'll TTC this cycle even though I ate some meat and sweets during early pg.

Atomic: do you think FR would be better than abstinence for us? DH is 35 and is on a medication that can potentially lower sperm count.

[atomic sagebrush]

Allegra, yes I think FR would be much better for you guys than abstain.

[fresas]

I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks in March and yes, it still hurts like hell. It hurts more because just recently 3 of my friends announced their pregnancies, 1 who is due 2 days after I was supposed to have a baby. Let yourself grieve and do what you need to do to get your entire self in a healthy place. I'm so sorry for you. It hurts.

All of my doctors told me to wait at least 3 cycles just so the uterine lining can recover and hopefully become much healthier and thicker. I talked to my husband who is still on the fence about trying for a baby because I really need to finish school and with a baby, it will be much harder. This will be my 3rd cycle since miscarrying.

What was weird about my miscarriage was that it acted almost like a period. Obviously it wasn't since my hCG was close to 1000 with the first blood draw at 3 weeks + 5 days, I was having a lot of pregnancy symptoms (extreme nausea, fatigue, sore and huge boobs), and the fact my bled so heavily and with so much clotting, but I ovulated 2 weeks after miscarrying and got my period about 18 days later. That luteal phase was pretty long compared to my normal cycles, but had I not been so attentive to my body, I probably would have though I was just have been having a really gnarly, horrible cycle.

[Butterfly Spirit]

I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks in March and yes, it still hurts like hell. It hurts more because just recently 3 of my friends announced their pregnancies, 1 who is due 2 days after I was supposed to have a baby. Let yourself grieve and do what you need to do to get your entire self in a healthy place. I'm so sorry for you. It hurts.

All of my doctors told me to wait at least 3 cycles just so the uterine lining can recover and hopefully become much healthier and thicker. I talked to my husband who is still on the fence about trying for a baby because I really need to finish school and with a baby, it will be much harder. This will be my 3rd cycle since miscarrying.

What was weird about my miscarriage was that it acted almost like a period. Obviously it wasn't since my hCG was close to 1000 with the first blood draw at 3 weeks + 5 days, I was having a lot of pregnancy symptoms (extreme nausea, fatigue, sore and huge boobs), and the fact my bled so heavily and with so much clotting, but I ovulated 2 weeks after miscarrying and got my period about 18 days later. That luteal phase was pretty long compared to my normal cycles, but had I not been so attentive to my body, I probably would have though I was just have been having a really gnarly, horrible cycle.

Oh Fresas, that is so very sad! I hope that your friends keep their pregnancies on the DL.
It is so very very hard. I just am sad, then I'm furious, then sad all over again.
The morning after the ER told me I "probably had miscarried" (the doctor wasn't very nice), I visited youtube to seek out ladies and what their bodies did afterwards. I started taking Vitex and Red Raspberry Leave capsules (well they did tea I decided I can't stand tea so I did capsules) at the advice of Mocha and Atomic. I thought that would speed up the process. So day 5 of those, and so far no headache today!
So here's how mine went down: On April 17, I had red bleeding..period wasn't due until the 22nd the next three days I had pregnancy ghost lines while bleeding out like a moderate period with clots day one and 2 just one pad, day 3 like 5 pads.. so I was confused, and hcg at the clinic was 46 a couple days later. That whole week after that I just had brown discharge so I thought I was done. Then Sat I was done so DH and I BD. Next day fresh blood so I went to the ER. hcg was 500 and I thought I would be totally fine, and they gave me a rhogam shot..and a couple hours later I cramped pretty bad and bled and there was part of my mucus plug when I went pee. I thought that it was from the pelvic and transvaginal u/s. Next day was all dark old blood but Wed it was like a flow and clots so I went to the ER again and they did both U/S and pelvic. The not so nice doc said my hcg went down to 50 and my uterus was empty. I never saw the evidence though, which upsets me.. my body will probably still think it's pregnant. Even in the past few days I'm having prego symptoms, and I hate it, I just want it to end as long as there isn't another bean hiding in there

It sounds like you and I had similar miscarriages.
You had a VERY high hcg level at under 4 weeks!
I want another one badly but DH isn't going to help me
I wish you luck with your DH helping, if that's what you want to do.
Thank you for sharing your experience with me sweetie! It's SO hard!!!

[fresas]

Oh my gosh, I'm so so sorry. That is such a sad story. Cycling through various emotions, even in the same day, is totally normal, at least it was for me.

DH is willing to help in any way he can so I'm happy to have that support, but we're both worried about the financial aspects of having another baby and then so preoccupied with having another miscarriage or an unhealthy pregnancy. I have had high risk pregnancies so I have never had the chance to have an easy pregnancy, but if I am ever pregnancy again, it will be even worse. I hope I'm not sounding so negative. I'm just very scared.

The hCG was high! My progesterone was 4.1 with the 1000 hCG draw. I think this is why my doctors still feel the pregnancy was unhealthy to begin with. I just wish I could get answers.

I hope your husband can have a change of heart about assisting with a sway in some way for you. I hope you find peace soon, too.