Due March/April/May 2017 (2)

[baby2016baby]

Baby2016, sorry your sister was so rude. Does she have kids?

Yes my sister has my nephew. He's an only child. My sister is on her own and she's really struggled with being a mam.

My daughter's adore him and i know they are going to be gutted. Whenever we have joked with the older two, they say "only if it's a boy mam" and "I dont want another sister" which is why we have held off telling them. I'm not strong enough to deal with them upset too when I'm still not coping myself. I had my nephew over yesterday and it was so lovely, the girls adore him, I cried when he went home.

[Lissastick]

Magical, did you get gender confirmed after all?

Lissa glad to see you pop up! How are you feeling?

I'm feeling pretty nauseous still! Haha. And still pretty worried about losing the baby. I am still not letting myself be happy.

Only two weeks now until the blood test!

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[jenren]

Yes my sister has my nephew. He's an only child. My sister is on her own and she's really struggled with being a mam.

My daughter's adore him and i know they are going to be gutted. Whenever we have joked with the older two, they say "only if it's a boy mam" and "I dont want another sister" which is why we have held off telling them. I'm not strong enough to deal with them upset too when I'm still not coping myself. I had my nephew over yesterday and it was so lovely, the girls adore him, I cried when he went home.

I'm sorry my oldest ds tells me daily he wants a sister. Whenever I say it might be a boy he says "no I don't want another brother":/

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[Burakoam]

so sorry jen and baby..you are not alone...it seems once you hit the 4 kid mark with one gender the others are really adamant NO MORE unless its finally a brother or a sister...Jen i know you took that sneak peak test right? you havent had a scan yet? if so im still holding out hope for you.

[All*blue*everything]

My boys are desperate for this baby to be a girl one of them has told their teacher and whole class that I am pregnant with a girl, ive explained to him that we don't know if it is a girl and he burst into tears saying but I really want it to be a girl, bless them, that's another reason i want to wait til delivery to find out gender I figure everyone will fall in love with the baby and be so happy its here safe that the gender won't matter x

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[jenren]

so sorry jen and baby..you are not alone...it seems once you hit the 4 kid mark with one gender the others are really adamant NO MORE unless its finally a brother or a sister...Jen i know you took that sneak peak test right? you havent had a scan yet? if so im still holding out hope for you.

Yes it was a sneak peak but last week my midwife did an us on an old machine she has and although we couldn't get a potty shot she said she would bet it was a boy. At the end she said maybe girl but most likely a boy. My scan is in one week

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[Burakoam]

And i know you dont wanna hold out hope hon i understand why but just know i am rooting for you that maybe her 'maybe' will be the correct guess. one more week till you know for sure! my ultrasound is on saturday....

[jenren]

And i know you dont wanna hold out hope hon i understand why but just know i am rooting for you that maybe her 'maybe' will be the correct guess. one more week till you know for sure! my ultrasound is on saturday....

Awww thanks! Good luck at your scan Saturday. I'll be thinking of you

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[jdd1017]

I cried at my checkup yesterday. The midwife asked what I was having since it wasn't written down so I had to tell her boy and just started crying. For some reason saying it out loud is so hard, it's final and definite, no hope left that someone screwed up and it's a girl. Hadn't met her before so great first impression. By some miracle she has two boys and is done having kids so she could at least relate. It was still probably pretty shocking to her considering here she was telling me everything looked great at the anatomy scan and I have a healthy little baby, and there I was completely indifferent. She wants me to try therapy so I can start enjoying this pregnancy. I guess I could try a couple sessions, but I feel like it will be a waste of time and money


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Lindz, don't feel bad-after my NT scan when we found out we were having a boy I had tears in my eyes while I was getting my lab drawn-pretty sure the lab tech thought I was prob terrified of needles haha. Then I proceeded to cry in the waiting room and in the patient room. I wasn't crying enough for anyone to say anything, just tears in my eyes that I quickly wiped away but it was still awful. I too acted completely indifferent when the OB was telling me my scan looked great. All I cared about was getting out of the office so I could finally let loose and sob like I wanted to. It was honestly one of the hardest things I have ever done, holding it together for that hour until I was out the door of the office.

I have thought about telling my OB that I want to get on depression meds due to GD, but he is a male and I just feel like he wouldn't understand GD

[jdd1017]

Hi everyone, I am new to this site. I am due with my third baby boy on April 2 (I will have a third c-section so it will be sometime during week 39). I have been feeling so heartbroken and angry since finding out I am having another boy. I know that my husband does not want anymore children but honestly one of the only things getting me through right now is thinking about doing IVF with PGD for a daughter in a couple of years- even though I know it is too expensive for us and my husband will refuse. I also don't know much about it as I just learned about it this weekend through research online. I just feel like I need something to give me hope. Just goes to show how futile and relentless hope can be. I don't know why I can't just be happy and accept that I will have three boys. I truly feel like I have lost my daughter, even though she was never real. I can't let her go and it's tearing me apart. Thank you listening and I pray we can all find some peace that are struggling with GD.


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Welcome Dreams4Violet! I am so so sorry to hear about your DS#3 You are not alone, there are so many of us in this group that have gotten sway opposites. If you ever need to talk, feel free to message me! I too recently found out I am pregnant with DS3. I can honestly say it has probably been one of the most heartbreaking things I have ever experienced. I feel like I lost a child, even though she was never there. I imagined what she would look like, how I would raise her to be strong and smart and independent, I imagined doing fun girl things together when she becomes an adult, and eventually being there for her when she has her first baby and is exhausted and struggling and thinks she is failing.That's just the tip of the iceberg on the things that I will miss out on now that I will never have a girl. I feel like everyone thinks I wanted a girl so I had a baby to dress up, and yes-that is definitely part of it haha-but there is so much more that I will never have. I see people with more than one daughter and I think "why not me, I just wanted one girl"! I have heard the term "boy mom" thrown around a lot lately, like it's a badge of honor. But I can't seem to embrace it...and to be honest, I'm not sure if I ever will.

I guess I am trying to say, I understand what you are going through. I hope that, in time, all of us can accept the hand we were dealt and learn to be happy with it. But I know for me, it will take a very long time to get to that point...